I feel all hope is lost this Christmas?

Question

For 4 years now i have had derpression and social anexity disorder, and they just wont go away, i have been put on many medication, read lots of self help books, seen many thearpist, tryed to look for retreats thats helps with derpression and social promblem, but they only seem to be abroad,i tryed doing the journey thearpy but most of the thearpist with them are far away, i am have been looking after my mum for 11 years, and finding i cant cope. i am trying to ask god for answers, but he seems to never reply, i am 4eva asking whats the point of life. i just need a sighns or some help, the key to the trapped door, that would be my greatest christmas pressent.
i dont know what to do.

Answer 1

It's just the time of year really, the expectation is so high that you SHOULD or MUST be out there having the greatest christmas ever, but here I am myself sitting alone & typing onto a screen. :0)

Do you get to go out much? do you have any other help who can help look after your mum and get you some time off to do other things?

To be honest you, are doing a SUPERB job in caring for your mum, many people will just walk away from a situation like that but you have the inner strength and the guts not to.

things will improve for you, winter will soone be over and then spring is just around the corner. sunny days and fine mornings when you open your curtains and the birds are singing out loud.

Answer 2

Get out of your house. Go for a walk in the park and really look at the children and the wildlife. Do something kind for somebody and walk away without expecting repayment.

One of your problems is you feel trapped into being a caregiver. You need to find out about respite programs where someone else comes in and cares for your mum for a day so you can get away. Also find out about adult day care.

Take up a hobby like painting, music, or writing. These will help you to see the beauty in the world. Focus on the beauty, not the bad things.

Answer 3

awful for you love. i suffer with severe depression to and all i can say is motivation and help from the doctors will help.
unfortunately tho u must help u r self.natur always get down to the basics the root of life.
if u take one step at a time day by day and look around you see even the simplest pleasures .like a tree blowing in the wind or look at the birds in u garden.
dont expect u r depression to end over night.however believe me nature and the simplicity of it helps.it really does.even if you step out and sweep the patio for 10 mins each day.one day at a time,but believe u have the ability to overcome u r fears.all the best x

Answer 4

Hi Purepink, if you're really lucky you'll get a special Christmas Violation Notice from Yahoo just to give you that necessary kicking once you're down.
Then, Mum'll suddenly turn round and say the brussel sprouts are too salty and not soggy enough.
And just when you think the whole world is ganging up on you, the TV goes on the blink, the computer crashes irretrievably and the dog craps in BOTH your favourite pairs of shoes.
So, you decide to go hibernate in bed, just to find burglars have stolen it, and when you 'phone the Police, they accuse you of selling it to pay for the brussel sprouts.
So you decide to go Carol singing in the ****-filled shoes, but a randy bear gets wind of it and starts chasing you thinking you're a spicy item to have cubs with.
Retreating into the nearest bar, you sit by yourself in a wee cloister hidden from the prying eyes (and noses) of other patrons, and then the fire alarm goes off chasing your amorous bear back into the woods.
Once outside you discover it was a false alarm 'cos someone got a nose-full of your shoes and decided that was the most diplomatic way to get rid of the putrid smell that you don't notice 'cos of the runny nose.
You head back home to make sure Mum's OK - but the Klingons have lain claim to your whole neighbourhood and put it under martial law.
They put you under house-arrest and start beating your Mum with the dog because it tried to crap in their shoes too (and Klingons don't like left-over sprouts either).

So, whats the moral of the story, I hear you plead.
Well, when you're feeling a bit down in the dumps, better to avoid feeding sprouts to any family member. It just leads to a whole lotta problems.

Take care, Purepink - 'cos I care:)))

Answer 5

God is there but you have too much crap you are focusing on so you are not focusing on him to find him.
Pray Pray and keep on Praying...he hears you even if you are unable to hear him yet.
Find some help to give you a break, take a holiday even at a neighbours house is ok it does not have to be expensive, it is not impossible, make it possible even if just for 2 or 3 days or soon others will be lookiing after you in the way you are looking after your Mom.
Go to a local church that you notice is busy ask for help there and ask them to help you hear what God wants you to hear. They might even be able to help you get some time for yourself. Many ordinary people are very willing helpers if they are given a place to help... SMILE it will help you feel better, focus on the one or two good things in your life, yes you can find some, a full tummy a place to live as a a start and think happy thoughts decide you really want to get out of the rutt you are finding yourself in and make consistent effort to pull yourself out of it....You can do it...you can

Answer 6

Hi I am sorry to hear you are feeling this way. As a person in recovery from depression and anxiety I would recommend you find yourself a human givens counsellor. Mine has been fantastic. You will find your way out of this situation but you need a little guidance that is all. You are capable of recovery and you are not your depression you are still you underneath. Human givens therapists will address any trauma and unresolved emotional needs not being met which in turn will make you better. Have courage and patience and faith in yourself and you will be ok. Good luck.

Answer 7

i'm very sorry you sense this way. yet, what has long gone incorrect could be placed acceptable. Please proceed conversing. How long did you spend with your therapists? on occasion it takes a protracted time to get even the smallest of advancements, so which you would be able to desire to attend and notice. Secondly, do you comprehend what's getting you down? 11 years is a protracted time to look after somebody. may well be you are able to desire to pay interest on your self for a rapid on an analogous time as, doing what you prefer to do. i comprehend you love your Mum, yet is there a social worker you are able to touch to rearrange respite for her, so which you have some area? some nursing properties in this section take people for an afternoon or so, and it quite is time you may desire to do a activity and meet people. save praying, on occasion God helps us in techniques we've not imagined. reliable success.

Answer 8

High Purepink , I,m really sorry that you feel so Unhappy , but I really do understand what you say , I find these feelings seem to come from "No-where" --- Sometimes the "Down" feelings suddenly appear even when everything is -- in reality - O K , and I find it difficult to "Lift" up - I usually try thinking of the Good things in my life to give me a better feeling and I think of those Poor Unfortunate folk who are Much , Much worse of than me ? Just try to be aware that God Loves you - and no doubt others Love you for who you are - I have Long ago found that the best form of relief is within my own Mind by Refusing to Allow "Dark Feelings" to take hold . this may not be much of an answer for you -- but it is the best I can do -- but as someone who has had many days of Sad Feelings - I can assure , and Promise you that these feelings can be Overcome by our own determination --- easy to say I know , but Please try to realise your own Value -- lets face it you must be a very Good Person to Look after your Mom -- Just think of the Goodness you have been able to give to her and how she would be if you wern,t there to Help and Comfort Her,, I Hope this little message will help to Cheer you up and help you realise that there are many good and kind people who will send you their Love and Good Feelings after reading your Question --- Please Accept my Best and Kindest wishes to You --- Love and Hope for Brighter Days to Come for you ..

Answer 9

One of the problems when you are focused on all the negative is that you can't or won't see the signs that are right in front of your face. Sometimes getting out of your own way is the best thing you can do. Do you want to see the positive in your own life? Go out and help people with real problems this season. Volunteer at a soup kitchen or attend some open support groups for people that have lost loved ones. The world doesn't revolve around you. There are lots of people out there with far worse lives. Sometimes it is the best way to appreciate your own.

Answer 10

i feel the same, first of all there is no god or you would not be like this,there is no therapy, its just somone earning to much by pining the blame on somthing from the past when all you need is medication because you just happend to be wired up wrong this is all my experience for what its worth.