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Well, we have a boy and a girl, who are 3 & 5, and I would love to have just one more. I had a lot of difficulties in both pregnancy's, but I still loved being pregnant. My husband is totally against it, and says that if I got pregnant again, he will leave me. What to do?

2006-12-24 09:19:07 · 19 answers · asked by Jennifer S 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy

I really want another child, not just to be pregnant, or just to have a baby.

2006-12-26 09:43:32 · update #1

19 answers

Hi,
I want to have 3 kids my bf is okay with it, maybe your husband feels compete right now baby two kids is enough for you both, since you have one of each maybe he feels like the job is done. Since you had a hard pregnancy the first time around maybe he doesnt want this to be your last and kill you and your baby, he doesnt want to lose you. There has to be a reason y he said no way to having a second baby.
Ask him how he would feel about a open adoption, check into adoption, maybe that would be a possible choice for you, where you can have a baby but have someone else carry it 4 you and u will be around to enjoy your kids, maybe bring that up some night.
There is plenty of ideas, im not 100% sure he will leave you if you get pregnant again, but ask him y he doesnt want anymore kids and consider open adopition.
I hope i gave you some ideas and good luck.

2006-12-24 09:35:57 · answer #1 · answered by angel4life1203@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0 0

You both need to want a baby or the new addition will cause resentment and problems. See if you can persuade hubby to change his mind, or else see things his way. Loving being pregnant is not a good enough reason to add another 18-year economic obligation to your family ... and US culture says that 2 children are the most we should have anyway. I don't think husband should leave you over this, but he's dramatically stating something he deeply feels, and you should pay attention. I think I'm about 65-35 with your husband on this one. Good luck.

2006-12-24 17:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by David W 6 · 2 0

Honey any man who will actually leave you over adding another joy to his life is not worth keeping around. Children are the most wonderful thing about life. I had to have a surgery about a year and a half ago that makes it so I can no longer have children. We never considered that we'd want another one anyway. Our son is 5 daughter is 3. But every time we see a baby in the last couple months both my husband and I wish we could have another one.

2006-12-24 17:31:56 · answer #3 · answered by flfox 3 · 0 0

If hubby is telling you he does not want a child, listen to him. No child needs to come into the world unwanted by a parent. Be thankful for the 2 you have and listen to hubby. If you get pregnant he may be telling the truth, he may leave. He may not. I wouldn't take the chance honestly. A boy and a girl is awesome, enjoy them and maybe later hubby might change his mind but don't force him. Good luck.

2006-12-24 18:22:50 · answer #4 · answered by misty n justin 4 · 0 0

You have to determine what is more important to you. If it is your husband that means that you won't get pregnant. If you are okay with raising the children alone then go for it. I'm married myself and even if he does leave you, I doubt that he will opt not to have a relationship with his child just because you got pregnant again. You, too, might want to think about whether or not fulfilling your desire of pregnancy is posing a health risk. Talk to your OB. He/She may advise against it. Good Luck.

2006-12-24 17:23:01 · answer #5 · answered by Bubbles 5 · 0 0

Number one your husband need s boot in the **** for saying such a thing...If you get pregnant he`ll leave you what kind a man is he...And you young lady let me tell you..You have two children,one of both sex even some people dream of that and never get..be happy with what you have.babies are great but they grow up and if you`ve had difficult pregnancies,why would you want to have another,this could mean the baby has problems and or you..Your children need you and please reconsider we all love babies but some can`t have any ..be happy with the ones you have,and kick that man in the butt for me.

2006-12-24 17:32:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I think when it comes to having children both should agree whether or not to have anymore not just one or the other. If you can't agree then discuss it with each other and weigh the reasons you should have another to the reasons why your shouldn't have anymore. The cost for another child, etc. should be considered. Have you ever considered your husband might also be concerned since you had a difficult time with your previous pregnancies. good luck on whatever your both decide. ;o)

2006-12-24 17:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 1 0

Be happy with the 2 you already have...if your husband is dead set against another pregnancy then you should not force the issue...it's not like you want to be a single mother with 3 children! Try discussing other possibilities like adoption or fostering instead!

2006-12-24 18:11:38 · answer #8 · answered by Rhonda 2 · 0 0

You have the power. He's not such a creep that he would leave his pregnant wife and two other kids. The question is will he resent you and the worse the baby so much that he will eventually leave after having left emotionally some time before. Don't stop using protection until you are sure. After all you already have one of each.

2006-12-24 17:26:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

difficult pregnancies suck i'm sure. and i'm sure it sucked *** for your husband. be happy that you have two healthy children. maybe adoption is something you and your husband should consider. we are an over populated world...why not raise a child who has no parents to love him/her. you could do a far better deed adopting then putting yourself through anothe difficult pregnancy!!!

2006-12-24 17:24:51 · answer #10 · answered by miss caitlin 1 · 0 0

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