so me and my best friend of four years went through this huge spat she lied and said things behind my back and now that we have worked things out she seems to do things that piss me off, now she has moved into an apartment right beside me and she copied neverything like my furniture and my curtians she even went and got her hair cut and colored like i did, then i was thinking of getting a tattoo and the next day se went and got the exact same one!!! How do i deal with this and sometimes it feels as if i dont even want to be her friend anymore???
2006-12-24 10:23:33 · 24 answers · asked by beautimus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i may be wrong but it sounds like your not over the spat yet...you may have talked it out and feel like it's ok but you sound like you are still hurt over it maybe you still need some time then you can really talk to them and make sure you are really over it.sometimes we speak out of our mouth one thing but inside we are still holding bitterness and that will eat you alive
2006-12-24 10:32:09 · answer #1 · answered by songbird 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no - girl, you need to move as far away from her as possible, and never look back. She's either doing her best to annoy you, or is trying to impress you for some reason. I have no idea why she'd do such things - maybe she envies you, or looks up to you? But for whatever reason, I'd suggest coming out and telling her that you don't like that she's copying you, and ask her why she's doing it. Ask her to stop, and if she refuses, the only thing you can really do is move and hope she doesn't try to track you down.
2006-12-24 18:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by CherryPie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay well let me tell you. when my little cousin came to america from the carribean islands she coppied and got almost everything i had. i got a portable dvd player she got one too. my hair is naturally straight, her hair is curly so she got a flat iron and straightened it like mine. i have some knee high boots that i like so much and she got some too. i have a pink and black poncho and he got the same thing. i got a pair of prettey jeans with a pink stiching only she got the same pants with a red stiching. i had gotten my hair done with flat twist and she got the same thing. i got a mp3 player for christmas and she got the same thing. basically almost everything i have or had she has as well. what helped me get through it is that i realized she looks up to me and admires my taste in clothes and stuff like that. she doesnt have anyone else to look up to or encourage her like i can. someone who can relate to her and make her feel good on the inside and vice versa. just think of it as being a leader. she follows your unique taste and really likes it. you should feel admired instead of angry or upset that she is copying you. but if she wants everything you have then obviously you have ood style and taste. dont make it a big deal. just be genlte and tell her softly that what she is doing isnt making you feel comfortable. the last thing you want is to blow up at her and have another confrontation. dont get mad be flattered. good luck. just talk to her.
2006-12-24 19:00:50 · answer #3 · answered by shanice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems like she is on the needy co dependant side of life right now and has a hard time coping with making her own direction in life (a sense of originality) Just be who you are and be happy to know that you are an inspiration and play the role of guidance, it is ok to set your own boundaries and be firm an true to yourself...it can be a tough emotional role being the leader :)
2006-12-24 18:29:09 · answer #4 · answered by Keanu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she jus doin this 2 piss u off........So I think wat u need 2 do iz act lyke it's not botherin u wen ur around her.......(Example)-U knw how u said she got the tattoo u wanted U should compliment such as nice tattoo I wanted that 1 and then mayb asked her where did she get it done cause u mite want 2 get the exact same 1 but really don't.......Mayb U should stop invitin her ova ur house and mayb she won't copy ur furniture or ur style..........Mostly jus act lyke sum of the things she does really don't bother u and mayb she will stop.......Simple as dat but don't act childish with it........GUD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-24 19:29:06 · answer #5 · answered by *♥MiiSz uNiiQu3♥* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from this chick. It sounds like you are living a real life Single White Female thing
2006-12-24 18:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can the whole yahoo community say CRAZY.. She does things out of spite b/c she knws it'll get to you.. Do the best thing for ur sanity babes..(LEAVE THE CRAZY WHORE ALONE) Or be as spitful and do some real crazy **** and see if she follows..
2006-12-24 19:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by HoneyBun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should is tell your friend that you would like her to stop BUT say it in a calm voice so you don't get her mad.If she gets mad just leave her only for a little while so that she can have time to think.
2006-12-24 18:31:48 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be...she sounds completely mental and stalker-ish.
Perhaps you should leave a DVD copy of Single White Female under her door....
2006-12-24 18:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Distance yourself as much as possible...but keep in mind that copying is the most sincere form of flattery
2006-12-24 18:26:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋