why hasn't he poped the question yet we've both been cheated on in the past but i've been completely faithful to him i was never the cheater i was the one being cheated on
2006-12-24 10:25:06 · 12 answers · asked by davids_jellybean2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe he is not ready and is not sure marriage is for him....if he has cheated then what makes you think he wont cheat on you when your married?_
2006-12-24 10:27:44 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is afraid of getting hurt again. I know I was when I got divorced from my cheating wife, but I met a girl and we dated for a while and one night she was walking towards me and I just knew that she was the one for me. We have been together for 17 and 3/4 years now.
He may have had a very hard breakup and pushing him to ask the question will probably push him into a corner that he will but up a tighter defense and then run at the first opportunity.
I would make him feel as safe and secure as possible. Let him know that you care for him, and not just with sex. A person wants to feel secure, even us guys. Hold him and love him and tell him that you do or show it by holding his hand or holding on to him while you are walking around so everybody can see that you are together.
Good luck and don't push him into a corner. Take your time and he will come around.
2006-12-24 10:33:58 · answer #2 · answered by Joel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 1/2 years, and he hasn't figured out that he wants to marry you yet? Ok so what if you end up waiting another 3 1/2 years? That will be 7 years of your life that you have waited on someone to make up their mind. Have you talked to him about how your feeling. Because if your both not on the same page, then you may have to rethink your relationship with his person. Some people want to get married and some don't. They just want to live together. Well that tells me that if you just want to live together, you don't want to commit. So now you need to find out if he is marriage minded or not.
2006-12-24 10:36:01 · answer #3 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not be ready to take the relationship to the next level yet. Don't rush it. Just be happy with what you have. Everyone has their own time frame they need to prepare for marriage. Some never intend to marry. You might want to find out his opinion on marriage, but do not make it seem like you are pushing the idea on him.
2006-12-24 10:28:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For 31/2 years he has been popping something else. So, why now bother to pop the question. When milk is free, why buying the cow?
2006-12-24 11:23:07 · answer #5 · answered by alpha & omega 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you and he should have a discussion... that you wish marriage, and if that is not where this is going..... If marriage is important to you and he is unwilling, he needs to know that. If marriage is the deal-breaker, then so be it, if that is what you want to do. Don't know how old you are, or if children are part of your wishes, but if your "biological clock" is ticking and he is just using up your time, there are lots of nice guys out there who what to be committed husbands and dads... might be tough to admit, but true.
2006-12-24 10:31:26 · answer #6 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not ready 2 take it to tha next level so just don't pressure him. just enjoy what u have rignt now...but a marriage will not work if you're mentioning being cheated on...a marriage cannot work without trust in each other.
2006-12-24 11:04:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you and him have been together for that long, you be able to talk about marriage. i would make some dinner for him and have a nice casual conversation about marriage and see how he feels about being with some for the rest of his life. i mean if you got to step up and be the bigger person about it, just do it. i shouldn't be hard for you two to talk about something like that.
2006-12-24 10:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by ken's princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you believe he loves you?
Sounds like you have a problem.... communication...
because if I had to wait three years for a man to decide if he wanted to marry me... thats like 2 years too long....
Talk to him. Of be a upfront woman, and ask him yourself.
2006-12-24 10:50:01 · answer #9 · answered by joulesofaffection 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not be ready; so relax, and enjoy yourself. When he's ready to commit, he'll ask the question.
2006-12-24 10:42:50 · answer #10 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋