im gay and i really wanna be straight. its soo confusing cuz i like guys but i hate that i liek guys. how can i be attracted to gurls. someone plz help me b4 its too late. i hate the way i am and i will not cope with being gay. i need help.
2006-12-24 11:27:40 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
People are either guy or straight, you are born this way. It is not a sickness so no need for a cure. Accept the way you are
2006-12-24 11:30:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 4⤋
If you're really gay, you probably won't be comfortable in a long term relationship with a woman. I'm gay and I know I wouldn't be happy marrying a woman. Do what makes you happy. Being gay doesn't mean would have to be part of any "gay scene" - that would be very depressing. Just live your life and be happy. Being gay just means you enjoy sex with men instead of women. If this is what you hate, then don't have sex at all or you'll end up making some women unhappy in the long run. If you hate everything else about being gay but like having sex with men (even just one other man), then keep being gay - just choose to live your life doing the things that you want to do, not things you think you "should" do because you're gay.
2006-12-25 07:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by Jason 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost i think u need to firgure out what and why u hate being gay? Is it soiciety, ur relgion, ur parents.....why do u hate the way you are? What makes you think something anyone here says can change your thoughts....there are many questions u must answer before u seek help. I was a lesbian for about a year and a half didn't want to do it anymore and stopped...do i still look at women of course their beautiful but then some may pose the question was i ever really gay? Please before u beat yourself up over this be honest with yourself so that you will ask the correct questions....good luck in everything and i truly mean it..o and if its not to late have a merry xmas...
2006-12-25 16:59:07 · answer #3 · answered by Raz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to a therapist who can help you sort out all the confusion. Give yourself time to accept yourself. You deserve to feel comfortable with who you are, Don't allow other people to tell you how you should feel, one way or the other. Trust your gut, if you are attracted to guys, try to come to terms with it. That's where a therapist can help.
Don't go out with girl if you aren't attracted to her. That's not going to work. You won't suddenly find yourself attracted to her and she will end up getting hurt. That won't be fair to you either because you won't be getting what you want/need from her so you will only feel empty and lonely. When you have accepted your true feelings, then you will find a person who will fulfill you and you will be happy. This place you're at won't last forever. Talk to someone, you'll feel better when you do. Good Luck
2006-12-24 12:27:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
There could be a way to be straight. You read need to read scientific research papers.
There are several theories as to why a person is gay. The most prominent I have read is a work by Simon Le Vay. He determined - through autopsy - that gay men and straight men have one single difference: the size of their hypothalamus (a gland in the middle of your brain and well known to be the source of sexual stimulation in human beings). With gay men it is small and fluffy were as in straight men, it is solid and large. He repeated this experiment with lesbian and straight women and found the reverse. Straight women had small/fluffy gland were as lesbian has large/denser gland.
So hypothalamus size wise:
Gay men = Straight women
Lesbian women = Straight men
Following years of studies, he determined that this gland is developed before birth. When he examined pregnant mothers during period of pregnancy he found that this gland gets developed during the 6th month of pregnancy. If the mother body thinks she has a daughter, she would give Oestrogen (female hormone). If she thinks she has male son, she would give Testosterone (male hormone). For some un-explained reason, the mother would give the wrong hormone. Depending on how long this hormone is given, the child may come up as Bisexual, straight acting gay guy, camp gay guy, or in extreme cases transsexual (a person who believes he is in the wrong body!).
Research into how to determine why this switch happens has been blocked. From one side, the church and religious groups would not accept it (because this would mean centuries of prosecuting gay/lesbians was a crime but more importantly it is a serious shake to their belief). From the other side, gay groups have pressured government and other organisation not to proceed in such research because this would mean there is a way to eliminate gays from existence! Hosptial scans can determine if a mother has son/daugther and a simple blood test can deterimine what hormone the mother is giving. The latest work as done by an Italian scientist two years ago who tried to determine if the mother had a genetic differences that results in this switch and managed to find some correlation in that most mothers with gay/lesbian children had actually gay/lesbian brothers and sisters!
See it is much more complicated that this but I hope I explained to you in best possible way. And if you are wandering how a bisexual man/woman hypothalamus would look, well it is medium size/denisty, they got mix of hormones and thus they would like both!
See the only way you could live straight if you are actually born bisexual and can exploit the straight aspect of it.Freud believes through hypnsis that 92% of people are bisexual by nature but manage to suppress their gay side and focus on their straight one. Otherwise, it is too late fella. Gay is not being camp, drugies, AIDs, feminite, or weak as society projects. You were born like this, make peace with yourself and God. As long as you are honest, do not hurt anyone, hurt yourself, and love your fellow men...Surely God (if you believe in God) should see this. This is how I made peace with myself.
2006-12-25 00:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by Fadi S 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I am sorry that your are in turmoil over your sexuality , It is hard to be gay but its a lot harder to be something that you are not . Your sexual identity is determined at birth and it is hard to be attracted sexually to a woman when its a man that interest you . Its hard to change your sexual make up just like its impossible to change your DNA . We are what we are and its what we need to learn to deal with the hand we are dealt . You didn't state what exactly you hate about being gay . Are you from a very strict religious up bringing ? Does it have to do with family ? Are you lonely due to a break up ?
2006-12-24 11:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
The jury is out as to the roots of sexual identity - and it is certainly the case that sexual orientation can change.
What is undeniable is that whatever your attraction, the first thing is to realize that you are in charge of it. There are men and women who are straight who voluntarily take vows of celibacy - some for religious reasons, some for personal reasons, some for a period of time. Simply because you have an attraction - whether for men, or for women, for liquor or for drugs, for chocolate cake or for driving fast - and none of these are inherently bad in themselves, the evil comes from how they are used - simply because you have the attraction doesn't mean you have to indulge in it.
Start there. Your attraction for people of the same sex does not determine your life or your life style. Refuse to act on your attraction.
Then find a compassionate straight man you can talk with, someone with some experience and common sense. Someone who will keep your confidentiality. And don't rush - life changes take time.
Everyone has something about themselves they would like to change. Sometimes it is cosmetic - I'd like to be taller, thinner, have more hair, have different color eyes. Sometimes it is a talent - I wish I could play the piano, I would like to be more athletic. And so on.
Sometimes changes are possible. Sometimes we have to learn to live with what we are. I realized when I was quite young that, given my body type, I was never going to be a dancer. I became a very good singer.
Learn more about who you ARE, and work with peace and patience toward who you want to be.
2006-12-24 11:37:43 · answer #7 · answered by Uncle John 6 · 2⤊ 4⤋
I like what Mike h said but I would also add that despite all the Christian and God bashers out there, God can also help you more than you can help yourself. But you also have to make that choice like the other choices you need to make.
We are people of choice and free will. We are not born gay, that is something someone decides to try and become. A airline pilot is not born as a pilot. They have to make that choice to get the training and to pursue that choice and the same thing here. But God can assist you with that inner strength that you will need if you decide you want Him to. PEACE!!!
2006-12-24 12:40:16 · answer #8 · answered by David H 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Oh boy again the same question .Every couple of days it pops up.Why do you hate it,are you at alll attracted to girls?
Sounds to me that your religion is oppressing you or the community is against it.
But you are gay and there is no cure for it.
ALL I CAN ADVICE TO TALK TO ME AND EXPLAIN IN PERSON WHAT IS SO HARD ON YOU.
WhY YOU HATE BEING THE WAY YOU ARE.
You are free to use the messenger when I am online.
Greetings Rob.xxxx
2006-12-24 11:38:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
You can only follow your heart. Gay is a ******* word, nothing else. You should find the person that you feel you couldnt be without and go for it. Man or Woman love is love and you cant help how the heart feels.
2006-12-24 13:51:00 · answer #10 · answered by lilbitome1015 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
There are programs that claim they can "change" people but the data I've seen show these programs aren't very successful. Instead, they cause more long-term confusion, suffering and self-loathing. It would be easier to come to terms with who you are. It sounds as though you're fairly young and this will seem less insurmountable as you mature. Consider counseling. Good luck.
2006-12-24 11:32:53 · answer #11 · answered by SDTerp 5 · 7⤊ 2⤋