My spouse an former best friend do not like each other because my spouse started trouble for her. This cost me my best friend because she didn't want to come between me and the spouse.
2006-12-24 05:55:57 · 8 answers · asked by bashfulblonde97 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sounds like your spouse is jealous of your friendship with your best friend, not uncommon. to answer your question, no....he needs to keep out of your friendship with your friend. It's important for people to have friends even though they are married. It's healthy. Insecurity will lead the two of you down divorce lane if you get my meaning. He needs to knock it off. If he really loved, trusted and respected you this wouldn't be a problem. You might want to evaluate your marriage.
2006-12-24 06:14:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
That is a very bad situation. Although you're married now and your husband is suppose to be the most important person in your life, there's no reason why you can't have your friend, too. Your husband should tell your best friend he is sorry though, even if he doesn't like her. But you should be able to spend time with them both separately. I know this seems tough, but I hope it works out for you. Hopefully your friend is very understanding and I hope you don't lose her. Good luck!
2006-12-24 06:29:52 · answer #2 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you get married your husband is supposed to become the most important person in your life besides yourself, unless you have children.
You're friend needs to understand that although she's your friend, you're MARRIED now. Your husband comes first. Now, if your husband is starting trouble for your friend, I see that as a problem as well. It is very possible to separate the two. You should be able to have your friend AND your husband. Maybe your husband owes your friend an apology. I don't know the situation but if you think your man was in the wrong, you should encourage him to apologize to your friend. It's such a touchy situation.
2006-12-24 05:59:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no longer with out issues starting to be to be an emotional affair. regardless of if the two pals never sleep collectively, I nonetheless have faith it somewhat is cheating whilst an stronger half has to instruct to a distinctive exterior of marraige for emotional success. Does one misinform spouse approximately how lots time is spent with the buddy? Does one get excited basically questioning approximately contacting or seeing the buddy next? Does one desire the spouse never shows out how lots this buddy potential? If any of the solutions are definite, then the married individual needs to take a step returned and reassess the marraige till now this friendship is going any added. Emotional affairs could properly be harder to forgive than actual affairs...giving ones physique in the warmth of the 2nd is one element, yet giving somebody else exterior of marraige ones coronary heart & desires & laughs is yet another element thoroughly.
2016-10-28 07:21:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar experience with my marriage. I think that if it is a friend that you had before you met your husband it would be better to balance the friendship and marriage , they dont have to talk to each other. A loving husband wont make you choose, you need someone to talk to, to laugh with and when you are down on your luck just to be your sounding board. Your husband cant always be all those things cuz sometimes you are going to have problems with him and she may be the only one you have to talk to. I repaired my friendship to a certain extent after 7 1/2 years of marriage , but it was never the same. Now I am married again and my husband now cant stand my best friend cuz honestly she is irritating and strange, but she is my strange irritaing friend not his. He just deals with it and lets me go get coffee with her once a week and that is ok with me. I dont bring her home to see him and he is fine with that. I would never give up my friend and my friend will never make me give up my husband. That would be my choice, and I say No
2006-12-24 06:16:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was trully your best friend she would get over not liking your spouse. I hated my best friends husband, but that didn't keep me away. She knew I didn't like him and so did he for that matter. But I sucked it up and realized that if she loved him and I wanted to keep my friendship with her I would have to accept him. However, they did get a divorce so I didn't have to put up with him for very long.
2006-12-24 05:59:40 · answer #6 · answered by Sissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people can do whatever there like it is better for U to choose than her so if U want her more than your spouse leave and go with her
2006-12-24 06:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by Richard e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a difficult situation with no easy answer. Maybe you need to talk to them both and just relay your desire to have them both in your life.
2006-12-24 05:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋