hurt my ex worst than he hurt me? he works where i work and is sleeping with someone too. ive been hurting for days and now i dont care anymore he treated me like s!@4 during our marriage and now i want to get even!!!!!!!!
2006-12-24 10:29:45 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is the voice of experience writting to you. Do nothing. get on with your life and show your mature and not a chold. later in life you will be glad you did
2006-12-24 10:31:03 · answer #1 · answered by -------- 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
God said that vengeance was his not ours. So the best thing you can do is forget him if you says he's your ex and move on with your life. Don't let him know that he has that much control in your life to the point that you are trying to pay him back. If you really want to hurt him in any kind of way, let him see you moving on with your life. Let him see that you are not even thinking about him or even giving him the time of day. Even if you are hurting over the things he's done to you just don't let him see it or know it. Nothing hurts a man more than for him to think that a woman is not paying him any attention. The bible says not to be overcome by evil but overcome evil with good. So now you be good and keep a good report as a nice young respectable lady and you will go far in life. Never stoop to that man level. Because if you do then you are no better than he is. Someone has to be the bigger person so let that person be you. A man can sleep around with everyone woman in town and when he get up he'll still be called a man, but when a woman sleeps around and get up she's going to be called everything but a child of God. So hold up your standards and morals. Pray about the hurt and leave it in God's hands. I promise you he will work it out for you and heal you of the hurt that you are feeling. Please take my advice I know what I'm talking about. Hope this helps you. Good luck.
2006-12-24 16:57:26 · answer #2 · answered by Wendy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the better person....again. He'll get his one day. No matter how bad you hurt him now, it still won't make up for all the times he treated you bad. the best way to hurt him is to show no emotion at all when you're around him. Act like a complete stranger to him. Believe me, if you never talk to him, acknowledge him..almost like he never existed...that will hurt him alot more than you realize.
2006-12-24 10:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to let it go. Move on. Because in the end you're only allowing the hurt to continue. You think revenge will make you feel better, but it won't. It will leave you hallow and less than you were. Apply for another job, and try not to see him. Otherwise, you'll act all stalkery and people actually get into big trouble for that.
2006-12-24 10:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by Destiny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just about everything you have in mind is wrong. Unfortunately your ex is still controlling your life. You submit yourself to him by reacting to what he does. You will never get even but for sure you will get ahead if you learn to take care of yourself. Take a break from him and what he is doing with his life. In the years to come, if you can, go to school, learn a trade or become professional with a career. I guarantee you that life will bring him back to your door and at that time you tell me who is behind, even or ahead. Think about it, sometimes bad things happen for a reason. You must understand that this is your chance for your breakthrough.
2006-12-24 11:09:36 · answer #5 · answered by alpha & omega 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This situation is going to get very bad for everyone, if you start a personal war at your workplace.
The best revenge is being happy. move on with your life, make yourself look as good as you can and walk around smiling and looking happy even if it kills you inside, and believe me that sooner or later you will feel great. it takes time but do not start looking for revenge, it will just make things worse.
2006-12-24 10:36:01 · answer #6 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Getting even is childish, and will end up doing more harm than good. The best thing you can do is to totally ignore him, and when he tries to find out why, just continue to give him the cold shoulder. Go out and find someone that truly deserves you, and forget about the piece of crap you've left behind! Best of luck!
2006-12-24 10:40:49 · answer #7 · answered by grandm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does not do any good to get even, it only can make things worse for you in the long run. Go on with your life sweetie he will never change and there is always some one better. He Will Get his some day its called Karma.
2006-12-24 10:37:02 · answer #8 · answered by katie512002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree....and probably the biggest thing you could do to hurt him is to not let him know you even care...act like he doesn't exist, and move on. I would even look for a new job so you don't have to be reminded of him every day.
2006-12-24 10:32:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. The revenge is never worth it. Since Karma is a boomerang, let it go and it will come back to get him on its own. If you do something, you look like the b*tchy ex. Let him treat her poorly for awhile. Maybe he'll contract something.
2006-12-24 10:32:58 · answer #10 · answered by Capt. Obvious 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him and move on. Be the best at everything-have a better job/lover/life than him and her. Leave them in the dust. Don't do anything rash right yet, trust me you will not feel better. Try not to laugh your a$$ off when karma kicks in for them. And it will ;) Ive seen it first hand.
2006-12-24 10:51:51 · answer #11 · answered by jennie s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋