But we still talk and get along good I still love her as much as I did when we first got married she completes me, we both have dated other people, we both love our son very much I just wish she would come home and give this another try, because we both got along very well, its killing our families and friends because they dont understand why she want try, the reason she gave me 4 leaving was that she felt 4 along time I didnt care 4 her, and in away I can look back now and realize why she would fill that way, we got together when we were16 and we both worshiped the ground each of us walked on, we were always together no matter what, we dated for 2 years and got married still very happy 2 years later we had a son, but for the last year we were together I kinda got into working out alot an not being tha man I should she tells me she thinks sometimes y is she doing this an she wants 2 come home an she wants another child but only if its by me, but she says shes not ready, whats wrong
2006-12-24 06:15:50 · 11 answers · asked by bd4arms 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's complicated, maybe your wife suffered a lot without you knowing it and the idea of going back to that dreads her. I suggest if you really love her like it sounds then make her see you are willing to change what went wrong, show her your love and concern for her. Start from scratch and conquer her, win her over again. Be the person that you are expressing now. Good luck!
2006-12-24 06:28:49 · answer #1 · answered by shygal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so sad. Your wife needs to be convinced that you are serious about putting her and the family first. After being with someone for so long it's easy to take people for granted. Let her know that you will continue to work hard for your family but your family will come always come first. Please don't consider having another child as a means to keep her. If it doesn't work out, you'll have two kids to miss. Remember, actions speak louder than words.
2006-12-24 06:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yall got married so young, probably lost your virginities to each other, and yall have not lived. She now has a taste of life outside of you and she is doing things she should have been doing as a teenager and a young adult.
Give her her space. You need to understand that she needs to live right now and know things outside of you which never gave each other the chance to do because you married so young and had a child. It is not that she does not love you, but she is doing things for herself. Like I said, maybe you both should have taken this step in life before getting married but you cant go back, so now you have to deal.
2006-12-24 06:26:33 · answer #3 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible you are taking her for granted. Nothing wrong with working out, however are you doing this instead of taking care of her? Do you spend more time with the guys at the gym then you do your wife? If so that could be the problem, after you leave your job .... Do you go home to your wife and child or do you go to the gym?
2006-12-24 06:38:35 · answer #4 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you give her a good enough reason for her to feel that you're back to the same person you were during happy time?
She is afraid of having to deal with the same issues all over again; who wants to go through that?
2006-12-24 06:48:59 · answer #5 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two really love each other you should work it out... Not just for the two of you, but for your son.. .GO seek counseling. It's ok to need help from others.
2006-12-24 06:30:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if she has a case of "IS THE GRASS GREENER". Let her find out that it is not. Also, you might have to give her incentive by showing her your life will move on with or without her. That drives em crazy
2006-12-24 06:33:05 · answer #7 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to prove to her that you love her and that you are going to do whatever you can to make things right. Do not put pressure on her because it will make it worse. Also, I think that you both need to seek some counseling.
2006-12-24 07:56:25 · answer #8 · answered by mydds07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happens more than you think.
try to stay focused and clear headed. don't make rash or big decisions, like having a baby.
let her wander around, and you be the stable anchor.
and you must decide if your going take her back.
2006-12-24 06:20:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lison maybe you guys should try to get some help from a councleing.
2006-12-24 06:19:13 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgraciesmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋