he had come over to see her and we got into an argument about me not breast feeding any more, and he slapped me across the face.
i'm so shocked. what should i do?
2006-12-24 10:11:43 · 42 answers · asked by Postman Pat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all, she never said how old the baby was. How old is your baby? after so long you CAN stop breast feeding. Also did your doctor recommend you to stop? For all of those that said that it was a new born, don't assume ok.
Secondly, for all of you that said leave him, divorce him, hello can't you read it says EX boyfriend. She has left him already, and GOOD 4 YOU!
Third, you need to call the police right now and file a report, because that is abuse and you need to report that, just think, if he hits you, what do you think he would do if he was with the baby and lets say she wouldn't stop crying, he probably would hit her too. He's got a short fuse.
Finally,
The user Schuschtermat, who posted this: BREAST FEED ! ! !How could you forget so quickly, why he slapped you for???
I'm so shocked. what should i do?....get out of shock, and BREAST FEED ! ! !
DON'T YOU PUT BABY FIRST ? ? ?...your milk is the best for your baby. Not the one( full of chemicals) in the store.
Call your "X" and say thank you !
How dare you say something like that! That's terrible that you would wish something like that on someone. Which is what you are doing, saying it was a good thing that he hit her. Dumb$#@, you can stop breastfeeding especially if its doctor recommended. God I want to SLAP YOU!
Also here some information that I am quoting from a medical site "A number of organizations, including the World Health Organization, the La Leche League, and the American Academy of Pediatrics, have tried to determine how long babies should be breastfed. Some say six months is enough, others say you can stop after one year, and some even say you can continue nursing toddlers. But the truth is, there is no magic number. Each baby is different and each mother must decide for herself and her baby how long to continue breastfeeding."
The shorter verison of what I just said, HE HAD NO RIGHT TO HIT YOU AND YOU SHOULD CALL THE POLICE AND FILE A REPORT!
2006-12-24 15:46:25 · answer #1 · answered by Princess Ann 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You already left him, good for you.
It only gets WORSE. AND WORSE.
It does NOT matter WHY he hit you, he HIT you!
You MUST call the police. You MUST call and file a report. There will be a permanent record of it. DO NOT PROTECT HIM. By protecting him, you are telling him that his behavior was acceptable and you are leaving yourself open to future violence. This guy has the ABSOLUTE POTENTIAL to hit again, and no matter whether you think so or not, to abuse your baby. This guy has VERY obvious issues. It is NOT OK, not once, not twice, and by giving him the benefit of the doubt and letting it slide to the police you are letting him get away with ABUSE.
And if you so much as slapped him back, which I hope you didn't, if the police are aware that there was any hitting on your part then you could lose the baby to Child Protective Services until they sort it out.
If you choose to protect him and not report his abuse toward you, then NEVER allow him to visit without at least one witness with you.
(p.s. I am passionate about breastfeeding if you want more information about it, or need someone to talk to about it, give you SUPPORT. I nursed my both my sons and being armed with information and support makes all the difference. It IS so much more important than it is publicized to be. Regardless, the decision IS yours!!!)
2006-12-24 10:36:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Young lady that is assault and physical abuse and endangerment to an infant. Have him arrested NOW before this goes on any longer-if you stay with him you are NOT ONLY A FOOL but your are foolish. He could have very eaisly killed the baby, and you. Call the Police and DO NOT LET HIM get away with this.
2006-12-25 08:16:35 · answer #3 · answered by nickle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he put your child in danger when he hit you......so do you find this acceptable?? Of course not so make sure it is documented, such as on a police report so if he ever does anything more extreme to you or your child, you will have a documented history of his behaviour. I don't care what he thinks his rights are.....no one should hit another. I think every woman should breastfeed to but I don't go around slapping them!
2006-12-24 10:15:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kick his rear to the curb!!!
Think about it: He slapped you about a decision you made to care for your child. What gives him that right? He's controlling and if he's slapping you over your decision to no longer breast feed, then my guess is he probably wants you to check with him before you make any decisions...
2006-12-24 10:14:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As most said call the police. No one deserves to be hit. Obviously he has no respect for you or your baby since she was in your arms. Hate to think of what he might be capable of as she gets older. I wouldn't let him go near your baby. On Tuesday see about your options. Don't feel sorry for him, he had time to think from the time he raised his hand to you and he hit you. Time enough to stop. He didn't.
He needs to get some help. Most importantly so do you.
2006-12-24 10:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by Lea aka sinnanmonwolf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should get your child away from him and figure out if he has an anger problem, because if he slapped you while you were holding the baby, then eventually he put his hands on the child for crying or anything!! and you need to wake up girl, you can't let him put his hands on you, he suppose to a man, but likes to hit women? he is not a real man. get your baby and leave his ***
2006-12-24 10:16:44 · answer #7 · answered by ken's princess 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you should find a friend who can give you help. Your ex seems to be a bit of a bad boy. You should talk to him and ask him why did you get so angry over such asimple iddy biddy thing. If you do get slapped again call all your friend for back up, youll need them to fight for you and to help you!
2006-12-24 10:15:58 · answer #8 · answered by Low Rider 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well first you should of slapped him back and told him never to raise his hand at you again and you tell him if he wont stop abusing you physical or mentally you can have his right to see his child taken away your baby doesn't have to see daddy hit mommy its unhealthy for your child.
2006-12-24 10:15:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should make a report to the police. You will want a record of the assault in case he threatens or assaults you again. Also, this may become pertinent to future custody arrangements you may make.
2006-12-24 10:15:05 · answer #10 · answered by fdm215 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋