A friend in need...?

Question

i have a friend who is attracted to girls. I am in no way biased or homophobic of any sort ( i'm very comfortable with my sexuality).

I do, however, feel uncomfortable around her sometimes because she has hit on me in the past, which I have confronted her about, but it hasn't helped.

She has recently gotten out of a bad relationship, and i would like to be there for her, but I'm afraid she might get the wrong idea.

I know she still has feelings for me, so how can I help in her time of need without putting myself in an uncomfortable situation?

Thanx all! :)

y r u stalking me, Ali-whatever-ur name is? I don't need to explain anything to u. I ask these questions out of curiosity, not because i have to. Maybe ur the one who's "insecure and unattractive" As u can read, I'm having trouble keeping girls off me, so believe me, I have no prob. with my looks. All I can s

Answer 1

Just tell her up front, I care for you as a friend only, and I will be there for you when you are hurting, but fiends are where I draw the line, if you can not accept it then I will not be around you.......

Answer 2

Ur that Spanish lady who wants Indian guys lolz, u aint realistic enough, most Indians guys prefer their own because they have same understanding, same mentaliity, charateristics, etc, most interracial relationships dnt work, thats prove fact, i aint even bothered to honest its just im try to be realistic, if u like another culture that dont mean u date their men (lol), there all sorts of cultures which are fascanating, but its proven fact if a girl wants someonf from another culture tis cuz she aint secure and attractive, if u aint slim, tall light skinned or pretty then u aint attractive, if anything Indian guys r the most cunning ever , if ur westernised then meetign Indian guys will be difficualy , dnt matter if they born in West, their culture attitude, metallity will always be different and they prefer their own, speciallit if there muslim, and if not still their family dnt want their men with a cacusian cuz dey still want to keep their indenity and roots, unlike Spanish and Americans who dnt have idenity.

Answer 3

Try talking to her with ease and if you two are together then try to avoid looking into her eyes because that might draw attention and attraction to her from you. And just talk to her and let her know that you know what she's going through and tell her that you have her back no matter what. And try to explain to her that your not attracted to girls and you just enjoy being her friend and nothing more. But when you tell her, say it in a way that she can understand. And tell her your emotions so she can know where your coming from too.

Answer 4

How about if she wants to talk to you, you tell her you will meet her somewhere that is very "public" open to all people, outside of your home. If she says she would still like to have a"relationship" with you tell her you can but only as friends--------nothing sexual-hopefully she will respect your wishes. If she will not then just tell her because you have discussed this several times and she is not willing to be only friends then as much as you hate to lose her as a friend you cannot be her friend.

Answer 5

ONCE AGAIN tell her whats up......if she makes you uncomfortable and doesnt listen kic ha to the curb she should respect you and yur feelings......explain to her

Answer 6

u need to tell her that u are not a lesbian but that u are still her friend and that the friendship will have to be ended if she can't respect that.

Answer 7

If she likes you and she is bisexual run away from her ! Otherwise you won't be helping at all!

Answer 8

Be honest with her and tell her that you will be there for support.