My counterpart and i have hit a rough patch after a year of dating things have gotten dull! bolth of us tought about cheating! his intrest has waind. we got a chance to talk before anything happend on ether side and we have decided to take a step back we have decided that it would be ok to hang out with other people on dates and stuff but the real point is to bring friendship and intrest back to our relationship! i would like to know some things i can do to make the time we r together really grate both in bed and out! good dating ideas and ways to spice things up. its hard to do because my daughter is only 2 months old and im a really busy mom! I want to know how to really grab his intrest and show him im still the same person he fell inlove with!
2006-12-24 11:45:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why not try different positions, add things to the bedroom like toys or lotions_
2006-12-24 11:48:06 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you two were to focus more on the communication issues that would happen on it's own naturally. we kept saying we were going to do this, try that, and it never worked because we weren't necessarily on the same page about what it was that we thought we should try. i had to realize that if i'd implement some of what she'd been talking about in the past, plus step up my own aggression instead of following or going with the flow things may change. it just happened on it's own after a while of not having done anything, for no particular reason just that we'd gotten away from it for a period of time. stepping back and bringing other people into it, in hopes that the friendship might either make things interesting again, or at least allow you to digress to a comfort zone of sorts isn't necessarily the answer. your relationship has to progress to a place where it exists outside of what happens in the bedroom. all you'll do is try stuff with other people, with them pushing and pulling you in different directions to do different things and dealing with their issues. if you're lucky you'll learn something from those experiences to bring something new to it, if you two decide to go there again, but i doubt that your relationship could withstand whatever jealousy might come about with the disclosure. figure out what you want, alone, without the input or influence of your former SO. write a list and then bring it together to see what the other person wants and needs. if you can deal with the differences between what the two of you are into, what you fantasize about, what you long for, if you can come to some meeting place or compromise then it's worth giving it another try. if not you two may not be truly compatible in that way to begin with, though you may be better off as friends.
2006-12-24 11:57:26 · answer #2 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it in a different room of the house, at a different time of day. It's surprising how much of a difference that makes!
Play a game, like strip poker (or strip chocolate) - this provides some uncertainty, which can make it seem like your first time all over again!
Buy a costume. You can easily find a Catholic school uniform for sale, and costume stores sell realistic nurse and cheerleader outfits, too. Often this is enough to create variety! You can do this for free by roleplaying - fake an accent or situation - you don't need to tell him, just say "Gosh, Billy - I sure hope my parents don't hear us" or "Mister Simpson! Is that your hand I feel?"
Watch a video together. Don't wait for it to end.
Write down a series of fantasies, then pull one out of a hat every night.
Whisper into his ear the kinds of things you'd like him to do to you (or you to him)...in a place where he can't do anything about it. Keep this up all day. When you finally get home he'll be insatiable!
Good luck and Merry Christmas!
2006-12-24 11:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try going out to new places. Each of you can be a little more fisky when the other does not want to be. When you are going places before you get there rub him a little so that he has to try and hide him being hard. Stop in front of him or back into him at the store. Just do little things to turn each other on. Everyone one know that the risk of getting caught is a turn on. That being said just be a little more risky in showing affection in public. If you get him going in public then when he gets home he will be ready to take you to be or have you put the little one down so that you can play on the couch. Just change things up and have diner at the table one night and just snacks on the couch another. Find out what hobbies the both of you want to do and tart trying them. Even if you just try a few things. Take the little one to the park and the two of you can play also. It may be fun to swing next to each other or get dizzy on the merry go round. Then go to a small mom and pop restraunt to eat. Eat fast food when in a hurry not when you go out. To set and eat is no more expensive than fast food if you watch what you get. Or get something and go up town (if you live in a small town) and watch people go by. Make commits to each other about some of the people. Life is fun if you two will just try and get out and do things that are fun. Go by a local hotel or do earch on the internet to see what activities are close to you.
2006-12-24 12:08:46 · answer #4 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try something different. Pick up something from Frederic ks or Vitoria Secrets. If you do not want to spend the money try Wal Mart and seduce him. Get him so turned on and take advantage of him. Try making out in the car anything that is a change. Go out on the town for a night. Let someone watch your daughter. Try a motel room with a nice hot tub.
2006-12-24 11:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by cm f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think that dating other people will help?Unless you want to get ideas from people on sex by experiment but I would not recommend that it will destroy your relationship you have now.You have a baby that does change things in a relationship and he has to understand that to you know how busy it has made you does he help.I know that sex after a baby can be better than before but it takes time and creativity.Good Luck
2006-12-24 11:51:47 · answer #6 · answered by sparky75us 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT DATE OTHER PEOPLE AS A WAY TO SPICE UP YOUR LOVE LIFE!!!
I think people who do that are stupid, it does NOT work. What are you going to do when he starts hanging out with a girl who he starts to fall for. Then you are out and she is in.
When sex got normal for my husband and I, I went on eBay and got some cute outfits. (School Girl. and Naughty Cop) ... I felt sexy and he loved them....now I just added a cute Mrs. Claus one to my collection for Christmas. They are cheep if you get them on eBay and they really help.
PLEASE DO NOT HAVE A OPEN RELATIONSHIP!!!! Unless you don't really want to spend the rest of your life together.
2006-12-24 11:53:06 · answer #7 · answered by dohm84 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
AS much as I hate to encourage this, sex toys. Bring him to a porn shop and shop together for something mutual.
Give him some more attention like a backrub just out of the blue. Get drunk with him, just do things couples usually do.
Or when he's gone, get a ton of candles and light up the whole house, when the little one's asleep of course.
Wear something provacative too.
2006-12-24 11:50:21 · answer #8 · answered by matthaumschild 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Pack your stuff in boxes and get ready to move
2006-12-24 11:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him anal he`ll love it ( but do wrong an it will hurt, do it right and you will be in a world of pleasure)
2006-12-24 11:51:11 · answer #10 · answered by will 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋