my six month old wont sleep unless shes being nursed to sleep, she wont sleep by herself.what do i do?

Answer 1

WTF, I wanna be nursed to sleep. And I don't wanna sleep by myself either.

Answer 2

Well, I know everyone has a strong opinion about these things, but here's what I think:

Nursing your daughter to sleep doesn't seem to be a big deal to me. She's 6 months old, not 2 yrs old. She's very young. However, if you are ready to change this because that is what works for you (and not because you think you're supposed to), then I would suggest starting very slowly. Try substituting occasionally with a pacifier or sing her a song and rock her. Then substitute more often until you have broken the habit.

As far as her sleeping with you, again, I don't really think that's a big deal, but if you are ready to change it, then try putting a small bed in her room and settle her to sleep with you there and then transfer her to the crib. That way she is used to falling asleep in her room.

I wish you good luck. My son is now 13. He nursed for several years and slept with us until he was almost 5. It was fine for us, but you have to do what works for you. I have never been a fan of the "cry it out" way of teaching children. There is a reason mother's hate the sound of their baby's cry. It's because we are supposed to respond to it. Best wishes.

Answer 3

My son was the same (as I was breast feeding him everytime he would fall asleep). He did alter his sleeping habits after I stopped feeding him myself plus I would try and wake him just before I put him in his cot. I know that sounds a little harsh but this was the only way that I found of getting him to settle himself to sleep. Now he is 4 years old we always have a couple of stories before bed (we have done this from about 6 months (when I stopped feeding him ). Good luck and remember whatever works for you and your baby do it because there are no hard and fast rules.

Answer 4

I agree with christine and savvy sue. Breast milk will not rot her teeth. As for leaving her to cry in the crib, think how you feel if you are crying and the person you love most just walks away and shuts the door? Is this the view that you want your child to have of the world, that her needs will not be met? I nursed both my kids to sleep, there's nothing wrong with it - they have turned out very nice people. We also had them in bed with us when they were very small. They DO grow out of it. Trust your instincts as a mother, be kind to yourself and keep being a good mom to your baby.

Answer 5

I had this with my son when he was 6 months old. the only way to deal with it is by leaving her in her cot to cry. go back after a couple of minutes and settle her in again, then the next time leave it longer to go back and so on. I will say it is tough to hear her cry but don't give in. It took about 5 days for my son to realise that i wasn't going to come running and that he may as well just lay down and go to sleep. He is now 9 months old and is asleep with in 10 minutes of me putting him in his cot. Also get a routine of nap time and bedtime, I give him a kiss, lay him in his cot, tuck him in to is sheets, put on his mobile, blow a kiss, and wave goodbye. He then puts his thumb in his mouth, and off he goes. I now struggle when we are out and about to get him to go to sleep on me. On Boxing Day we are going away and I know that we will loose this routine, but it will quickly return if I am strict when we come back. It is really hard, but I have learned that being a mum means being tough. Also, a good tip thta I was given was to make sure that when you put her to bed at night, make sure she is awake, otherwise this will confuse her.

Good luck and stick with it.

Merry Christmas to you and a happy 1st Christmas to your daughter.

Answer 6

The most heart breaking thing is to listen to your baby cry and not do anything. You need to be strong and let her cry to sleep. You are nurturing bad habits and allowing the baby to dictate how you operate. It will be tough but in 3 to 5 days it will be easier. Just remember to feed 1 hour before bed and let her cry to sleep. Good luck I remember those days and its coming around the corner again!

Answer 7

Sleep training.... means put her to bed say good night and walk out room. after 5 mins go back in settle her NO TALKING to her then walk back out again. do this a couple of times then build the time up between going back in. it might be hard but this normally takes a couple of nights. but its worth it. as it will work

Answer 8

To be honest should not let baby sleep with you. Sometimes you got to let them go before picking them up. If you know that they are not hungry, wet or have colic, then they are testing you, and to be honest in doing that, thay have got you to do what they want and will continue to do that. Sorry to be so blunt, but I have 3 children and 2 of them continue to test me day by day.

Answer 9

I don't believe in tough love for infants. Jeez, folks! And tooth rot from nursing her to sleep? Rubbish!!!!! My answer is...nurse her to sleep! Then you both have sweet dreams. Trust me, she won't have this problem in college...it ends.

Answer 10

...mommy, it's time to toughen up...

you have to re-train her how to sleep in her crib. nursing her to sleep is no good, and you know that...what with the ear infections, and the baby bottle tooth rot....

even if you're breast feeding these things can happen, so don't think that you're safe.

Answer 11

put her in her cot and let her cry, it will be very hard to do, we did this with my son and after 2 nights he settled on his own. i know it sounds cruel but honestly it works and it does not hurt them, they need to know that bedtime is sleeptime, i hated it but it worked, i wish you luck, let her know who is boss xx