Do you think it's right or could you adopt a child of a different race to your own?

Question

Critics of iner racial adoption argue that it's impossible for someone of one culture to teach another culture because you have to live it in order to absorb it. The proponants of argue that children are hurt most by being left in the system to wait where the chances plummet that they will ever get adopted the older they get. A disproportionate number of adults who grow up in care are incarcerated, unemployed, do not finished high school and receive public assistance.

I personally think that somethin I read sums it up: When people say 'love is all it takes', they seem to overlook the impact race has on our society. Somehow when it's a case of adoption, race suddenly doesn't seem to matter anymore.

Answer 1

It doesn't matter, it's all good.
Anything that Madonna does is all right.

Answer 2

This is a well thought out question and it deserves a well thought out answer. So others who answer this question must know that this question deserves a well thought out answer. So haters and ignorant people, leave your 1 cents in your ever so minute brains!

Back to the question: I must say that the thought of being "colorblind" sound great in a utopian society, but we are far far from that. Dont get me wrong, I know that people adopt interracially everyday and I have personally seen it successfully happened. But the impact that race has on our American society is so large, that it can't be overlooked. Particularly blacks and whites. Of course if a white family wanted to adopt a black child, and the child was living in squaller or living in "the system," then I am all in favor. But I feel that if a black family also wanted the child, they should get he/she over the white family. Children who are black particularly, are in dire need of being taught self love, and love of their race first, at an early age, because all around them via the media, school, society in general, they are told that they and their skin color is inferior. A white person could easily teach them to love themselves, but the child will still want to be like his peers and family. This causes psychological as well as social problems growing up and they might even have an underlying racial hatred for themselves and not even know it. This is shown through straightening of the hair, vernacular, plastic surgeries, and lack of understanding racism even if it slapped them in the face. A person can talk to a child about racism, but unless they've experienced it themselves, they can never spot institutional racism, subtle and subliminal racism and the worst, intra racism by those of the same race.

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Answer 3

"Of course if a white family wanted to adopt a black child, and the child was living in squaller or living in "the system," then I am all in favor. But I feel that if a black family also wanted the child, they should get he/she over the white family."

Skin color should not be anywhere near as substantial a factor as environment. If I were putting my child up for adoption, I would be more concerned with who would provide a better environment. If a working class white family wanted my child, and a wealthy black family did as well, knowing both could provide I would prefer my child be with the wealthy family, even though they are not my race.
Most cultural identity comes from friends and the community, not the family unit. My peers played a much larger role in how I identify myself than my parents did, and I have seen this be the case with many inter-racial adoptions. Provided the child is exposed to their "native culture", there is really no issue. Allow them to choose how they want to live, just like you would your biological kid.

Answer 4

I personally don't understand the problem. My mother was a foster parent for years and she took in children of all races and they were all treated the same. She made sure that they read about their heritage. Most of these critics aren't trying to help these children, if it matters that much they should adopt these children themselves. The most important thing SHOULD be getting these children proper medical care, education and love, this will help them to succede. That's the problem with society, its almost 2007, race should not be this big of an issue anymore.

Answer 5

Biologically, we are all 99% the same. The most important thing that should matter when it comes to adoptions is the quality of life the family can give the kid, not anyone's skin colour--it's ridiculous to think that someone can't learn about his/her culture (which can vary between people of the same race) because he/she is raised in a family of a different race. Plenty of people out there don't only claim to be colourblind; they ARE.

Answer 6

i am a big supporter of biracial adoptions. First off I am tired of out out of control materialistic and bigotted culture and would like to see the government impose a 2 CHILD MAXIMUM per family with no exceptions, perhaps even sterilization after #2 but that is my thing. I am tired of the whiney white bitches who take 10 years to adopt, looking for the PERFECT BABY... while all the black and aisian cuties are available they are searching endlessly and paying $100K for the 'perfect' little bratty white pisser.

God I am beginning to REALLY hate this country. Have a Happy!

Answer 7

There is no reason why a person of one race cannot teach their child about another race.

Are you suggesting that knowledge of a culture is somehow transmitted through skin color?

Race does have an impact on our society - and as long as we look at different races as equivalent to different solar systems, it will continue to do so.

Answer 8

O.K. so love is all you need does not work for you however I personally know of many adults who raise a child of a different color or culture and the children do just fine and are loved and don't even seem to notice (internally) that they are different all they know is that they are loved. You can look past the color. My daughter often says why do people look at the outside the color shouldn't matter it is what is inside that counts she is 14 and very intellegnt for her age I wish we were all color blind

Answer 9

This whole thing about race is ridiculous. A child is a child. I am Hispanic, married to an African American and our child is bi-racial and I love him to death. Love is universal and sees no skin color. You can teach any child to love, to smile, to sing to play. We all belong to the human race. As far as culture that is something that we can all learn from each other no matter what.

Answer 10

honestly i think people have a problem with blacks adopting a child of a different race,i see white people adopting black kids all the time, do i agree with it? no