Ok.. So, Im in highschool.... I was never the most popular kid in like.. elementary, or junior high.. but then I went to highschool.... I started kindof hanging out with the more "popular" kids.... becoming more social.... but I started blowing off my real friends... who actually cared about me...
Well.... Just recently ive realiezed I dont hang out with the "popular" people after school.. or on the weekends.. EVER.... at school.. i talk to them.. sit at lunch with them... and are seen with them.. and I feel like.. i only do it for my image.... but I never actually see them outside of school??.. do they not want to be friends with me??... dont know what to do..
2006-12-24 07:51:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you chose poorly.
2006-12-24 07:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you seen the movie Mean Girls? If these people wanted to be your friend, they would have been you friend a long time ago, not just now. Your true friends are going to be there forever, so don't blow them off. I tried to hang out with "the cool kids" but they made fun of me because I acted like MYSELF. I sat and watched people I knew pretty well act like something they weren't just because these certain people were around. I thought, screw this. You are better off being yourself, and you'll feel better about yourself in the end. Don't be plastic.
2006-12-24 08:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by ErinRae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you will not have good friends until YOU are a good friend. Life is too short to try to hang with people that probably don't even care if you come around or not. Try to build relationships that last. Seek first to understand, then to be understood (from a Franklin Covey Workshop).
I am in my 30s and still have friends from Kindergarten! It will work out. You are still finding yourself.
Kudos to you for thinking about what is...REAL!
2006-12-24 08:00:30 · answer #3 · answered by Content One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize to your real friends who care about you if they have been offended. Next, the popular people must not be that into you or they would take the time to be with you outside of school. thats ok. You already have some real friends, nurture those relationships.
2006-12-24 08:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by furiousstyles22003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go and find the real friends and start hanging with them cause the in crowd isn't in when they are all stuck up and don't care if you fall out of a tree they wouldn'y help you up off the ground so find some real friends again and lose the losers!!
2006-12-24 07:54:57 · answer #5 · answered by Jerry D H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These "popular" people are never true friends, for they will never tell you to your face what they think, and expect the same of you because its all part of the image they are trying to portray. I've been good friends with some people for more than ten years all because we are honest to one another whenever one of us is pissed of because of what the other did. Just relax and stick to those who have been there when you've been down and you'll understand who your true friends really are.
2006-12-24 07:57:28 · answer #6 · answered by Hexx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be admitting that your real friend were the people you blew off so that you could spend time with the popular kids...I think that is a major thing to admit to yourself and to others...since you seem to be regretting having blown off your real friends, I would suggest trying to make amends--make up with them and try to reapir your friendships with them...There is no point in being friends with people--even if they are popular and cool--if you don't really enjoy their company--Good luck making and keeping true friends--you are learning some valuable lessons....
2006-12-24 08:01:47 · answer #7 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can't really give you a good answer because I don't have any friends to hang out with, either. I have acquaintances but no one that I can call to go do something or help me if I need it.. I think some people just don't really need friends. Best of luck to you!
2006-12-24 07:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to doing it only for your image....but really what kind of image are you giving off? It seems to me you should worry about friends who will be there for life. Like ones who would call you if you were sick., or if a family member died, or when you get married. I had a friend who totally ignored me in High School at school, but as soon as school was out she was at my house basicly living there. One day she asked me to take her to this party , and I was supposed to go to the movies with my friend Jennifer and my sister so I droped them off at the mall and told them I was going to go park the car, which of course I lied. We went and seen these people alright and ended up at a party. My so called friend locked me out of my car to make out with this guy and I was at this party with all these strangers, I ended up getting drunk cuz I was so nervous and forgot about my sister. Well needless to say I got in ALOT of trouble. But when My so called friend was questioned about it , she told my Parents it was all my idea. Turns out that if you dont act like you are your real friends - Friend, You are no friend at all. Think about it and save your real friends.....In the real world after school is out those people you sit at the table with at lunch will probably never care if they see you again, and those people you left behind will cherish their memories of you.
2006-12-24 08:03:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the friends you refer to don't even see each other out of school time.
Build on the friendships you have with these people and one day, ask to meet on a weekend.
2006-12-24 07:56:40 · answer #10 · answered by Just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real friends are who u should be with not friends just for ur image buddy.
2006-12-24 07:57:12 · answer #11 · answered by dahulkx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋