I just want a positve role model?

Question

I need so much as woman i feel like i can't get it from my family.
For example if i try to talk to my mom about what's going on with me she looks dumbfounded and says "well what do u mean" and when i try to break it done to her she still doesn't get it so i feel silly for even mentioning it to her! I love my family and i do alot to make their lives easier i just can't grow with them cause they do the same stuff ova and ova again and i'm past that. I'm at a point where i'm putting all that negative stuff behind me and trying to move forward heck i even put off dating for awhile! I just want some advice and how to deal wit this issue. Thank u and God Bless U.

Answer 1

go to famly counceling.

Answer 2

Well hon your not alone. Teenage years for girls and their Moms is not an easy time. You are growing up faster than your Mom wants to admit even to herself. I don't think that your Mom is trying to be difficult. It's just that things are moving so fast for you, it's hard for her to keep up. Communication is so important though with all family members. Just keep trying to find a way to talk to them. If one thing is not working for you try something else. Don't keep trying the same thing over and over if it is not working. It sounds like you are moving in the right direction and you seem to have a good head on your shoulders. Be patient with the family, they are doing the best they can. You have to remember one thing, you are pretty much just concentrating on your self and what is important to you. Your Mom, on the other hand, has an entire family to think of. Running the household, buying groceries, making meals, paying bills, cleaning the house, helping other members of the family, having time for your Dad or a boyfriend, working a job maybe. So cut her a little slack. It's not easy being a Mom and most Moms try to do their very best for their family. You will find out one day. God bless you too.

Answer 3

You know i'm in the same situation. You give and give so much you eventually lose site of yourself and your needs. And then you wake up and your realize your unhappy and don't like the path your life is taking. What i'm doing is taking some "me time". Putting everyone elses problem out the door while i get to know and love myself. You should too. Surround yourself around people who appreciate you, who you can sit down with have express your inner soul and thoughts knowin that they are going to listen and then give you positive feedback so you can move forward. Unfortunately sometimes that isn't family but that is ok. The main goal is for you to live your life happy.

Answer 4

The reason why your parents have a hard time understanding you is that they still see you as there litte girl. Sometimes it's hard for parents to understand that you are growing up and your having to deal with real life issues. Just talk about your problems to close friends that you have. You will have a better time understanding you then your parents.

Answer 5

Since your mom is not your role model, you need another of your choosing. There are many women that would be exemplary role models. What are the traits that you're particularly seeking.

Answer 6

Make yourself a role model.... read good books, think healthy things, pursue intellectual interests, be a good human being.

Answer 7

i definitely think you can find someone at church. go to a Christmas eve service and then go on Sundays. you will find someone that is a good role model.

Answer 8

You can talk to me if you need to. Mentoring is what I do. I have my own foundation that addresses situations like these. Feel free to visit my 360 site: http://360.yahoo.com/MissMojo26 if you need to talk, okay?