ugh ok my friend is this big time supposedly punk or whatever they want to call themselves and i am sorta preppy and i care bout my looks..i listen to all sorts of music and she listens to only rock ect..i listen to a few bands but i guess it drives her crazy that i have interest in that kind of music,,what gets me mad is she thinks shes the only one that can like the music and if somebody who doesnt support it by wearing clothes that say band names on it is a pozer and she gets all crazy and says but you dont like that music...what do i say to her? i know this sounds stupid but that the conflict in out friendship please help! =)
2006-12-24 10:50:56 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Why are you two friends? You sound like polar opposites Anyway, just listen to what you like and ignore her. I too have eclectic musical tastes and I really don't care if anyone else thinks I shouldn't be listening to it or I'm trying to pretend I'm something I'm not. When I'm listening to the music, I just enjoy it. Don't let anyone else take away your enjoyment. Your friend thinks that by your listening to "her" music, you are attempting to steal her punk identity. Let her know that you aren't. You just like the music. If she likes Chinese food you could ask her "does it make you a poser because you eat Chinese food and are not Chinese?" Maybe she'll get the point.
2006-12-24 11:05:03 · answer #1 · answered by babydoll 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so natural to become defensive in these kind of situations. She feels like she's being made fun of when someone that doesn't like her music tries to dress like her or act like her. I would tell her that you honestly don't know that much about her music but you're truely interested in learning and listening. Learn a little bit about the bands she likes, read some of the lyrics.You can definitely stay the person you are while still enjoying the differences of your friend. Maybe there is a club in town you could tell her about and the 2 of you could go some night and hang out.
If she's not willing to let you into her world because you're different from here or because you're showing an interest in what she likes, then it sounds like larger issues are at hand, and it's time to find new friends.
2006-12-24 19:03:42 · answer #2 · answered by mirmade13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer this question: Why are you still friends? If you can't think up a good reason, then maybe it's time to find friends that you share more in common with. I think that the girl is just trying to seem cool, and fit into the mold of a typical 'punk' girl - next time she brings up something negative about your (or someone elses) taste in music or clothing, tell her to chill out (playfully, not harshly).
I have a friend that used to be the same way, trying to act tough - it took a year or two, but she grew out of it. She still has a punk-rock style, but she's her own person now, at least.
2006-12-24 20:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by CherryPie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not stupid so don't say that. Anyway, I'm not a punk but my favorite music is punk rock and I don't dress that way. I have many different styles of dressing. I think that it's low that she would say that. Music is Music and she doesn't have the right over that genre. You should just tell her straight out that you can like whatever music you want to. Music is universal and you don't have to dress the part, to like it. :) I hope this helps.
2006-12-24 18:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by yleemoreno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I listen to all kinds of music,i don't wear t shirts with the bands name on it tho, sounds to me that you both are to young to be in a relationship,If you all fight and get mad about things that don't matter now what will it be like if you get married?
2006-12-24 18:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The trouble with the world today is that a lot of people try to impose their thoughts into what they think is right and you have the right as a human being to your own thoughts and pleasures and if they can't accept this then the friendship may be not as you thought it was. Find new friends who will accept you for what you are.
2006-12-24 19:03:08 · answer #6 · answered by Roger P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well even though the two of you don't share a common intrest in music...I am sure the two of you share other common intrests. Just point out there will be some difference as you get older, but your friendship shouldn;'t change. Good Luck
2006-12-24 18:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by amandaped25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound like she has made some changes in who she considers to be her friends. Talk to her about other things you too have or had in common,see if not only the music has changed but other have changed as well.If they have it is time for you to move on,and continue to be the person that you are Unless you change who you are and what you like, you and her will be a odds about that subject,as well as other things.
2006-12-24 19:10:19 · answer #8 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Music is universal and you should be able to enjoy any kind of music you wish. It sounds as if you are about 10 years ahead in maturity over your friend.
2006-12-24 18:53:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes not a real friend, I know I was like that back in middle school about rap, and now that I think about it, it was really lame.
Btw, it's not a stupid question, You've got a hard choice, I'd slowly drift away from her as a friend until she realizes that she is the one who is ruining your relationship by being picky and annoying. Lose interest in her conversation when she gives you crap about your shirt.
2006-12-24 18:56:23 · answer #10 · answered by adklsjfklsdj 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋