We live in an apt and the people above us constantly make noise ie:loud music, talking, walking around all night etc..he thinks i am making a big deal of it but it wakes both my son and i up. Hubby works nights so he never hears it. he wants to be everyones friend and ignores my anger over this. shouldn't he back me up and tell them to knock it off?
2006-12-24 04:50:09 · 35 answers · asked by Samantha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I should add his mother owns the building and all she worries about is her money! So my husband basically told the people they don't have to listen to me when I complain.
2006-12-24 04:56:34 · update #1
When your husband is sleeping, crank up the tv and stereo. Cook very loudly with pots pans etc. Vacuum the floor.
When he complains, just tell him its his problem, not yours!!
Maybe a light bulb will turn on.
2006-12-24 05:53:09 · answer #1 · answered by scott in minnesota 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so your husband has told them you are a whinging loon and they probably think all the noise is not as loud as you make it out to be,,he has been publicly disrespectful and bitched behind your back and this needs pointing out,,,he may feel he has saved himself from embarrassment and confrontation but if they ever do something really bad and it upsets you he wont be able to do anything,they now think he has little or no respect for his wife so why the hell should they.can you get your mother in law to come around and hear what they are like? surely she would rather face them than have you and your hubby at war with each other,,,,either that or when it gets bad,,go and knock on her door and stay there.....for all you know he has said the same to his mum,just to avoid confrontation and she could think you are tweaking the truth too.........knock her up and tell her the kids cant sleep at home because of the noise so they are staying with her,,,she may just come and listen.
2006-12-24 05:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he should back you up on that issue! Have you talked to the people, maybe they don't even know that they are being loud. When we lived in an apartment, our "neighbor lady" was always stomping around and playing rough with her dog at 11:00 at night. My husband did not want to yell at her right away because she is a girl living alone so when she was making the noise... he ran and stomped as hard as he could through the house. I think she got the hint because she decided to play with her dog outside and she did not really stomp around anymore. She finally apologized because she did not realize that the walls were so paper thin. Maybe you could ask them to be quieter at night, beat on the ceiling with a broom, or talk to the landlord. Maybe the landlord can talk to the people or move you into a different apartment and what is more fun than moving? Good Luck!
2006-12-24 05:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would:
1) talk to them nicely and let them know that the music sometimes wakes you up. Don't assume they know.
2) if they don't comply, call the police. It doesn't matter who owns the building, there are noise laws.
3) tell your Husband to grow a backbone.
2006-12-24 05:32:06 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he should. Like my husband, if it doesn't immediately effect him, he's not bothered by it. But my husband has been known to go upto bat for me by telling the neighbors to quiet down. I'd be frustrated as h*ll and threaten to move out...I can't live like that.. Do you think you could move to another apt in the building when one became available?
2006-12-24 05:25:25 · answer #5 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just make a complaint to the apt. managers and let them handle it? It's an unfortunate side effect of living in an apartment.
2006-12-24 04:54:55 · answer #6 · answered by Granny Fran 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. He should care about your concerns and discomfort. Loud neighbors can be extremely annoying, if they are not respectful of your living comfort. I would talk to the neighbors and tell them how it affects you, if they do not respect your wishes go to the housing managment. Loud noise can lead to eviction after several warnings.
2006-12-24 04:54:25 · answer #7 · answered by EM-water2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he should stand behind you ... but, that doesn't mean that he should be the one to confront them. You're an adult, and fully capable of handling the situation. Gawd, your apt. must have paper-thin walls/ceilings ... if you can even hear them talk or walk. Maybe ask them to whisper/crawl, when it's late at night? lol ... sorry, just kiddin'!!
Merry Christmas to everyone .... have a great one!!
2006-12-24 04:59:32 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Carol♥ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your husband should support you. The upstairs neighbors are probably unaware that they are annoying you and upon calling this to their attention, they may react properly and cut the noise. Good luck.
2006-12-24 05:02:19 · answer #9 · answered by alpha & omega 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your neighbors about this. Maybe ask them to try to be respectful that others are sleeping, after a certain time at night.
2006-12-24 05:23:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋