The guy I love have known for many years. We have grown up together and see each other only sometines during the year. Every time we see each other its like we just want it to be us and noone else around us. I love him and I know that I am only making myself sad by loving him since I wont see him until I dont know when. My family doesnt know how I feel except my sister knows how I feel about him. He is my exboyfriend but he is the guy I am in love with. Whenever he is around me I get butterflies in my stomach. I saw him finally after many months of anticipating and the sparks were there once again. I don't know what to do. This is the guy I love, the man of my dreams, my everything. It hurts me so much when he leaves because i know that I don't know how long it will be to the next time I see him. I can call him, and we can write letters back and fourth but we dont see each other and it hurts me so much. What do you think I should do becuase the next time I see him I dont want him to go
2006-12-24 14:45:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
you should just tell him how you feel. but what is the reason that you don't see him for so long? is he in school somewhere? if so, maybe you should think about that school. but all in all, the best idea would be to tell him. if your feelings are that strong, then he should have a right to know them. my fiance left for work one summer and i had feelings so strong that i just HAD to tell him, so i did. we've been together ever since. it can't hurt anything to tell him because even if he says he doesn't feel the same, then fine, move on, atleast you were brave enough to say it though. i have faith in you. follow your heart.
2006-12-25 13:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by Alicia Mae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to try to let him go sweatheart. If he doesn't want to be your b/f and won't even let you know when you can see him again, then there is nothing that you can do.
Was he the first boy that you had sex with or the first boy that sex was wonderful with? That would make it even harder. Are you are afraid that it will never be as good with someone else?
It will never be the same but that doesn't mean that it won't be better. I'm 63 y/o now. I still remember when I was 26 y/o and the first woman that I loved and that loved me in return, said it was over. I still have a warm spot in my heart for her but none of the pain that I used to feel.
There were were 2 other women that I had that kind of relationship with that the relationship didn't last. It hurts to break up and it's hard to let the other person go, but you have to.
After the other 2 women I met my wife and thought that I was finally done with the finding someone and breaking up process.
Wrong! After 17 years I became physically disabled and it was too much for my wife.
I thought I would never get over that but here it is 5 years later and I'm glad she left me. Her and I are friends and it doesn't hurt to see her. Don't get me wrong, I would have loved for my marriage to work and for us to have been happy together but it didn't work out that way.
I share this about myself to give you some perspective. There is more than 1 person for you to love and to love you in return. It hurts like hell to have a love relationship end but it won't feel that way forever.
There is a process of grieving that you will go through and the LAST stage is acceptance of the loss. If you can get into some type of grief group or some type of support group that will help you a lot.
The thing that will help the most is when you find someone else. I know that that is the last thing in your mind right now, but it will happen. Just be sure that you give yourself enough time to grieve so that you don't give your heart to the next boy too soon. Actually, it helps to not have sex with him untill you really get to know him, get to know that he really cares for you and that the 2 of you are compatable for a long term (marriage) relationship. Having sex on a regular basis with someone can produce strong bonding feelings that are meant to happen after we get married, not before.
Unfortunately I didn't learn that untill after I went through a lot of heartache that I might have avoided. God bless you and may He let you experience, this Christmas season, some of His infinate love for you.
2006-12-25 06:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Poor soul. I would say, ask him, for a start. If this is a mutual thing, maybe you two can come up with something. Or tell someone in the family. But I'm really sorry, because if you are actually that far, there may be nothing that you can do, in which case you will have to figure out whether you can wait. I know it's hard (same thing here, except he don't know at all) but if there's no way to increase contact, then either hold on tight til things change, or move on. I wish you the best.
2006-12-25 01:25:43 · answer #3 · answered by bananabreath247 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First how old are you, this is an important part of being able to answer this question. if your 16 or older its more of a young love thing, but if your younger it is probably that you are such good friends that you just miss him terribly. I remember those feelings and it is very hard to get through. But I wish I would have known the difference between my best friend and being in love. I married the guy that i felt that way about from the time i was 13. Needless to say we are divorced but when I look back i know that he was my best friend growing up. Give yourself time and you will find out the difference. Good luck and those butterflys are the excitement and anticipation of seeing your best friend.
2006-12-25 12:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you don't see him much and if you really loved him you would find a way to be with him but unless you know hes being true to you and you will be together soon then don't wait you will never find true love that way
2006-12-25 15:17:53 · answer #5 · answered by jackie b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should see other man close and try to get over the other man because it will only keep hurting if you hold on.
2006-12-24 23:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by sillygoosetonda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find out what he feels about you and if the feelings are mutual drop hint of such,if not then let go because it will only hurt you more
2006-12-25 01:09:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
aaww! thats like me and my boyfriend abhey...we had a long distance relationship, and now we r planning our wedding! it's gonna be ok, if you tell him how you feel =)
good luck!
2006-12-25 09:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
llet him know that you cant be with out him or you mite go crazy
2006-12-24 23:16:10 · answer #9 · answered by ~*~Dis Chick Iz Delicious~*~ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him what you told us
2006-12-26 08:16:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋