2006-12-24 07:12:19 · 33 answers · asked by dgebhardt79 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
maybe she wants to back off until you marry her? maybe she feels used and that you expect sex and she wants to make sure you love her for her and not just the sex. just talk to her and she will tell you whats wrong
2006-12-24 07:14:31 · answer #1 · answered by ?! 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Women usually use their birth-given asset to get what they want. You are at a disadvantage position because already you are crying for help. The cold bedroom treatment is only a warning for worse to come. If you think that she is the marriage type and you feel that it is not easy for you to live without her, then marry her. Take her to a jewelry store and even if you do not buy anything, be ready to score that night. Man/woman relationship is a game. After the marriage the game will last until the woman feels that she is off the shelf and then you become the one and only one.
2006-12-24 09:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by alpha & omega 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer to that one!!
Sex is the fundamental building block of a good marriage,
and rightfully so.
Intimacy with a spouse is 'the' most important thing for holding
the relationship together.
If, all of a sudden she has changed and no longer desires the
intimacy between you, you've already lost the bond that needs to be there for marriage, and something has caused this, possibly
lack of 'true love' and commitment on her part..
You would really be a 'fool' if you married this girl/woman.
My answer is only summized by the info you have given us here.
2006-12-24 07:25:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try the romantic approach, women are sucka's for romance. Suprise her one night with candles and rose petals and make love to her. Maybe she's tired of foreplay and the sex that the two of you were having and wants a change. Or take her to a hotel room where you have already set up candles and rose petals, give her a romantic rose petal bubble bath, rub her, massage her, and then make romantic passionate love to her. Good Luck!
2006-12-24 08:10:38 · answer #4 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is absolutely right. Please note there is a wedding bell between foreplay and sex. She will be fine just make up your mind you want to marry her or not. You said "We used to have Foreplay" that means she is ready for the next stage. Give her the right to deny sex before marriage. Her virginity should not be questioned and she holds it for you.
If you are planning to marry her go ahead or else just forget her and give her right to deny sex before marriage.
2006-12-24 16:42:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sir, no one can answer that question but her. Communicate with her in a loving way. Tell her you want to know why these things have changed. It may be something physical, and then something else. In a loving way just tell her how concerned you are, and most certainly do not want to hurt her. Communication is one of the most important things you will find in a lasting relationship.
2006-12-24 07:24:09 · answer #6 · answered by Joyous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Red flag time. Wedding cake is usually what kills the sex drive in women. Something has gone wrong in bed between you two that she isn't telling you. Not a good foundation for marriage. Sex is the mortar between the bricks of a good relationship -- not possible to build a sturdy relationship without it. Tell her goodbye and move along. Good luck.
2006-12-24 08:54:26 · answer #7 · answered by David W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut your loss and run like the wind. Any female that has been 'putting-out', THEN decides to use her charms as if it were gold, needs to be booted.
You've sampled her 'wares' from the sound of it. Tell us, is she what you want for life. I think not. Try fishing in a new pond, the game here is gone.
2006-12-24 07:19:13 · answer #8 · answered by LifeRyder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think "backing off" is the right thing to do as someone else suggested ... especially if you love her. I really don't know what to tell you except the fact that you need to tell her that you are questioning marriage at the moment because you are having a sexual dysfunction/incompatability issue. The ONLY way to even come up with a solution is to talk to her!
2006-12-24 07:19:44 · answer #9 · answered by wtfustaringat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
according to culture this is the best way ....and u should touch her after marrage only ...may be she fears that u will leave herafter u have sex with her ...because its the biggest tradition of males that if they have their stomach filled why will they touch the food in the same way if u satisfy why will u go to her again ....so make her comfartable with u explain her all this and get married if it suits u
2006-12-26 22:11:20 · answer #10 · answered by shiva k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If sex is important to you, RUN AWAY. My husband's best friend married a woman under almost identical circumstances. They are still married, have a 2 year old child, but haven't had sex since the kid was conceived. Trust me, it's not gonna get better once you get married.
2006-12-24 07:21:05 · answer #11 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋