How did you and your husband decide to have children? did both of you assume you both wanted children, or did one partner have to ask the other? did anyone ever have a conflict with their spouse over having children?
2006-12-24 13:30:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
My wife and I have been married for 34 years and were unable to have children.
She lost, to a miscarriage, twin boys in 1977.
I have always assured her that it wasn't her fault and that I loved her.
I have never told her it is the one great disappointment in my life.
And I never will.
2006-12-25 01:29:29 · answer #1 · answered by drg5609 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my husband for 10 years and he desparately wants children. I convinced him to wait until I finished school and now that I'm done he's ready. I feel like if I don't ever have kids I won't be disappointed but I would like to have one. Sometimes we argue and that scares me. Be absolutely sure that you want this and if you have any doubt, now is not the time.
2006-12-24 21:45:05 · answer #2 · answered by ShaSha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We both wanted kids, but my wife is 5 years older and was pushing me into marriage and kids before I was ready. It's not a course of action I recommend, and I think (that even though it is currently considered "icky") that women should marry a man that is 5 to 10 years older and more established. If I had to do it over again I wouldn't have married at such a young age and I wouldn't have married her.
2006-12-24 21:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I already had 2 boys when we met, he didn't want any children until he met them and then we both decided to leave it up to god to decide if we were gonna have more(up until #4 that is) and two years later we had our daughter and 12 months after that our 3rd son.
2006-12-24 21:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by pitas4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only answer your question with a comment.....rather than an answer...
My husband and I (of 12 years) Have NO children.....we like kids....just love the lifestyle of having the freedom it allows to not have them either...
2006-12-24 21:41:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were open to life. After our fourth child, I was not willing to have another. This attitude I regret. I was not in great shape spiritually, emotionally, or mentally. And I just stopped having sexual relations. This was diasterous.
2006-12-24 21:35:52 · answer #6 · answered by Xpi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We discussed the matter fully. He wanted one and I wanted three. We compromised on two but only ended up with one.
2006-12-24 21:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This, along with on whole hell of a lot of things, should be decided BEFORE you get married. Else you have no business GETTING married....
2006-12-24 21:33:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋