I recently got out of a bad 4 year relationship. Im currently in a new one but I keep finding myself at a loss for the previous one. I know I'm over her but I still feel like there wasn't proper closure. We broke up on good terms and we were really good friends until her new boyfriend found out that I am the "ex" and made her choose between being my friend or being with him. Well she chose him and we stopped being friends. Now that I'm with someone new, I tried contacting her but she took as if I'm not over her or that I'm stalking her. Am I being stubborn or should I just let her go as a friend forever???
2006-12-24 05:02:51 · 15 answers · asked by Hexx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
After we have been in a long term relation ship we are so use to seeing that person all the time. When it ends you do find yourself at a loss. I know it's hard for you not to see or speak with her but you need to put space between you two so you will get use to being without her all the time. Stop trying to contact her for awhile so she will know you are not stalking her. In a few months call her to see if she still can't be in touch with you because of her boyfriend. You don't want her to have hassles with her current bf. Give it time and maybe you can still be friends. Merry Christmas and I wish you the best!
2006-12-24 05:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
loves a ***** aint it. you obviously still care for her. I also have had that issue. but the girl i was with made her own decisions and chose not to be with the person that made her make that decision. Apparently the girl has made up her mind to let you go. 4 years in a bad relationship will do that to you. And I think you owe it to your new girl to be all about her or just try the single life for awhile, you might like it. It will certainly help you avoid situations like this in the future. But give it some time. Im not talkin a couple weeks, Im sayin at least six months. You never know, she might start missing you. Just dont push too much man, or you'll never get anywhere, except put on a restraining order. Good Luck.
2006-12-24 05:12:25 · answer #2 · answered by whtshdw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it makes sense to wait several months after ending one long-term relationship, before moving on to another one. This is precisely why it is recommended to wait.
You need to get your past girl-friend out of your system before you move on to the next.
Good Luck!
2006-12-24 05:07:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think her boyfriend probably thought that by being friends with you, she would one day break up with him to be with you. I think you should talk to her and tell her that you just want to friends and that exs CAN become friends. Ask her if she wants to be friends with you and tell her to think for herself, not have her boyfriend decide what she should be able to do.
Good luck
2006-12-24 05:06:11 · answer #4 · answered by michelleee♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look i had the same problem i also was in a 4 year relationship i know what your going through but you just have to move on with your life and just forget tell her that if she needs help she knows were to find you....... you can put your self on hold for her.........
2006-12-24 05:07:30 · answer #5 · answered by tea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its really becaze u were so used 2 her being around i mean 4years! ur just not used 2 it but u shud just move on
2006-12-24 05:06:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on life is to short to dwell on things in the past
2006-12-24 05:08:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion ex's should NEVER try to be friends after breaking up.
2006-12-24 05:05:46 · answer #8 · answered by kute_regina_gal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes let her go
2006-12-24 05:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by Richard e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with Sarbanes Ox
2006-12-24 05:05:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋