my son is going to be 6 months at the begining of Jan. And he has slept in his bed in his room a few times. But mostly in our room in his crib. I don't understand why its so hard for me for him to be in his room. He is my 1st child but I've been fine with other stuff like leaving his alone with his aunt for a few hours and stuff like that. I just don't know how to deal with him being in his room. And don't understand why its so hard. HIs room is right next to mine. So its not like tis faror anything. Am I crazy or is this normal???
2006-12-24 05:48:24 · 8 answers · asked by Sondra 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I have a baby monitor
2006-12-24 06:49:28 · update #1
You are sooo not crazy! Don't stress! It is hard for many reasons: it is new, the baby is your first, sleeping with him is so protective and safe, and many more reasons. The only thing you have to remember is feelings are normal, it is how you deal with them that makes you who you are. I would suggest to move him in his room for naps only. Then a few days later try his room. Just be consistent. I have three kids and the biggest indicator of failure is when I am not consistent. I cried with all of them moved into their own room and out of my bed, but it is what was best for my marriage and me. I need my privacy, space, snuggle time with my husband, and many more reasons to have them move. Just don't try to push down your feelings, allow yourself to be sad and upset. I sat outside their rooms crying, as they cried, BUT they learned to comfort themselves and that is a wonderful LIFE lesson. I gave them that gift and now they are happy and healthy. Remember babies cry, as well as moms! Good luck!
2006-12-24 06:03:23 · answer #1 · answered by tesiemay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is all up to how you feel about having your baby sleep with you. My daughter is 21/2 and she still sleeps in our bed. Its not that she don't have her own room or bed because she does. I just could never do it. I feel so much better knowing that she is right by me and her daddy. I also asked her doctor about it and he said as long as it doesn't come in between you and your husband and both are fine with it there is no problem with it. Good luck. It's a very hard one and you will get many different answers, but keep in mind it's no body's choose but you and the baby's father.
2006-12-24 05:56:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is VERY normal. There are advocates of the "Family Bed". That is that the children can sleep there if they choose to but also have their own place.
My husband never liked it but I would let them lay next to me until they were comforted, then return them to their bed.
My youngest did this until he was seven. Hubby and I still a good sex life because when the child knows it's ok to be there for a little while, they accept going back to their bed.
Besides, who really likes to sleep all alone?
2006-12-24 06:14:58 · answer #3 · answered by mosdesertrose 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Normal, as you are one of the parents with a little doubt in you. You may be afraid the boogeyman is going to take him. Just buy a baby monitor where you can hear him in his room. If this is not enough than buy a security camera, where you can precede to watch him with a TV screen in your room and it will be just like he is there with you. If you son is too spoiled, he may cry at times, but will get used to you not being there next to him. This may sometimes happen.
2006-12-24 05:59:34 · answer #4 · answered by Big C 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My older 2 have been the two of their very very own rooms by utilising 6 months and the transition replaced into quite ordinary. I moved the cot, placed them in there and not in any respect appeared back. even with the undeniable fact that, my 10 month previous remains in with us. the undeniable fact that his mattress room remains a breeze block shell without roof has lots to do with this however :) i think of the 1st element you will could desire to do is see him slumbering interior the direction of the entire night in his very own mattress. If he's used to waking, seeing then you getting a cuddle, waking on his very own in his very own room will no longer pass down properly. could or no longer that's too lots of a discomfort to pass the cot to his room for his sunlight hours naps yet save him with you at night? That way he gets used to slumbering there.
2016-10-05 23:36:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal, but you just have to dive in and get used to it. My son went to his own room at 5 months and yes, I slept very lightly so I could hear ever single noise, but I soon got used to it, and now, I wake up the second I hear him cry.
I'm a 1st time mom too.....
2006-12-24 06:48:18 · answer #6 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awe, I struggled with this one too. If you are not ready, then don't! They are only little for a small amount of time, and it passes too quickly! When you are ready, then you will want him to be in his own room. Don't put him there because your book, or mother, or sis says so. Do it when you are ready! Don't rush yourself, you will regret it!
Good Luck!
2006-12-24 10:37:05 · answer #7 · answered by hilfigirl1o1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the fear that something might go wrong and you will not be aware is very strong in new moms, and to over come this perhaps have him have his naps in his room and spend a few more months in your room until you feel comfortable, it is a time thing, and you will adjust
2006-12-24 06:35:39 · answer #8 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋