I'm 27 years old and my friend was 25. I knew him since I was 2-3 years old and I really can't explain why he died (he had cancer and died after 1 month he knew).
2006-12-24 09:38:19 · 6 answers · asked by Alosy 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Losing a close friend - especially someone you've known all your life - is always hard because you come to care so much about them. It's hard to accept that they're gone because you're wishing they weren't, and your heart still feels theirs right there with you. So many say it's best to "let go", but if you do that you might fear that you'd forget them; however, if someone means a lot to you, forgetting them is impossible. It's actually best to remember the good times, and keep them in your heart while also remembering that they're in a better place now, and they're happy there while they watch over you, and they want you to be happy too. So instead of "letting go", I find it's often best to simply remember that now that person is feeling no pain, and be happy for them.
2006-12-24 09:44:27 · answer #1 · answered by MC Wild Joker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it hurts.
And because it's such a huge deal -- we can take in one fact, easily, but this isn't one fact, it's a hundred-gazillion facts.
Your mind is used to being in a world that had your friend, but your friend is gone. It's hard to take in.
And that hurts.
It will get better with time.
As for explanations, there are no explanations -- his cells went funny on him. That's just how life is.
But think what sort of a person you would be if you were all "he's gone. La la la la la."
You wouldn't really be Human, would you?
It means you care.
That's why it's hard.
2006-12-24 20:04:50 · answer #2 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Losing someone is so painful, my cousin (who was more like my brother) died in September and I still cry. Especially when I hear A certain song that was played at his funeral. Or if I see toster strudel lol (his favorite food). You just can't avoid things that remind you of them. Only time can heal you, but sometimes it feels like you will never heal. It takes time to sink in too that he's just not there. It hurts like hell when you just realize he's never coming back. I have healed believe it or not just not completely, I think of him everyday. Just take one step at a time, I know it's hard but you will make it through. You sound strong. Good Luck
2006-12-24 17:50:06 · answer #3 · answered by that redheaded chick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand. my friend Nick, died when we were both 14 years old.
believe me, i understand.
yet , know that you will see that soul again. KNOW it.
we all go home after this trip on earth. And there we have a home welcoming party of great joy then you could possibly imagine.
Know your friend is drinking and eating of the best foods in the universe.
2006-12-24 19:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by stuart_slider 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its hard for we are left behind, i lost my daughter and it was Christmas day ..I still expect her to walk in thee door or call and say hey but she won`t..The ones that are left behind are the ones that suffer,for him to pass away after one month of known he had cancer,for him was lucky some go one forever,fo ryou ,no time would of been enough.Please try to remember the good days and you will get threw this ,he is with you in many ways if you just try to remember the good times you had...
2006-12-24 17:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's so hard, it takes years but the everyday constantly in your mind thing does abate, the pain never goes away.
I lost my best friend in 1990 and I still cry for her. Good luck to you hun...sending positive energy your way.
~ Peace
2006-12-24 17:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by fuzzylilhippiechick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋