My wife of 18 years ran off with a lowlife guy about 4 years ago. This past summer I divorced her and she is still with him. I got everything including 70% of joint custody of our 13 year old daughter. We do keep in contact on a friendly level and have no ex drama. The problem is I still love her deep down in my heart and hope that someday she will still bring her senses around and realize she left a good husband. Should I totally move on as I have or just see what happens as far as her love ever returning for me. Trust me she is not anymore happier or in a better home or relationship than she was with me.
2006-12-24 13:52:49 · 25 answers · asked by Karl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"Keeping tabs on her" will only make you hurt more. And it's not good for anyone. In my opinion she doesn't deserve you because of what she did, and you should move on. It's ok if you love her, deep down, but don't hurt yourself even more trying to get her back. Even though you're the best guy for her, she obviously doesn't know, and if she did, she'd still be stupid and run off and hurt even more people.
2006-12-24 14:06:40 · answer #1 · answered by Yalena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many of the problems you may be facing could be just the tip of the iceberg on what is really happening in your marriage. I dont mean to scare you but many problems when they either first show up or if they keep reoccurring could be just whats showing from a larger problem that either you or your spouse cannot even see. One of the only things you can do to help is to talk honestly and openly with each other in the marriage. If things become more serious more serious options need to be looked at as possibilities. I have a blog that has more information on some of what I've been writing about. If you feel like checking it out I would completly suggest it. Read here https://tr.im/Jotgr
Love is a choice that is made everyday when you wake up and every night when you go to sleep. Some days you may not feel the original feeling but love isnt a feeling or an emotion. Its an action a verb. Falling out of love may just mean you need to spice things up a little or that you were never in love in the first place. Don't just get out of a marriage just because you don't think you like the person anymore.
2016-07-19 00:06:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad things happen to good people and I think that's what happened to you.If she was to come back in the near future you may find that she has changed in many ways after being with someone Else.These changes may be for the better but can you deal with knowing what has happened and let the past stay in the past.These are very hard things to do and it would take someone very special to forgive and forget.I think I would just be friends and let the past go because as it stands now there is more chance of heart ache than reconciliation.
2006-12-24 14:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh yes definitely, you should pine away for her and sit by the window for endless days and nights hoping that she will come back to you, in fact, i think you should start stalking her too, that will really let her know how much of a desperate loser you really are.
sorry, that was sarcasm
not the truth
move on, 4 years of hope is 5 years too many, she took off, i don't even see why you are bothering being friendly with her, move on and find someone new, someone that will treat you right, someone that knows about honor and loyalty and stuff like that
2006-12-24 14:51:53 · answer #4 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have u ever tried to talk to her, maybe she is humiliated by the way she left u, and what she did to u,that she could never approach u even if it were on her mind. maybe she feels she made her bed and has to sleep in it. if she isn't happy perhaps u need to be the first one to approach her about how u feel about her. maybe she doesn't know. time is wasting so make a move asap if u love her go take her back from this low life.
2006-12-24 14:58:57 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most.(not all) ex's who try to remain freindly keep one another from moving on with their lives....You need to move one...if she is no happier yet stays with this guy..she has some serious issues...how could you ever trust your relationship w/her if she did end up back with you......Let her go......You deserve to find happiness ....and it would be good for your daughter .....now she is learning (from watching) that you stay in bad situations even when you are not happy.....
Move on for her...
2006-12-24 14:08:46 · answer #6 · answered by Lrn'dTheHardWay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-22 15:38:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on .Any one that can leave her child is not worth waiting for . And if she came back to you she would just leave again when the mood hit her .
Don't let her back around her daughter find some one with great morals .
God bless .
2006-12-24 14:00:11 · answer #8 · answered by Elaine814 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just let her go and find a nice woman who is worthy of your love . My ex left me also and I am so glad . He did me a favor and she did you one too. Thank god for your daughter and move on. I am looking for a good guy like you!
2006-12-24 14:23:36 · answer #9 · answered by Back Off Jack ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you move on with your new life without her, you will continue to be in this situation wondering whether you should or should not keep track of her. You are still allowing your ego to affect your life. Let go.
2006-12-24 14:05:01 · answer #10 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋