Really fed up!?

Question

I know it's christmas, i know i have 2 children and should be happy, but i really find this time of year tiresome, and albeit i do have 2 children but i am still lonely and i still miss the man i loved. He has been gone for five years now (Not my kids dad i hasten to add) long story but we had to finish as he had a problem with my children. Sorry this is a bit heavy for christmas but i feel very tearful, just very low, and theres new years eve, jesus.....

Jo - I am entitled to happiness my dear surely this then reflects on the children! Enjoy the 2 pts and read my 360!

You are all lovely, bless your hearts! It's just all this coupley stuff, i didn't go to my works do due to the fact it was couples, NYE more couples, may do a rush party sod it!

Answer 1

Know exactly how you feel,I'm near to tears most of the day,due to debts and lack of enough cash coming in,husband out of work for the second Christmas.Thus the build up of debts,which is causing terrible problems between us, divorce is rearing it's ugly head,although I still love him the stress of it all is awful.

My children are all grown up now,but I know what you say, even though you have them your lonely. You see it's a different love you have for your children to that you have for a man.

I'm sorry you lost the man you love because of problems with your children, because at the end of the day they do grow up and leave you anyway. But I do however admire you for making that sacrifice for your children. Your obviously a devoted mum.

So do what you say, have a spur of the moment party you will be so busy getting things ready and when your quests arrive keeping them entertained you'll forget all about the couple bit.

You will meet someone else to love, or maybe by the time your kids have grown, your man will still be around and if you are meant to be together you will.

Anyway,try and enjoy yourself you only get one life it's a shame to go through the rest of it being so sad, and of course missing out on so many happy times.

You know what they say, a trouble shared is a trouble halved.

I will be thinking of you. Happy New Year.

Answer 2

No one here will have a magic answer for you.
I can sympathise strongly as I'm one of probably the majority of site users that has been through a hard time.
It's not a great time of year if you're feeling down but remember it only lasts a few days then it's back to normal.
Make sure your kids have a ball this Christmas and try to keep that thought at the front of your mind. You can always go out with a few mates and unload all your problems with them.
You shouldn't be thinking about someone who's been away for so long anyway. If he left over the issue of your youngsters then he probably wasn't a big enough man to cope. Better off without him.
Personally, as a bloke, I'd advise a bloke's perspective on this. Get someone to look after your kids on New Years and head out with the glad rags on with a few friends. You'll probably meet some good person who will be more than happy to spend the evening with you.
Don't let anything get you down as each day is full of new opportunities for all aspects of your life. Count yourself lucky to have kids as they will bring you more joy than anything else in this world.
Hope your Christmas picks up and good luck in the rest of your life.

Answer 3

The people we love are a mixture of good and bad qualities. You miss the good things but the bad ones can't be overlooked if they are a threat to the well-being of your family. You did what you felt was right for your children. Acceptance is a gift from God. Your good feelings should be a gift to your children from you.

Find out why these qualities in a mate follow a common theme and you are on your way to a happier life. Self help groups are out there for the asking and they do help if you want to change. In the mean time, enjoy the blessings that have been bestowed on you while they are yours to hold.

Mery Christmas

Answer 4

I don't know why, Untanuta, but this Xmas more than ever, I keep thinking of people in your situation, feeling lonely and not seeing a solution to it...
Or very poor in general, but strangely enough, even more in the Western countries where they are exposed to all the waste of... everything...
So, just a few hours ago, I had a conversation about it with my friend and he couldn't understand I felt that way for people I don't know...
But knowing people is so relative, is it?
Like the man you miss so much...
Would you have believe it possible that the people you love the most wouldn't be able to care for each other?
Even for the love of you?

No, it is not too heavy...
The way the society is functioning makes it that loneliness, poverty and sickness are even more painful in that fake Xmas ambiance...
We are so supposed to act as clones of each other...
I wish your honesty will attract some good things in your life...

Answer 5

Geeeeeeeeeeesum!
Life must go on. See the man you loved as dead.
Remember the time with him with joyful memories and create some new memories with your kids and for yourself.

So what if you aren't a couple. Half those couples probably wish they were unattached.
Go have yourself a sizzling New Years with your other girlfriends. Flirt online.
Go pull a man.
Make yourself favorite things just for you.

Don't limit yourself with your woe is me and everyone else has someone to love but I don't. Go find someone - a New Year's resolution.

If you will always love the man that won't love you, then be happy single with the memories of him to keep you warm and cozy.
If you need sex, but don't want a man, there is the rabbit.
If you want a man, go out and find one.

Answer 6

Sounds like your going through a tough phase. This is a low period for you, dont worry it will get better. The man you want doesnt accept your kids well find someone else who does.
You have two kids who are apart of you and trust me...... theres loads of people out there who would accept you for you. Its christmas........ the time for happiness. Be happy and forget the hurt - just look forward to a bright and prosperous new year.
'for every dark day (unhapiness) - there will be ones filled with happiness (happiness)'. Never forget that

Answer 7

Christmas is a rough time for many, especially for those that lost close loved ones. At this time, focus on the happiness of your children. It will be an exciting day for them as they open up gifts and have fun. Keep that in focus and it won't be so hard for you.

You are lucky for your children. There are those that are much worse off since they have nobody at all.

Answer 8

i became a bottle-fed infant, and my immune gadget is amazingly sturdy. i've got not had an infection or pneumonia because i became a baby, and that i've got not been ill in numerous years. I did properly at school, and excelled in college. My husband is breast fed, has a PhD, yet he has allergic reactions and is ill lots greater often than i'm. Breast, or bottle fed makes no difference on your grownup existence. that is basically for the healthful of the youngster, and that i would not assume human beings to do it in the event that they do no longer desire to.

Answer 9

Hey, cheer up! Go somewhere with your kids, somewhere special and who knows you may meet someone. The kids are happy and you get a chance to draw your mind away from your predicament and breath out a bit.
If you are still missing him, is that so bad? If he is missing you he will contact you, I am sure, and if not, is it not for the better?

Don't give up, life works in strange ways..hihi maybe you will meet someone....you can't meet anyone if you do not give yourself the chance!

All the best for the festive season, and give a big kiss from me to your kids...Merry Xmas!

Answer 10

sorry to hear that, but you are just emotionally depressed. I believe you kids must be very lovely. maybe life has something unpleasant, but if you could try to forgive, you would feel better. Do something that makes you happy, certainly your emotion is dragging by other;s action, not yourself. Take it easy, and forgive yourself, give yourself more room to relax, and be alone. When you are prepared, you start to face reality again.

New year brings new luck, so, keep faith.

I hope it helps. Happy New Year.