Him and My Family at Christmas?

Question

Am I wrong for being hurt because he doesn't want to come to my family's for Christmas? This is our fourth Christmas together and he has gone twice before. We are getting married in the spring. His kids are not coming over until later Christmas afternoon and I want to go to my brothers for Christmas morning. I would really appreciate him going with me but I don't want to have to beg him or MAKE him go. If he wants to be a part of my life, shouldn't he be willing to do things like this with me? I rarely ask him for anything like this, but I kinda expect it at Christmas.

Am I wrong?

Answer 1

Don't force him to go. The more you try to make somebody go, the more they decline. Give him the option, if he says no, go and enjoy yourself, I'm sure he'll love you just the same..I'm the same way as him, I work a lot of hours, and sometimes it's nice to just sit back, stay home, watch a game, and put down a beer or two. If he works alot, or is real busy most of the time, give him some down time.........Its harder on your part, but look at both sides....

Answer 2

No. I don't think you are worng. Going to family functions on holidays when you are with someone is in a sense written in between the lines. Does he feel uncomfortable around them? If so for what reason? Perhaps he is a little shy....either way if he loves you he should attend ....it's the cardinal rule with you are in a serious reltionship. Good Luck

Answer 3

I think that you are right. He should want to be with you on Christmas. It may be a good idea to sit down and discuss this with him and ask him what his reasons are for not wanting to come.

Answer 4

No you have every right to be angry or at least curious. christmas is a time for family, you two are engaged and he's not jumping at the thought of spending christmas with you? i dont want to put doubts in your mind but try to talk to him about it.... you know casually. gauge his answer but try to be openminded