He says that those words are extremely abused. Once in awhile I think I can see it in his actions, but for the most part I don't know any better if he does. Let me know, should I stay or should I go? I am looking for the rest of my life and I think a year is a pretty good length of time to know whether or not he will or will not commit to me. How do I give him a last wake up call before I step on? Any advice???
2006-12-24 13:51:07 · 13 answers · asked by laurameetsworld 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell me something..what is your age?? If you are under 30 move on!
If you are 30-35 give him an ultimatum of what you need..and be prepared to walk if he is not interested in improving....
If you r over 35 and fat or not very pretty...keep him til u find a new love...then leave him...
If he is really hot he's just not that into you...If he is balding he is ready to settle down he just doesn't know how to treat you. If he has money, you need to improve on your looks. ..that's the only reason men hesitate on anything...you may have to tone up that body!!
2006-12-24 14:02:40 · answer #1 · answered by Mee-OW =^..^= 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A year is not enough to know of you are going to spend the rest of your life with someone. Maybe he doesn't want to be pressured into saying that he loves you. Give it time. Get to really know each other. I have been married about a year now and I'm still learning things about my wife.
2006-12-24 13:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind that I'm not in a good frame of mind right now but your guy sounds like an emotionally vacant loser.
I know why guys think they should act like this, it's because they've been trained by our society to. Men are supposed to be strong, supposed to be leaders, supposed to be alpha males. Additionally, many women have added fuel to the fire by dumping men who express their fellings because it comes off as weak.
Screw that! I express myself to the people I love. I never want a day to go by without that person knowing it. If they don't like it, or can't handle it - then I don't need them in my life.
Tell him the straight up truth - that you want to hear it as often as he feels it. Tell him how good it makes you feel. Tell him that if he doesn't - you're left wondering if he loves you at all.
Make it clear though that you only want to hear it as much as he feels it. The results will tell you who you are with.
Best. D.
2006-12-24 13:58:40 · answer #3 · answered by derek985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're saying you have a job, thats good. Do you pay any of the expenses? If no longer initiate procuring something. Or pay for all of the groceries. pass procuring via your self (or take your daughter). Being autonomous is doing issues for your self. no longer asking to pass with him while he does pass out. so which you ought to do here on my own (or which comprise your daughter). pass procuring, pass to pals/kin, will pay expenses. if your motor vehicle must be looked at, call the mechanic your self. do no longer ask your bf to restoration the motor vehicle or for him to call the mechanic. If something around the residing house desires fixing, like changing a lightbulb, you do it, somewhat of waiting for him too. You doing issues on your individual is basically no longer leaving him out of your existence to the place he could ought to locate somebody else. you're able to nicely be autonomous and nonetheless spend time with one yet another. Even those issues you do via youself, as quickly as in awhile it won't harm to ask him to connect you.
2016-11-23 15:59:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you don't know what'sin his mind. But words are proofs that he loves you and it is sweet to hear it. YOu should tell him what you feel. Maybe he is the type of person who shows loves through other ways and not by words. Check his background also. maybe he haven't experienced or feel to have someone tell hinm that he loves him. Rely on Jesus Christ. God Bless You!!
2006-12-24 13:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by Mari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think sometimes its actions, not words that show love. If your not sure about the relationship, why not take a break? If its meant to be, you will be together, if not, as cliche as it sounds, there are more fish in the sea.
2006-12-24 13:56:01 · answer #6 · answered by di12381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my bf know i love him, and i know he loves me. but it makes me feel so good to be reminded at least once a day of this. and it is always said with feeling. and i love the way his beautiful brown eyes light up when i say it to him.
god i love him. oh and do you tell your bf you love him? if he doesn't say it back that's wrong. tell him to get over it or get out. love should be shared with words and actions, not one or the other.
happy holidays.
2006-12-24 15:20:03 · answer #7 · answered by 1 Hott Mami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...let's see...do you want to spend the rest of your life with a man who doesn't say I love you.....or who doesn't show you consistently that he does???? I sure wouldn't...good luck
2006-12-24 13:53:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A simple test might be to explain to him that it is important to you to hear him affirm his affection. He should be willing. If he's not willing to do something small that to you is big... he's small. I tell my wife I love her, daily (at least).
2006-12-24 14:00:29 · answer #9 · answered by berrenda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make a big deal of it.You don,t want him too attached.Do you?Also it can make a date kind of awkward.I'm young. Really young but I kno.
2006-12-24 13:56:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋