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we live in california. He is a bad influence on my ten yr old. Drugs are involved.

2006-12-24 09:00:51 · 25 answers · asked by ib_george_dubya_bush 1 in Politics & Government Law & Ethics

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nope he has all the rights as you to be there. it could take up to 2 months to make him move depending on the courts.

2006-12-24 09:08:43 · answer #1 · answered by frogonmybutt 3 · 0 1

Sorry not to answer your question, but the fact you are skipping to a legal question might indicate you are missing the other issues. Usually the legal side of this type of question is the easy part. Whoever owns the house has the right to say who will live there. If you own it jointly you may have to contact an attorney to get a clear answer. I think you immediately need to go yourself to a professional family counselor. I would say you and the father need to have some serious discussions and get in agreement on what steps you are going to take. 1. No drugs in house, 2. Drug counseling and monthly drug testing, 3. Get a job and make financial and contribute to house upkeep (chores).
Good luck

2006-12-24 09:13:56 · answer #2 · answered by Gatsby216 7 · 0 0

I have a friend who had the same problem. He have his stepson a 3-month deadline for getting a job and a life. Each afternoon, he would print out a "Number Of Days Left To Getting A Life" note and put it in his room. The daily reminders actually worked !!!

2006-12-24 09:10:55 · answer #3 · answered by Bill P 5 · 0 0

multiple issues at play here.... you mean to tell me you knew none of this when dating and marrying his father? what arrangements did you agree to with your husband concerning his son? you need to talk to your spouse and lay out the problems. your stepson is now your combined problem, just like your 10 yr old son now is. have you tried speaking with your stepson? maybe he's having some major adjustment difficulties too. maybe time for a family forum, where you don't play the role of the evil stepmom. let dad take a little responsibility too. if you can't work it out as a group, then yes you will have to reconsider your position especially for the good of your own son, wherever that may lead.

2006-12-24 09:19:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Since he is 18, you can legally evict him, but I think it has to be 30 days notice, so you can say you gave him enough time to find a job and a place to live. And the drug involvement and bad influence to you 10-yr old daughter will also help your case, IF you do have to go to some court or something.

2006-12-24 09:08:03 · answer #5 · answered by ny2la_usamex 3 · 2 2

Unfortunately, kids from a former marriage usually can put an end to the current marriage. You don't have the problem. It is your husband. He needs to realize that his 14 year old son could end the marriage if this continues. This child should be made to follow the same rules as the rest of the kids. They are called "House Rules." If he doesn't want to follow them, he should be returned to the mother. I think you have custody for a reason. There was no discipline and now she can't handle him so you get stuck with the kid. Good luck and keep your options open.

2016-05-23 04:31:17 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Talk with your husband and set rules. Get a job, NO DRUGS, LOSE THE FRIENDS, Start paying own way-food, rent, share of utilities. Set time period for him to start doing those things.
If he refuses then since he isn't paying rent and living there free does not need to be given eviction notice, is living at will, THROW HIS BUTT OUT, he is 18 you are NOT OBLIGATED to support him anymore. I know it sounds cruel and mean but younger son needs to come first. And, yes he will scream and holler and try to put a guilt trip on you and your husband, but both of you will need to have a BACKBONE and FOLLOW THROUGH.

2006-12-24 13:14:30 · answer #7 · answered by trollwzrd 3 · 0 0

Yes, he's an adult and your wife does not have to keep him in the house or give him any support. Throw him out.

Eviction notices are not necessary for family members, unless they have a separate space in the property (in-law apartment or something) and have been paying rent for it.

2006-12-24 09:26:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

well he is over 18 so legally can find his own place. so lay down the rules with you and your spouse to him. pay rent buy food and no drugs. or there is the door. he has not payed rent so he is there at will and no eviction should be necessary. the only reason he is staying is that you have not told him to leave.

2006-12-24 09:03:11 · answer #9 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 2 0

Yes. He is an adult at 18 and you can make him leave. If he refuses to leave, call the police. Save your 10 year-old, get rid of the loser.

2006-12-24 09:04:30 · answer #10 · answered by Joe 5 · 1 0

Yes you can legally now as for being able to live with his mother afterward that may be a whole different question.

2006-12-24 13:40:05 · answer #11 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0 0

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