So I met this guy in 9th grade. Were now 19 years old. We have been talking off and on for a month now. I recently came into town and we have hung out about everyday. I like him alot and he claims he likes me alot. He has a girlfriend and a baby on the way. I have a boyfriend. We fooled around yesterday night. He asked me to be his secret girlfriend yesterday as well. I said yes. Well today I write him and I told him how happy I was about what had happened yesterday and that i'm happy were now secretly together. He mentioned how we fooled around yesterday but nothing about us being "secretly" together. Not only that...he wasnt writing back nothing at all after that message. I'm so confused about it and confused about him. He claims that if I was living in the same town he would be with me....but what should I do now? What does a "secret" girlfriend do? I live over 200 miles away. HELP!
2006-12-24 10:19:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, it is not good to be a "secret" girlfriend. What does a "secret girlfriend do?" She allows a man to use her when she is in town, or he wants something like sex, an ego boost, or someone to vent to. She sits on the sidelines and is second to his girlfriend. She tries hard to not get attached but may fall in love with the man. He thinks that she is in agreement with their arrangement and won't understand when she wants more or gets hurt.
You live 200 miles away....out of sight out of mind. You deserve someone who will be proud to be with you and will take you out and show you off to the world. You don't want to be "boxed up" and out of site. You were happy about fooling around with him, so you obviously care about him. You are too emotional to just be a "secret". I think you will just end up falling for him and will get hurt in the end.
2006-12-24 10:31:06 · answer #1 · answered by blue eyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop talking to him. Cut off all contact and be gald you aren't the one pregnant with his child.
He is not a good guy and a "secret" girlfriend is not a good idea. It is a mistress and you should value yourself more than this. If not then try to respect the other girl and the new baby-to-be.
Even if you feel that you like him a lot you should remember he isn't trustworthy and if he is doing this now he will not stop later, even if you date him. (then he will get another "secret" girlfriend.)
2006-12-24 11:20:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I said a big fat NO. Secret g/fs are mistresses. Used for sex. Looks like he took a trip out of the reality of having a pregnant girlfriend and used you for the ride. Respect yourself and end it. You're just going to get hurt. He's already started the BS of not replying back, not a very good sign. If you love your boyfriend, try to make it work with him.
2006-12-24 10:30:20 · answer #3 · answered by Lea aka sinnanmonwolf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to be his secret girlfriend when you have a boyfriend already? Stick to your own boyfriend or end the relationship and find someone you like, where you are NOT a secret girlfriend. This whole situation sounds silly to me.
2006-12-24 12:31:56 · answer #4 · answered by ORANGE JET 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Greta!! I even have not seen you on right here in continuously. How have you ever been? Anywho, on on your question. Like human beings have been asserting, describing a "stable" female pal is exceptionally troublesome to do. what's a stable female pal to a minimum of one person won't inevitably be the same for the subsequent person. This sounds extra like a project with the dating. It has no longer something to do with the way you act. you need to not would desire to consciously act a undeniable way consisting of your boyfriend. you will desire to easily have the skill to be your self (cheesy and cliche even regardless of the indisputable fact that it particularly is genuine). you need to attempt chatting with him approximately what he capacity and what that's that bothers him. additionally, you suggested he pronounced you in no way arise with issues to do. Is he the single constantly beginning it once you dangle out and making all of the plans? consistent with risk you need to plan a chilled date that the two certainly one of you need to do. yet in the tip you in basic terms would desire to be your self around him. If that still bothers him, then consistent with risk you men are not meant to be.
2016-12-15 07:29:43 · answer #5 · answered by lesniewski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever be a secret girlfriend ive done it and its not all it cracked up to be you will get hurt bad so the best thing to do is move on and dont talk to him cause you need to save your feelings not his. hes a man he'll get over it plus all he wants it a sex
2006-12-24 10:34:20 · answer #6 · answered by misty k 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FOR GET HIM. YOU BOTH HAVE OTHER PEOPLE IN YOUR LIVES AND HE HAS A BABY ON THE WAY. JUST REMEMBER IT AS A GOOD ONE NIGHT STAND.
2006-12-24 10:36:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to forget this, and move on. It will only get more painful. Good luck.
2006-12-24 10:26:19 · answer #8 · answered by lucy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ditto what everyone else has said so far. Nothing really to add.
Sorry...
2006-12-24 10:50:13 · answer #9 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋