Good morning and Merry Christmas everyone!!
My friend and I exchanged Christmas presents. She bought me some jewelry which is not my style at all. However I wore it and pretended to love it, but the reality is I will probably never wear it again because its just not me and doesnt suit any of my clothes (Its really for an older woman and I kinda like more boho jewelry).
The dilemma is for a couple of reasons. Firstly and most importantly, my friend and I have a policy of NEVER lying to each other - we tell each other the truth no matter how uncomfortable or painful, we will phrase it delicately or sensitively if need be. The other reason is that I wouldnt want her to be fooled into thinking that I liked that kind of jewelry in case she wastes her money buying another in a similar style.
Was I wrong to have lied to her? If I should have been honest, how should I have phrased it??
2006-12-24 16:51:27 · 31 answers · asked by Chimera's Song 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell her the truth, if you feel you'd never find occasion to wear that piece of jewelry again. I'm sure she'd rather know the truth, than know that something she gave you, is sitting in a corner somewhere collecting dust, because you don't wear it.
Tell her that although it's a beautiful piece of jewelry, that it isn't your style.
2006-12-24 16:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have a very close open and honest relationship with your friend and you both agree to be honest with each other. so tell her in a nice way by inviting her out for coffee and show her the sort of style you like. You are right to say that if she has spent a lot of money on this and if you don't say, she may do it again thinking you like what she gave you. A good friend would understand and may still have the receipt to change and get something you like. When I buy presents for my friends, I like to know if they like it and if they did not I am happy to take it back and ask what would they prefer. The whole point of friendship is to get to know that person, their pet hates, likes and loves. To grow together and know each other. merry christmas!
2006-12-25 00:39:55 · answer #2 · answered by b1uecee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard... Everyone gets into these situations. But I would say you did the right thing. Just be happy about the thought of giving you a gift and not specifically what the gift is. I would say wear it one more time just to show her you didn't just throw it away and then do what you want with it.
I have a friend that gets me XXL (I wear medium or small) bright ugly t-shirts every holiday and I hate them to death but he's a good friend and it is thoughtful of him to even get me anything.
Good Luck! Merry X-mas!
2006-12-24 16:56:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps, you should tell her the truth, but be careful. Don't offend your friend. Think of a form how to hint. Imagine yourself on her place. You've bought her the present she doesn't like and she tells you the truth in a rude form. I doubt that you'll stay real friends after that. There are no too much real friends in the world. Take care of them and be wise.
Happy Christmas!!!
2006-12-24 18:04:29 · answer #4 · answered by Marina S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have an honesty pact with her, then you should be honest.
Tell her it's reall y pretty but it's just not your style. maybe you can go back and exchange it together.
When I buy a gift for a good friend or family member, I want them to have something they like and can use. and I think I would be more offended if they put whatever away and never used it, than to just tell me it wasn't right for them so we could fix it together. She would want you to have something you will enjoy..
2006-12-24 17:06:40 · answer #5 · answered by Kismitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not the gift so much as the thought that counts--what you do if you are afraid she will continue this trend or style is the next few times you are out together shopping is to point out the styles you like --you don't have to be obvious just you know point out a few pieces--As far as the Thank-you part --you could have just said Thank you --you are always so thoughtful --and left it at that you didnt have to say OH I LOVE THIS__
2006-12-24 16:59:06 · answer #6 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already answered you own question. You should tell her the truth and ask her if she still keeps the receipt she and you can go together to exchange it. I think she will not like what you have to say but will appreciate your honesty and try harder to buy stuff for you that better suited. Good luck!
2006-12-24 16:55:25 · answer #7 · answered by stars 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have thought that once or twice too and then suddenly I had the perfect thing to wear with it......keep your mouth shut and go on a shopping spree, take it with you to a clothing store you really like and ask one of the sales people to help you find something you like that ties in with the jewelry.....
2006-12-24 16:55:17 · answer #8 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-28 08:01:34 · answer #9 · answered by pour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh this is never easy. Just tell her that you really appreciate the present, and explain to her that it just isn't your 'style'. It never is too late to do the right thing. You need to explain to her that you didn't want to hurt her feelings, but it just isn't something you think you'd wear. Merry Christmas! -Alyssa
2006-12-24 16:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋