I have been nice to my husband's family and they have been nasty people to me.(and the thing that bothers me is,i would stick up for him if my family said anything nasty about him and he doesn't do that for me)when i was pregnant with his baby they were being mean to me and I forgave them and now we live in Florida and I never talk to them and they are still talking **** about me to him.What do I do?
2006-12-24 15:07:13 · 11 answers · asked by poohtiggeroo2003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to tell your husband how you feel and then let his family know that you didn't marry his family, you married him and if they don't like you than it don't matter because they don't send you to the bathroom-and if that make them angry-oh well tough titty but the milk is still good-if you live in Florida now and they are still talking about you at least you know that you are being though of-it is up to you to stop him and if he don't stop than you let him know that you don't want to have anything to do with his family-because they two faced people-maybe they are angry because you are not the girl they wanted him to marry-he made the decision to marry you now tell him that he need to let his family know that-bottom line
2006-12-24 15:27:07 · answer #1 · answered by brown sugar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any idea why they are behaving this way? When the two of you were dating, did they act like this? If you can't think of anything you did or said to contribute to their attitude, then ask your husband to speak w/them. He should stick up for you and tell his parents that you and he are bothered and hurt by their behavior/treatment of you. It is very unpleasant to be in this situation, particularly if you've never done anything to deserve it.
But, if I were you I'd speak to my husband firmly and demand that he begin to stand up for you. You two are a family and he owes you this! You could always try speaking with your mother-in-law on your own, too, even 'tho that might not be the answer you want.
Good luck!
2006-12-24 15:12:58 · answer #2 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your husband and make sure that there are rules about what inlaws say about a spouse. He is married to you so he should not allow them to talk about you. These people don't pay your bills so they shouldn't have anything to say about what you and your husband do. Some families just have to talk about someone or pick on someone to make themselves feel more important. And some families just thrive on drama. But, they are his family so pick and choose your battles. Good luck!
2006-12-24 15:24:16 · answer #3 · answered by krash 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being nasty to them would be the naturally thing to do, but it's also pretty immature. It's very immature of his family to treat you in such a way. Find out if maybe there's something they are holding against you and try to correct it. Otherwise, just go on being nice to them. No point in getting dirty with them...it'll just make you look bad.
2006-12-24 15:10:36 · answer #4 · answered by artsycasey 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that as your husband, it is his duty to protect you and that may mean putting his family in their place! If he won't do that.... I've got some bad news for you concerning the rest of the marriage..... it's gonna suck 'cause your hubby is a wimp who won't stand up to people to protect his family and he leaves you vulnerable to that kind of treatment.
Sue
2006-12-24 15:10:20 · answer #5 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my husband that if he wants to listen to that trash and not defend me, then he could go live with them and send the support check weekly.
2006-12-24 15:10:07 · answer #6 · answered by classic 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ignore them and keep your distance, and don't let them see the baby, sometimes we have to keep away from people who hurt us. he may be he afraid to speak up to his family, not wanting to fight or argue, but it must hurt that he doesn't stick up for u.
2006-12-24 15:12:36 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore it. Be the better person. Plaster a smile on your face and know that someday they will get what they deserve...
2006-12-24 15:09:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ignore it as much as possible....when they say bad things dont respond just look at your husband....hopefully they will get the point.....if not then dont spend time with them.....period
2006-12-24 22:43:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
girl let them know to shut that **** up unleast they gone say it to your face and if they do let them HAVE IT
2006-12-24 15:15:31 · answer #10 · answered by Chevorlet M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋