My husband wants to go to Christmas eve mass with me and our two daughters (18 months and 3 months) tonight. Which I would love for him to do. But he works until 6 or 7 and the mass I'd like to go to is at 4:30 and 6:30. My mom will be at the 6:30 one and will help with the kids. He wants me to wait until the 8 o'clock mass... out kids get cranky at that time b/c it is bedtime for them. And my best friend is directing the play at 4:30 and 6:30 and I missed it last year b/c he wanted me to wait for him...What should I do? Go to the 6 o'clock mass or wait for him at 8?
2006-12-24 07:53:06 · 21 answers · asked by mom of 2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you're a family, go to mass together with the kids. put them down for a nap now if you can or ask your mom to go with your family at 8:00. it's Christmas, we all try to work around things all year but now is not the time to swing things to make it fit without family first.
there is usually a nursery at mass, that might be an answer for the restless kids
2006-12-24 07:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by blueJean 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I Think You Should Go To The 6:30 And Take Your Kids And Let Your Mom Help Out-After It's Over, Ask Your Mom If She Could Baby-Sit For A While-Everybody's Happy!
2006-12-24 16:04:54 · answer #2 · answered by ILY♥!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your friend's play at 4:30. Then go to the 6:30 mass with Mom and kids. Then go again to the 8:00 mass with husband and leave the kids with Mom for 1hour (you then get to spend quality time with husband alone) It's sweet that your hubby wants to attend mass with you. Seems like alot to do in one day. If I must cut out an event, I'd cut out the play. Your friend will understand.
2006-12-24 15:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by Autumn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go to the 6:30 mass with your mom and have her watch the kids when you go to the 8:00 mass with your husband
2006-12-24 15:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by rmartin537 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand you wanting to go early and you should, but also go to the 8:00 with your husband. If the little ones get cranky at that time then ask Mom to watch them or get a babysitter for the Early Masses and but them down for a late nap. That way they won`t be cranky and the family gets to be together on Christmas. Hope Everything Works Out. GOD BLESS YOUR FAMILY & GOOD LUCK
2006-12-24 16:01:14 · answer #5 · answered by mammafran77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i love my husband more than anyone else in the world. I would wait for him for an eternity. If being with me and our kids is what is important to him , then i will go with him. I would never pass up the chance to be with him. not for my mom and certainly not for a friend. if you really want to be a good friend, daughter, and (MOST importantly) wife, you could go to the 4:30 mass with your mom and for your friend, take the kids home for a nap. then go to 8pm mass with your loving husband. you know this only happens once a year and you could deal with cranky kids for one night to show the ones you love that you care about them. don't let your husband down though. he is who wants you to be there with him most. you are lucky to have a husband like that. most don't. merry Christmas. and i hope you choose the right thing.
2006-12-24 16:01:26 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with "Webballs"...Go with the kids at the 6:00 mass then drop the kids off at your mother house or something to watch the kids then go again to share the 8:00 mass with your husband.
Merry Christmas!!!
2006-12-24 15:57:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I commend your desire to be a dutiful wife, a dear friend, an exemplary mother, but HONEY, the world does not revolve around him.
Can you tell me why you are the one making sacrifices?? Can you tell me why you are being asked to change around YOUR plans, to accommodate HIM (AGAIN) nevermind what is best for the KIDS, YOUR MOM, and YOUR FRIEND? It looks to me like he is outnumbered 5 to 1. You compromised for him last year. This year, he can take a sacrifice and tell his boss that HE HAS TO LEAVE EARLY, and he will come back if he needs to. "Marriage is about compromise".
It works out well if you go to the early mass, with the kids and your mother, and to support your friend. Those things are very important.
I think it's important that he respects you and what is important to you (just as you are respecting that he has to go to work at certain times - do you see what I'm saying?) and if he is still insistent that you go to mass with him then maybe your mom will take the kids back to your house and put them to bed so you can enjoy a second mass at 8 with your husband ("a date") which is also important for making a marriage last.
Regardless, you deserve more respect. And it's his turn to compromise.
(Note: I also think it's funny how he can't even give you a definite time that he will be off of work yet he expecting you to move mountains to accomodate him. Is he cheating or something??)
2006-12-24 16:08:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wait for your husband. You and he have a family together and you should go to Mass as a family. The little ones will be cranky, but you can deal with that.
2006-12-24 15:56:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to the one you want to. If it really meant that much to him he could find a way to be there (if he has the kind of job where it is possible to work these things out). This obviously means allot to you. Maybe you could do the early one with the kids. Get mom to sit and go to the later one alone with him. Just a thought. Good luck and Merry Christmas!
2006-12-24 16:00:25 · answer #10 · answered by crct2004 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋