She is tall and skinny with short hair and loves soprts. She only dresses up fo church. I think she's sometimes embarassed to go into public bathrooms. What should I do?
2006-12-24 06:34:28 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
she hates dress up and make-up and doesn't want long hair
2006-12-24 06:43:58 · update #1
so your daughter sounds just like my best friend. my best friend has a mohawk, wears baggy clothes, and no make-up...often mistaken for a boy. since i have never had to deal with this, i can't give the best advice, but if it bothers her that much she can try to do somethings like wearing clothes that obviously girl clothes. i'm not saying like hot pink tank tops, but stuff that is like from stores that are popular like target or american eagle...also, my best friend started wearing mascara. it bothered her that people thought she was a boy for a long time...she used to get mistaken as my boyfriend...but you just get through it and try to help her out. talk to her about it though...i don't know how to tell you to start that conversation, though! I hope this helped a little bit.
2006-12-24 06:40:18 · answer #1 · answered by miss caitlin 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't have to pile on makeup. Get her to do basics like powder, blush, lip gloss and mascara. Even if her hair is short I'm sure she can doing something stylish with is, maybe blow dry it a different way.
I had a friend that was a real tomboy at 13. Find out what kind of
girly stuff does interest her and work off that. I mean, pink tee's and a neat pair of jeans that flare with some low heel or no heel black dress shoes or boots. Paint her nails, jewelry, I mean there are so many ways to dress her girly without dressing her prissy. If she's into sports, they sell jewelry with sports teams, they sell girl tee's in nice colors with sports teams.
2006-12-24 12:34:44 · answer #2 · answered by mirmade13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything. If you try and force the situation, she will naturally rebel, and then you won't even be able to get her to dress up for church. Eventually, she will find a boy and start dressing girly for him. No boy wants to be out manned, and everygirl knows that. She'll grow up in her own time. Trust me, I'm 14, and that girl was me last year. Besides, if you start telling her what to wear, you will just start a power struggle, and no one can win. Whatever you do, don't stop her sports. Every body needs a creative outlet, and sports may do that for her. Secondly, Ignore that crazy biznitch who just called your daughter a lesbian. She doesn't know what she's talking about. Oh, and regarding the public Bathrooms, me too. THEY ARE GROSS. THAT'S IT. Nothing more, nothing less.
2006-12-24 07:13:55 · answer #3 · answered by Elena M 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You say she hates to dress up or wear make up. It sounds like she is quite content and happy with herself the way she is and thats just fine! It would be great if everyone was as secure as she is in their appearances! She could always let her hair grow out and style it in a cute way, or start dressing a little more feminine- like nicer silky tops kinda thing. But let her be herself and be comfortable the way she is. You can offer suggestions and let her know u r there for her always if she wants any advice or help but if she is content the way she is thats GREAT for her!
2006-12-25 14:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats her choice. she doesnt seem to have a problem with it.. and she seems fine the way she is if she insnt complainign to you about it. i guess she is in her "tomboy stage" right now. lol she may grow out of it but maybe not. does she have her ears puerced? if she wants them piered then go let her. maybe buy some brets or clips for her hair. or take her to go get highlights in her hair. since she doesnt liek make up and all that. but there is nothign really more you can do. if she doesnt like the way she is she wouldve changed a while ago. but she seems comfrotable in her own skin so dont be so worried about it!
2006-12-24 08:17:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry!! My sister and I were both mistaken for boys when we were younger (were twins). Now, we are quit feminine if i do say so myself.
In your case, if she is embarrassed to go to the bathroom, you are really going to try and explain to her that maybe having longer hair or having her ears pierced will help people recognize her as a girl. Just do it in a subtle way as possible.
2006-12-26 03:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her a pair of girl jeans, the ones that are tighter around the thighs and flair at the bottom, guys wear baggy ones, not these ones. But if she really wants to dress and act the way she does, let her. Do not force her to act and dress a way she feels is uncomfortable or stupid.
2006-12-24 08:34:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it just you thats bothered with her appearance or is she too? i was just like this when i was 13 as wel. almost every1 thought i was a guy and some ppl used to think that im datind when i hung out with ma girl friends. .but as time went by i started changing and now i have shoulder lenght hair and im the prettiest girl in the class. and my friends are so surprised about the change. so my advice is... just let her be. if she wants to change she will. don't force her to do things she doesnt like to do. even if she changes she cant just change over night. it'l take time. possibly years. actually i changed after i finished schoolin! so dun worry about her. she'l be just fine. she's stil in her growin years. actually she just started her teenage years! give her time. even if she doesn't change...what the hell...i know loads of tomboys and i think they are really cool!
2006-12-24 08:16:52 · answer #8 · answered by greek_myth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her more girl-y. since she likes sports maybe some bright (comfy) clothes. Pretty, but not clingy or aggervating, hair clips to make her hair sparkely while sitll not getting in the way, a bit of make-up, you know, lip gloss, maybe some mascara or try perfume. You can't see it, but she;ll smell more femine. nothing too much, but just something to make her shine :). I used to be the same way and all of these worked for me.
2006-12-24 10:13:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Earrings...only if she wants them. Her clothing style would be a best guess.
Does she pick out her own clothing? If she does, then she happy the way she looks. Let her lead you.
If she is really uncomfortable, she'll change her clothing. Just support her...13 is a difficult age for a girl.
2006-12-24 08:09:46 · answer #10 · answered by dearreal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋