My husband and i have been 2gether for 5 years maried for 2 and now i want to date other guys i know that is not a good idea but i need relationship advice please help! what can i do?
2006-12-24 06:21:10 · 12 answers · asked by lovable_walker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you can do one of two things, get a divorce or stay faithful to your husband. Just dont turn into a cheater. Maybe there is a reason why you are thinking of dating other guys.. Talk to your husband and see if you two can get some of the love back in your marriage
2006-12-24 06:34:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As my auntie says...........'Don't throw away your marriage. If you need a strange piece of tail fine, get some.'
How 'open' is your marriage? Try getting into the swingers clubs, that should fill your need(s). Maybe it will fill you husband's needs also, or give him ideas how to get YOU back on track.
Most people hink about having a 'fling' at some point in the marriage. It's refeerred to as the 'seven year itch'. Sounds like that's where you are at.
My advise is to discuss it openly. If you choose to proceed, remember to 1) play safe, 2) don't bring it home, 3) don't see a fling as a future together, 4) remember 'which side your bread is buttered' 5) a walk on the wild side is just that, no long term.
2006-12-24 14:55:20 · answer #2 · answered by LifeRyder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see this is why i fear getting married because people nowadays don't take marriage seriously at all so why even bother. Marriage is not just setting for the d@mn reception hall!! Its a committment between 2 people who are willing to spend their life together. And you have the nerve to ask should you date somebody else?? If your marriage meant anything to you would talk it out with your husband and go to marriage counseling. If not then get a divorce and let him be with someone that really wants to be with him and be devoted to him.
2006-12-24 16:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already answered your question. So my relationship advice is to stop dreaming about dating other guys and make your marriage work.
The only way to be semi-faithfully married and date other people is to join a SWINGERS group, at least that way you have your husbands blessing (and he has yours) to sleep with other people. I hope no children are involved because swinging can cause other problems in a relationship.
2006-12-24 14:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am I understanding that this is your second marriage? And now you want to start another one? If you cannot make this one work, what makes you think that the new relationship is going to last? When you're married to someone, wouldn't you want your spouse to be faithful to you? Talk to your husband and make an appointment with a marriage counselor.
2006-12-24 14:43:24 · answer #5 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about how your life would be without him. Are you ready to give up on your marriage? If you can picture the rest of your life without your husband, it's time to split.
Are you just bored? If you really want to save your marriage you're going to need to spice things up. Get away, do fun, sexy things. Recognize that it's pretty common to get bored after several years but it's up to both of you to keep the marriage alive. Good luck!
2006-12-24 14:39:09 · answer #6 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that you weren`t ready for marriage, If you feel like dating other men then your marriage is over, and it`s only fair that you talk it over with your husband.
If you want this marriage to survive then you must put all thoughts of dating other men out of your mind. Yo have to choose .... your husband or other men, you can`t have both, it`s not fair on your husband.
2006-12-24 15:47:49 · answer #7 · answered by Tatty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating and Married? Sounds like a threesome to me, and in a threesome fun at first but sooner or later someone starts feeling left out. Be married or be single again and date.
2006-12-24 15:39:16 · answer #8 · answered by chosen37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how does your husband feel about it? i assume you have talked to him about it?
if not then that is your first step, cuz maybe he feels the same way, or maybe he will try to win you back, if you let him know what you need from him.
swingers thing sound good for you, if your husband agrees. then you can have your cake and eat it too.
2006-12-24 15:21:13 · answer #9 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your husband wants to date too.
2006-12-24 14:40:21 · answer #10 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋