2006-12-24 13:08:25 · 13 answers · asked by peace 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Have you ever considered that someone else compares themselves to you ?they see your attributes and think I would like to be like her/him, ....You see this can never be because they are not you they have not had the same experiences as you ,the same family, schooling ,friends ....the things of life that make you unique, there is no one in this world just like you and there is no one just like your friends....so why try and compare, indeed there can be no basis for a comparison, ...it would be a total wast of time ...you are You,... created by God to be unique....and you are...be glad that some people maybe smarter than you, taller, prettier,dumber, accept that you are YOU .........you are missing nothing... let others be who they are and be glad for them .........for you are You..... unique !
2006-12-24 14:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by Vivian X 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting question, but it's difficult for me to comprehend why people ever start. We never really can, you see, because we aren't in "their shoes." They may have a thing, or things we'd like to have, or there's some aspect of their appearance, or personality that we admire. But they could feel the same about us. I'll never forget the impact of seeing a man in rags, no legs, sitting in an old wheelchair in front of the PO. We chatted for awhile, & he was happier, more at peace than many others running around on both feet, grousing about everything. I don't believe in one thing being "better" or "worse" than the other. I believe there's a balance, & because we'll never, ever know the total "circle" of another person's experiences & attitude, how can we compare? YES. Of course I know that lots of people do compare--but what in the heck difference does it ever make?
2006-12-24 13:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by Psychic Cat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Indeed their is. Unfortunately the vast majority can neither see it or accept it even if carefully explained. People measure new information with the fundamental tools they already have. When these fundamentals are flawed (and they are if other people's opinions determine your self esteem) those tools will reject new ideas that conflict with them. Thus, behavior and conditions seem unchangeable.
The process is one that requires a reconstruction of some fundamental perceptions, starting with responsibility, and developing an identity that is measured by your own opinion of yourself rather than the opinions of others. Certainly not something that can be explained here.
2006-12-24 13:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by spiritgide41 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone can stop comparing themselves to others completely. No matter how comfortable you are in your own skin, it's only natural that you see something else in others that you spend a little too long thinking about.
As long as it doesn't control what you think of yourself and how you live your life, then the comparing thing should still be pretty healthy, I think.
2006-12-24 14:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by aircompass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. The secret? Learn to love yourself. Learn to honor and accept yourself as the greatest, most unique person in the universe. Love yourself as you are, without judgment. If you can learn this, then you will find that comparisons with others just don't exist. There is no reason to compare because there is no judgment about others. They are what they are. And you are what you are. This applies to everything. You are perfect just the way you are. Believe it and believe in yourself.
2006-12-24 13:50:04 · answer #5 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is... simply stop doing it.
Comparing yourself to others creates jealousy. envy and a big debt on your credit card so that you can have the same things than they have.
We are competing with each other in order to have the best looking house, the best car, the biggest television, the fastest computer, the best holiday, etc...
And all it does... it stressing us out when we cannot repay the credit card. I stopped doing this non-sense a long time ago.
2006-12-24 14:32:09 · answer #6 · answered by Aussies-Online 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Comparing to others is normal.
but someitmes you must stand on a solid ground, not to be affected by others, don't let others drive you negative.
The biggest problem that makes us feel bad when comparing to other is lack of self-confidence. Try to build it up, and maybe try to think in another way, if someone has something that we like, we can appreciate, and think how we can achieve it. if someone own something that we don't have, try to learn his way to get it. This would make you feel better.
2006-12-24 14:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by Caring Girl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Anatomically? The long and the short of it is to learn how to make the best you can with what you have mentally,physically and spiritually. I live alone now and find great comfort in that fact. Less is more? If you cannot learn to live with yourself than how can you live with anyone else?
2006-12-24 13:36:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Impossible, unless u go and live on an island. 'In some way' we need to copy attitudes, manner, etc from others, or at least try to act in a way that is acceptable by other human beings.
2006-12-24 18:53:14 · answer #9 · answered by Tune 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope, because we all feel the urge to do better then others, or to flaunt what we have better then others, and of course when we feel low, compare ourselves as a lesser.
2006-12-24 13:15:21 · answer #10 · answered by Cory W 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋