I am having a hard time with my boyfriend and his son.Things are tense between my BF and I because I will not allow his son to move in. The kid, 12, is violent and unstable, keep that in mind before you call me selfish.Anyway, he gets angry at me for very little things, he just yelled at me for leaving the refridgerator door open for about a minute while I got things out and put them back.I said, "please stop overreactng, you yell at me way too much and it is really starting to bother me." He stormed off to the spare room, at least hes quiet now. Lately I have been, as much as I hate to admit it, self centered. I refused to give a coworker a ride home the other day. It was only a little out of my way, and she would only have to wait about 45 minutes for her husband to pick her up, its not like she was stranded.I just dont feel like doing favors for anyone. I have put up very few Christmas decorations. My BF's son will be here next week and I am NOT looking forward to it.
2006-12-24 05:28:48 · 7 answers · asked by eastcoastdebra 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There is nothing wrong with protecting your sanity.
As with men who date a women with kids, it is a big change!
12 is within that age range that is not easy, and it goes on and on until the kid gets on there own. My Mr. just said to have the kid not come over. He is also wondering what your b/f does when the kid yells at you. My children are not my Mr's and these boys know Mr. will not tolerate them yelling at me.
Your home, then every one will just have to deal with your rules. This time of the year is so stressful anyways, who needs more stress added on?
If the b/f is this stressful then off he goes with his son in toe...
2006-12-24 05:47:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first responder. It seems like the tension between you and your boyfriend is creating tension in other areas of your life, or with other people. If you are saying that your boyfriend's son is moving in with you, and you don't feel as though you can handle him and your boyfriend. Then you need to end the relationship because it will only get worse if his child is as you described, proceeds to get in trouble as soon as he comes to your place, and you and your boyfriend get in an argument about the child in front of him as opposed to discussing how you would handle him in private. I know this because I am currently 20 years old (will be 21 next month) and this is where my parents messed up with my younger brother who is now 17 (but will be 18 next month, yes we were born in the same month but no one believes that were brother and sister because of the major difference in our personalities).
If you can't see youself breaking up with your boyfriend than you should lay down some ground rules before his son gets there. Hope I gave you some useful advice.
2006-12-24 13:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by lil_bit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to draw clear boundaries on what is acceptable and unacceptable. If the bf can't control his child, then the child can't stay in your house. The BF has an obligation to ensure that you are safe in your own house, and he may not be able to do this if the child is violent and unstable. He can't abandon his child, but he can discipline the child and let him know what behavior will not be accepted.
If your BF is not willing or able to control his child now, it will get worse as the kid gets older. You should consider ending the relationship if your BF can't be responsible for his kid.
2006-12-24 23:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like the best thing in the world for u and ur health and sanity is for that man to move out of ur place. It is ur place, right. if not then u go get ur own. a woman should always have her own place in case things don't work out. as far as the boy is concerned stick to ur guns if he is that out of control
good luck and God bless.
2006-12-24 13:51:23 · answer #4 · answered by Nora G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time for you move on for him and his son to move some place else its over
2006-12-24 13:40:45 · answer #5 · answered by pattibcacl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is just time for you to move on then. This is not a healthy enviroment for either of you.
2006-12-24 13:31:30 · answer #6 · answered by Biker 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i wish i could start all over with no memeory of here
2006-12-24 13:37:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋