There is one person at work that I never would have given a second thought about, until he made it completely obvious to me how he feels. We have worked together for a year. We have a great working relationship, our "signs" are very compatible for work, and romance. We see eachother in a out of work. Now, he talks about soul mates, having fantasies about being on one knee... (he has never married and is 52) I dont know how to respond.... I have been married for a long time.... any thoughts would really help me!
2006-12-24 05:28:28 · 15 answers · asked by lucky_one_happy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The guy sounds a little freaky, but whatever floats your boat. My mother started dating right after she filed her papers and she has been happily remarried for about sixteen years now. I don't know?
2006-12-24 05:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by Simon S 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Reverse the situation. Your a man working with a very attractive woman who just filed for divorce....................... CHA CHA CHING BABY!!!!!!! There is a reason why this guy is 52 and never married. Now all of a sudden he's talk'n soul mates???????? Baby I'd run like hell. Besides your work is your lively hood unless your very employable. What's going to happen when this guy turns creepy? You might have been born at night,....... but it sure wasn't last night! Your going to be happily single for the first time in along time......enjoy it ! There's an endless supply of guys out there like him...... Go out with your girlfriends to some upscale clubs and you'll agree.
2006-12-24 06:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by william k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he seems like Prince Charming he may not be. Have you ever thought about working on your relationship with your Husband? Bringing another man in just causes more problems and if you have Children imagine the hurt that stays with them forever. It seems to me that you think marriage is disposable. Don't think for a moment I have never wondered what it would be like with someone besides my husband. But what keeps me from ruining my marriage and my life and making myself look like a tramp, is the self respect I have and also that marriage isn't something to be taken lightly in the first place. If the man you are talking about knows you are married and he finds excitement in it now , what happens when he gets what he wants ruins your marriage and then dumps you because there is no longer any thrill in it cuz he has played his game and got the prize and he moves on and does it again with someone else. Apparently you like your ears tickled and there is a reason this man has never been married. You may say " Hey I already am going to divorce my husband" but the fact is you havent yet.
2006-12-24 05:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Finish up your relationship before starting a new one. Otherwise you will end up more confused and at the end you will be wonrdering what you did was right.
Try to quiet down, and make sure you are not thinking more likely to have a divorce because some guy finds you attractive. Let your marriage float or go down in flames by its own, and then make your own move.
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2006-12-24 06:06:04 · answer #4 · answered by Miranto 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 03:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is a suggestion: seeing how you ARE STILL MARRIED and have been for a long time-------Thank him tell him you are flattered, that he shows signs of being interested however you would like to have some quality time to yourself before you become involved with someone else. If he is truly interested he will "respect" your wishes.
2006-12-24 05:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by nickle 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Watch out! He might be trying to take advantage of you since you are on the rebound from a long-term relationship. Don't jump into something quickly. You are bound to get hurt.
2006-12-24 05:31:58 · answer #7 · answered by Dizney 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you are flattered and not turning him down, but you're not anywhere near ready to take on a serious relationship and you need to take things slower.
2006-12-24 05:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're probably glowing "D I V O R C E"
Dont be foolish by hooking up with ANYONE. You're not even divorced yet. ENJOY what will become your newfound freedom!
2006-12-24 05:44:07 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
He sounds nice and acts like he is really into you.
If he doesnt ask you out soon then you ask him and make sure he know that you just want to get to know him better.
This will help YOU know what YOU want to do!
GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-24 05:43:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋