do u ever feel like you cant go on living?

Question

like the world is closing around you and u were betrayed by ur closest friends

Answer 1

Yes, I have felt this way. Many times particularly of late. I hang in there because I have a daughter depending on me, and I know my family and friends would be hurt if I quit trying to make it. And none of them deserve such pain.

I would suggest you keep yourself busy for now. That way you can avoid reminders and not over analyze the bad things that happened. This leads to recriminations, and guilt and blaming yourself for the problem none of which are productive. Chances are, whatever happened, the other people bear at least equal responsibility, and perhaps more than that.

Remove anything that will remind you of what has happened so you will have fewer triggers for despair. If they are precious things, then put them away in a box in a closet somewhere that you will not see them daily, but they are still available if and when you are ready to take them out again. Avoid anything that triggers sadness, be it songs or certain activities.

Make sure to sleep at nights and to eat balanced meals, even if it is difficult. Don't overeat, but make sure you eat at least a sandwich and a salad for lunches and dinners. This helps keep anxiety at bay.

Once the pain has subsided, then you can see what happened with a more objective eye, and get angry about how those other people treated you. Then you can perhaps be better able to stick up for yourself and less apt to give in to despair.

This is a good time to rethink your life and decide on a more positive direction. You choose your friends. Make sure they support you in your new found life. Choose activities that make life worthwhile for you. Do something that makes you feel good. You have the right.

I hope there is at least one person you can share your feelings with, as this helps a good deal, to talk with someone who is going to be objective about your situation and who can help you see your way through. But if not, try writing in a journal. Writing the Natural Way has a lot of exercises that can help you explore your inner feelings and come to terms with them. I am working through the book mainly because I am a writer, but found it helped me understand myself better, and now I am at peace with some things I had not even realized were bothering me.

I would also suggest you decide on a hobby that's going to keep you too busy to dwell on painful sad things. It can be anything, but if it has light exercise, this is ideal. Exercise is a good mood booster. I picked gardening for mine. It gets me outside, and keeps me busy tending to something else besides my own problems.

Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Yes, I did. I even tried to commit suicide several times many years ago, but now I admit I wasn't really trying to die, but to get rescued. It's a cheap trick, and my rescuers were right to be mad at me for it.

If you feel you cannot go on living the way you have been, or the way you predict you will, then change things. You may need to focus on one relatively small thing at a time to change, but you can do it. You can do the self-analysis necessary to know what is the most important single change you can make, and how to go about making it.

You mention being betrayed by friends. So a high priority, I would guess, would be to find more reliable friends. Analyze what went wrong, where you met these people and why you originally thought you could trust them, and so on. Do not be unrealistic, either positive or negative, about what you might have done differently, but learn for next time.

How do you find people you can trust? Those with common values to you? Cautiously. Where are the clubs or organizations or events you could attend that would offer a wholesome common ground on which to meet people? If you belong to an organized religion, use it for this purpose, but don't put down your caution altogether: remember a person can lie about what they believe if they are really unscrupulous.

Take your time, and don't blame yourself. As they say, fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me!

Answer 3

Yes, I have my closest friend almost go all the way with my exboyfriend (bf at the time) when they were drunk and he was the one who told me, not her. And then I sat next to him on the computer as she sent him love messages to him and how ugly I was, how much of a slut I was etc. And then somehow, she got all my other friends to believe that i was somehow blamed. So you know what I did, I never spoke to them again, I just deleted all their numbers, got a new screename, avoiding their phone calls.

Cuz friends like that ARENT worth keeping. Anyone who talks **** behind your back and pretends to be nice to your face isnt worth being a friend. So if your feeling betrayed by your friends, then they aren't worth it. Just leave them, it may be hard since you've been friends with them for so long, but it will make you a better person and in the end, you'll feel better about yourself.

Answer 4

Yes, but when things seem the darkest, they always get better. You may feel like your whole world is coming apart but try to realize that all things are temporary-friends, school, whatever your problems are. In a few months or years, your life will be completely different and there will come a time when those friends will be a vague memory. Every age brings new friends and a fresh look at life if you look for them. Whatever you're going through will pass and life will get better. Hang in there!

Answer 5

It happens to most people at one time or another in their lives. You're going through a rough patch, but it will pass eventually. Try not to dwell on the people who have betrayed you, and find solice in the people who love and care for you. Life has it's twists and turns, and when one door closes another one opens. Keep your eyes open for that new door! Pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and get on with living your life to the fullest. The people who love and care for you would be devistated if you decided you can't go on living.

Answer 6

yes. i feel like that almost all the time and let me tell you something lilfrilly...life isn't quite as bad as you think it is. it could always be a lot worse. you could be homeless, starving to death, etc etc etc...lilfrilly, i dont know who you re but i know that you can make it through whatever hard times you think are on top of you. ur clostest friends may have betrayed you, but they are so not worth it if that's how they're gonna treat. make new friends and forget the old ones. dont let people put you down. live your life, have a ball, be yourself, you can have it all! i know you can make it through this! best of luck!

answer some of my questions too please!

Answer 7

Yeah. That happened a lot to me when i first moved here and started going to a public school. People who i really liked stabbed me in the back. This one girl erritated me so much that i told everyone to hate her. i told them all a lie about her and it really hurt her. and i didnt feel any better, i realized that she really didnt do anything. it was all lies, rumors. she was from india so people made fun of her. I learned that if your "friends" betrayed you then they were never really your friend. they were just using me, and using you now. i would ignore them and make new friends. friends that you know wont hurt you.
Good luck and Happy Holidays :]]]
Isabel

Answer 8

I've felt that way plenty of times but that's how life is: not perfect. I think when you have feelings like that to write in your diary and get your feelings out or just exercise (go for a run). Because life is short, you should enjoy it; it's not worth losing since you can't get another one.

Answer 9

yes luv, this has happened to me many times. I am in a really great group of friends, but sometimes i just feel like they don't treat me too well. we all have our differences and i just wish we could all accept everyone for who we are. i've been let down so many times by my best friend, but in the end, if you talk about it nad sort it out, you'll go back to having the good old times! hang in ther suga! Merry Christmas!

Answer 10

Yes, it was happened to me once. After that I do not make anymore friends, because I do not trust people anymore.