This guy and I were first loves and even tho we broke up all of these yrs. later his mother and i stayed friends, even tho she hasn't seen me in 4 years, but we always remained cool. anyways, we reunited and hung out and her son and i got close again too. she invited me to spend Christmas eve with them even tho the mother of his son would be there too, and he wanted me to come too, well that's what I thought when I tried to call him and her. they didn't answer or call me back, why would they invite me if they didn't plan 4 me to come over? they were the ones who wanted me to come, not me. I was going to chill wit my bf and my family. what does this mean? I really didn't want to go anyway b/c I would be out of place anyway. that's not my family anymore, but it seemed like they wanted me to be there. should I still remain friends with his mother and him or not?
2006-12-24 09:45:28 · 8 answers · asked by Honey83 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
maybe they are just busy...you never know...i don't see them inviting you and then ignoring you though...that would be a waste of time...maybe the b/f is having a hard time and didn't realize it til now or something...who knows...just go have fun with your family and new b/f.
2006-12-24 09:51:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its ok to remain friends, but keep in mind I bet HE GOT IN BIG TROUBLE from son's mama for you coming. I imagine they do want you there and care about you- but sometimes, you gotta pick your battles and this one is not a good one. It's the holidays and she shouldn't be uncomfortable or threatened by you being there either. Don't take it as rejection, just take it as a fact of life. I sure wouldnt want my bf's ex at christmas with us and our child, ya know?? Think if you'd want her there if you were his girl.
2006-12-24 17:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by littledreamergirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should remain friends but never hang out with him alone take your bf along but only if your bf approves and doesn't feel uncomfortable.With his mother cut all ties cause she will never except your ex new gf and no one wants to be 2nd best to your bf ex gf,so let her be your ex mother in laws favorite ,your exes gf will dislike you and that can cause trouble.
2006-12-24 17:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, honey time to move on.......I don't think you can be that good of friends still with the mom of your ex. There has to be a line drawn between the new girlfriend and the ex and that line is now you are just an acquaintance......sorry.
2006-12-24 17:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by Hear2Help 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sure they invited u 4 some reason, just ask them, sure u can b friends with his mom. im friends with my ex's mom & sisters, if u dont want 2 go to his moms house then dont. dont do anything that would upset u.
2006-12-24 17:52:48 · answer #5 · answered by thatsspoiledangel2u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people say things they don't mean in hopes of being nice ...Like hey it was great seeing you call me some time ...Or we will do lunch IT'S lip service ... I would forget about it be cordial the next time you see her or him.
2006-12-24 17:50:07 · answer #6 · answered by southernn_sky_2020 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure that that is what they want maybe you should just let it lie!!
2006-12-24 17:48:40 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
doesn't sound good at all.........tell'em that your parents want you home.....
2006-12-24 17:50:04 · answer #8 · answered by schuschtermat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋