Whats your opinion? My husband is gone out of town working most the time. I stay at home with the kids everyday. I do all the cooking & cleaning & Run every errend that needs to be done. He comes home and looks around the living room and tells me to move the furniture because he does not like it the way I have it aranged. Same with the any other room. He moves my garbage can in the kitchen because he thinks it looks stupid where it is but he puts it across the kitchen and I have to walk around a island to get to it. I had it where it was because it is more functional as I am the one in the kitchen all the time. I have 2 small kids and toys all over the house. I have a small basket in the living room for toys that make there way down stairs. last night he told me that he does not want that in HIS living room because it looks messy! I say we have 2 small kids and the house looks lived in. I ask his opinion and he says do whatever so I feel he has no say at all!
2006-12-24 10:26:10 · 14 answers · asked by spoiledsarah25 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He is a perfectionest but only when he knows company is comming over.He won't pick up or wash a thing until he knows someone is comming over. Then everything needs to be perfect. I tell him that everyone knows we have kids and they don't care if theres a basket of toys in the living room!
2006-12-24 10:29:42 · update #1
You are absolutely valid.
He's a lazy bastard.
Tell him "If you aren't going to help clean up the family room then don't come complaining to me about it!" So what if he doesn't go in there. Less to clean up!!!
I spent 10 years being married to one of those with 2 really young kids he didn't lift a damn finger for. In 10 years didn't pick up one toy, one load of laundry, etc. He was a gigantic slob, the worst I've ever encountered. His mom did everything for his sorry *** before he got dumped on me. He wouldn't let anyone come over and actually had the gall to say "BECAUSE MY WIFE IS A BAD HOUSEKEEPER"
I caught him cheating last year, now he's his girlfriend's problem. And my house is SPOTLESS. And yes, I have full custody of my 2 and 5 year old.
And you are absolutely correct about houses with kids - they WILL have toys! They WILL look like a tornado hit! Especially if come calling unannounced! LOL
He's a lazy bastard honey.
By the way, when you talk, HE DOESN'T HEAR YOU.
Go to a marriage counselor. RUN to a marriage counselor. Preferably a woman. And she can say to him what he needs to hear in a way that he can hear it.
HE DOESN'T RESPECT YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-24 10:43:35 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that since he is gone so much, he feels as if he has no control or "say so" around the house. This is his way of trying to make himself feel as if he does. I would try talking to him about this and ask him why it is that he does this. If he isn't willing to talk about it, then maybe you just have to deal with it while he is home and when he leaves again, put the darned trash can where you want it. I personally do not like control freaks!
2006-12-24 10:30:36 · answer #2 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
equivalent share! a pair that can do domicile projects mutually has a superb problem going for it! i'm really domicile educated. after I lived with my father and mom i did not help a lot interior the dish drying branch. i became more desirable of a project. saved my room tidy and placed stuff the position it belonged. Little else. after I moved out and moved in with my female friend I renowned to bathe the dishes and that i renowned to mop than watch for it to under no circumstances get done. Neither human beings really loved to attend to the showering device. ultimately, a small quantity of ironing might want to be really relaxing, meditational and pleasurable. pastime nicely done and all that.
2016-10-16 21:29:27 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole house and garage is community property, but usually the woman runs the house, but will ask hubby his opinion from time to time! The garage usually is for the hubby to have his stuff scattered all over!
2006-12-24 10:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, the house is the wife's domain. That's why when I had mine built, we included an office/den for me since I'm not the "garage type." Wife controls everything else. I just agree with whatever she wants to do.
2006-12-24 10:30:30 · answer #5 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a communications issue, not a social norms issue.
Maybe a better job explaining why such&such a thing serves you better when this is YOUR workplace & he doesn't spend time there but YOU do (in a nice way) might help clarify some things.
Good Luck!
Peace on earth,
;-)
2006-12-24 10:32:43 · answer #6 · answered by WikiJo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him if he doesnt like the living room the way it is then he needs to do it himself. Also he needs to understand that you guys have kids and they have toys all over the house and he is going to have to get over it.If your home the most your the boss not him
2006-12-24 10:31:24 · answer #7 · answered by misty k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...my husband works at home....but I'm lucky enough to stay home and raise my son.
BUT...without my husband...I have to work...
He pays for it....but WE decorate it...
It's a true partnership...talk things through.
2006-12-24 10:29:53 · answer #8 · answered by Nibbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY HUSBAND HAS STUFF IN THE KITCHEN, WE KIND OF HAVE A HIS AND HERS SIDE OF THE KITCHEN. BUT THE GARAGE AND BASEMENT ARE HIS TURF EXCEPT FOR THE WASHER AND DRYER.
2006-12-24 10:33:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah tell him to play in the garage
you work in the house and should have it how it suits you
2006-12-24 10:28:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋