He won't be happy until it's all gone and I am so anti alcohol but yet every Christmas he does this and it causes arguments, he says I am being a ***** but he changes when he drinks this ****, should I pour it down the sink, he's already lied as to how much he's had....
2006-12-24 06:38:30 · 22 answers · asked by georgeygirl 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Welcome to my world ..I have one just like that. Try the trick of dumping part of it out and watering it down..as long as he is mixing it..he wont know. Or just dump little extra bits out at a time after he has mixed a drink.. saves the arguement of dumping it all out at once and getting caught at it..he will just think that hes finished it off sooner that way.
2006-12-24 06:46:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately if he wants a drink so desperately he will have one - for every bottle you get rid of there will be another one hidden. There is only one person who can stop your husband drinking and that is himself.
Try your best not to lose your temper when he has had a drink - alcohol is far more powerful than you - if he is drunk he will not hear you so the only person who will be upset is you. I know this is far easier said than done, but I do know the more you try to stop him drinking the more determined he will be to drink
If this only happens at Christmas then plan to do something which you can both do or equally you can do without him should he be the worse for wear.
If it is only Christmas then focus on the positive side, this is only 2 days out of 365, on the other hand if it is happening more rrequently find an Al Anon meeting - these are specifically for friends and relatives of alcoholics but help people to focus on themselves and not the alcoholic.
Good luck
2006-12-24 10:43:09 · answer #2 · answered by PMF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's a once a year thing, let him have his Christmas spirits. As long as he's home and driving under the influence, let him drink until he passes out. I'm assuming he doesn't drink like a fish any other time and that he is a good husband otherwise. I know it hurts you and causes problems, but as long as he's not hurting anyone, lighten up. Maybe you should have a couple of glasses of wine and relax with him. You know, too, holidays affect people in different ways. He may not have had many happy holiday memories and does this drinking to numb a little pain. Not trying to make excuses for him, just trying to see both sides.
2006-12-24 06:49:13 · answer #3 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband and you seem to have different ideas of how to celebrate the holidays. Sounds like he may have a drinking problem.Don't pour it down the sink, it'll just piss him off and he'll find more anyway. Try to back off deal with this until after Christmas. It doesn't sound like you're gonna have much fun this holiday with him but if you have kids or other family members, try to keep it festive for them. It's called faking it. Let your husband know this is the last Christmas he's gonna behave this way and he can take it or leave it. He needs help but he won't look for it until he's ready. You may have to take some drastic measures to make sure he knows you mean business. Good luck and Merry Christmas!
2006-12-24 06:46:28 · answer #4 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to drink sensibly, It sound like you have already tried this before so it probably won't work. Tell him if he says no that it's you or the alcohol, it seems drastic but if he is not willing to control his drinking habits then he does not seem worthy of having a relationship with. especially when he calls you a b.itch! that is totally unnecessary and he needs a wake up call if he thinks that he can just walk all over you like that. So if your husband chooses his alcohol over you he was never worth it in the beginning.
:) good luck and merry Christmas
2006-12-24 06:44:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pour it down the sink, only a real biatch would do such a thing during the holidays. If you begrudge him having one bottle a year you really aren't very nice.
Instead of complaining about it, which probably causes his mood swing to the negative side.
I suggest you make both yourself a drink and join him drink for drink.
hope you both have a merry christmas.
2006-12-24 07:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can understand what a task you are about to have to undertake for a few days now. Just be carefull and try not to agrivate the situation by arguing, best wait till he becomes sober and have a long chat with him. Good luck and patience may be a key issue here.
2006-12-24 06:44:38 · answer #7 · answered by deep in thought 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to a relatives house for Christmas try going there tonight. Leave your hubby at home. And when he calls you don't talk to him unless he is completely sober. Tell him you are not coming home until he fixes this behavior and that he setting a poor example if you have kids.
2006-12-24 07:32:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel, its my husbands birthday today, he has not had much to drink, thank god as we have have had lots of visitors today, but,yes, when there is a bottle in the house he MUST drink it, then he starts getting moody and nasty, must say that he does not drink too often, it does spoil the day when he ends up sulking, you have to just go with the flow,,, good luck x x
2006-12-24 06:45:05 · answer #9 · answered by captain jack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he drink the rest of the year? If this is the only time he drinks then I think you are over-reacting.
2006-12-24 06:50:09 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋