i cant give a speech becouse i become so scared and a lot when i stand in front of people,?

Question

how do i overcome this problem?

Answer 1

It can be very difficult standing up in front of people and speaking. But, it can also be very fun especially if you have something to say that you are interested in.

1. Know your audience. Are they your coworkers? executives? classmates?

2. Prepare your talk carefully so you explain your subject clearly and thoroughly, but don't drive it into the ground. If you are debating and expecting someone to come back at you with a rebuttal or challenge be sure to steal their thunder. Anticipate their criticisms and include those points (and your solution) in your speech.

3. Remember most people don't give a hoot about what you are talking about; so don't worry about them fixating on you or your speech. They're probably all thinking about lunch, or about that chick they just saw at the water fountain. I find this reality rather comforting in a weird way :-)

4. Speak clearly and let your normal accent, intonations and timbre come through.

5. Speak loud enough to be heard without straining your voice or yelling.

By the way, you can increase the volume and power of your voice by supporting your voice with breaths from your diaphragm and letting your voice rest down in your throat or chest instead of up your mouth. Practice this at home at first so you get used to the different ways your voice can sound, based on where in your torso, throat or head you project your voice.

6. Involve the audience - make eye contact with individuals, smile (or glower if you are giving a fire and brimstone sermon)

7. Relax and have fun

8. Look at your notes every once in a while, but don't just read them

9. Add in visual aids to help make your point and capture the audiences' imaginations or keep their attention.

Answer 2

First of all.. people never know just how nervous you are. I have given many speeches/talked in front of large groups many times and I have been at least a little nervous and no one has ever suspected.
1. Practice saying your speech alone, then in front of friends over and over until you feel a little more at ease.
2. Write little notes on your speech such as when to pause (Pauses are very important) and remember it is ok to look at your notes about half of the time as long as you remember to make plenty of eye contact.
3. When you do make "eye contact" stare just in the middle of the person's forehead, that way you are not looking directly into their eyes and they will never know the difference. You can also choose certain people in the room that you are comfortable looking at and look at them more often.
4. If you are making a timed speech, get someone to signal to you when you are approaching your time, giving you plenty of time to wrap it up without sounding hurried. If you skip a few things no one's going to know.

Visualizing people naked and all those old tricks don't work. The only thing that does is practice and remembering no one knows just how nervous you are!

Answer 3

You'll get a variety of answers such as imagine your audience all to be naked or in their underwear but the fact is you just need to know your subject. If you are confident that you know what you are talking about, once you get started you'll get on a roll and be just fine. I always start by asking a question of the audience. For instance if you are talking about Bigfoot you might ask if anyone believes in bigfoot and get many No's in response. Then ask why and the most common will be they have never seen it or it has never been scientifically proven. Then ask them if they believe in God. Most will and the circumstances are the same. Now you have a starting point for your argument and you have taken control before losing it. It works the same with business talks as long as you have the material and knowledge to counter most arguments.

Answer 4

Firstly calm down, then make sure you are prepared with notes or flash cards with reminders on, then either pick one person you know or some one sitting at the back of the room and speak to them, if possible get someone you know to be there but if not look into the audience and find someone who you feel you could talk to then zone in on them, if this does not work try looking at the wall at the back of the room about half way down and speak to that, i have used all of these and they do work, the only other thing i can suggest is practice on your family no one is perfect we all make mistakes so don't worry as the more you worry the worse it will be. hope this helps

Answer 5

Just do a few things different. The most important is to never memorize a speech. It is best to open with a basic summery statement. Then use bullet points of subjects that you will talk about. Then end your speech. You have to practice ,and you will eventually get good at it. Take it from me, I used to have a serveve phobia of public speaking, but got over it.

Answer 6

grab a ipod and a small ear piece and have your favourite songs playing softly in one ear while you give your speech!
If that fails picture the audience naked! (but try not to laugh!)

No, seriously, the ipod things good (calming) but if you cant do that have a friend in the audience that you can focus on so you feel like you are simply talking to them or ...get there early and stick a focal feature that you will be able to see somewhere it the back of the room. turn your head often to make it LOOK like you are addressing the whole crowd but keep your eyes on your "focal feature" to avoid getting nervous. Good Luck :-)

Answer 7

I get like that too. Sometimes you need to just close your eyes, and get out what you need to say. When you say a speech, whats the wrost people can do? Kill you? So what if they make a couple jokes, by the time your dead, you'll bond to have had wayyy more then just a couple people make fun of you. Good Luck next time you make a speech!

Answer 8

You know, one of the most helpful things for me was this....
If I had to get up and talk in front of a group of people I knew that most of them if not all of them didn't know me. So since they didn't know me they had no preconceived notion of who I was. It dawned on me that I could present myself as someone who had no problem standing up in front of people and talking. So that's what I did. I acted as if I was someone who did this all the time and pretended that I was quite comfortable with groups of people. It worked for me. I think my fear of speaking came from fearing negative judgment from the audience. Once I was a super speaker in my own mind the rest was easy.

Answer 9

I know you got some wonderful answers that I myself get benefit of them. But I 've also heard that there is some medication prescribed by doctors to help you get over your hesitation when talk to people and give you such calm and peace mind. I know people would say oh no no no medication but believe me it is just one pill it's not drug or alcohol. I would do that if I have to give a speech.

Answer 10

in the 80's I saw a poll which stated more people were afraid of giving a speech than they were of nuclear war . go figure. practice in front of your family that might help.