I was married with my ex husband for 20 years. We met when we were both 16 years old in high school. We married 5 years later and had two beautiful children. He loved me so much. I never once question how he felt about me. Everyone knew this and thought we would be together forever. Well in 2003-04 I did something illegal with money and was incarcerated for 2 years. 10 days after I left he met another woman and has been with her ever since. I was the only woman he had ever been with sexually before her. They got married recently and everyone says she is so controlling. I love this man so unconditionally and want him back desperately. He only married this woman because he was desperate and his parents pressured him to get away from me. We were great parents together and did everything with our children. Everyone thought I was a great mother and my children were always very attached to me. We were first loves. What are my chances at getting him back? I know he loves me!!
2006-12-24 09:49:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just let him see you around and let him know what you want. Bet when ever she gives him room he will come see you. Just be patient and let him see you in places. But she will know that you will interested so watch out for her.
2006-12-24 11:39:42 · answer #1 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, hon, you don't want HIM back, you want what you thought he was, back, and those aren't the same. And when you get a few more months under your belt, you will see that. But hey, life ain't over.... there are tons of really great guys out there..... Try Yahoo Personals.... or e-Harmony, Match.com Itsjustlunch.com etc...... There are some tricks, so if you need to know more, write.
What are your chances? zero to nil. A friend of mine once told me "the only thing good reheated
is stuffed cabbage." You'll be lots happier finding a new guy, than trying to be the third person in the arrangement your ex has now.....
2006-12-24 10:20:35 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he still loved you he would have waited for you. He probably still has some feelings for you, you have a history together and children. But he has moved on to a new life with another person and so should you. Listening to gossip and making assumptions won't help you. Clinging to the past won't help you either. You need to re-build your relationship with your children and be an even better mother to them. Don't discuss your feelings towards their step-mother or their father with them. Be supportive and strong and rise above your own needs. If it was meant to be with him it will be in time...but not if you grow bitter and mean! This is the time to show the world what you are made of. Get yourself together and become the person you were meant to be! Best wishes for a bright future!
2006-12-24 10:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one. Atleast you admit to the crime. Kudo's for that. But you will have to let him choose his course now. It's sad, I know. Sure there are a lot of ways to break him and her up, but ask yourself; "if you REALLY love him, is it right to put him through such trials of life?" If he chose her knowing that you would only be away for a couple of years, I'd say he has let go of those old feelings. BUT, don't despair, you have someone else out there just waiting to meet you, who will sweep you off of your feet, and you will be glad you didn't go through all of the hassles and pain of causing them problems, when it very well might backfire in a bad way and cause YOU more grief than you feel now. Let him go so you can make room for your NEW Mr. Right... Hey, is that a knock at your door? He may be closer than you realize or allow yourself to see. Have a great Christmas, and see what Santa brings for your new life ahead.
2006-12-24 10:03:31 · answer #4 · answered by hudson_floridamale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this but I don't think your ex wants you back.Did he ever visit you the whole time you were in jail.Since you been out has he told you face to face that he loves you.If he loved you so much why did it only take him 10 days to find someone to replace you.how do you no he wasn't with her when you two were married.You embarrass this man and his pride and for that reason alone he won't take you back.You say you no he still loves you well put it to the test make sure he knows you are going out on dates with guys , if he ask you anything about the guys tell him you are just having a little fun until he comes to his senses and takes you back.
2006-12-24 10:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Despite who he married, the fact is he's a married man. Respect his marriage as you would want someone to respect yours if you were married. If his marriage doesn't work out, then you have all the chances in the world to get back together with him.
2006-12-24 09:53:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's something missing here. You never mentioned about any divorce. Did you agree to one when you were incarcerated? How can he marry her if you two are still married???
2006-12-24 09:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever tested out Pull Your Ex Back procedure? Go to this url : http://www.ExRecoveryFormula.com/ . Possibly this could obviously instruct each and every one!
2014-08-18 11:45:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1
2017-03-02 20:48:39 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you, he would not have married another woman. Stop kidding yourself and move on.
2006-12-24 09:54:04 · answer #10 · answered by darkdiva 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋