I paid £150 for New Year tickets for and friend and myself. She had no cash so i said i pay for them until her next payday. She has now dropped out and is ignoring my requests yo pay at least her share. I can really afford to be £150 down as im saving for a house. Am i out of order to ask for this money? As im beginning to feel like a cow for it. I have now found out shes just got back with her ex and will be seeing him new year. Is it time to ditch this friend?
2006-12-24 02:44:00 · 30 answers · asked by scarlett0811 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just to clarify before i brought the tickets i asked her if she definately wanted to come and she said yes as she was really looking forward to it.
2006-12-24 02:52:07 · update #1
Tell her to go and "run up the proverbial shutter"! i.e. get shot of her.
2006-12-24 04:16:58 · answer #1 · answered by nosmo king 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not out of order asking for the money she agreed to go and you were nice enough to pay in advance so she could go, but it looks like she has decided that she would prefer to be with her ex, you do not say if she has been a friend for long but in my opinion friends do not do this to each other she should a the least had the courage to tell you she did not want to use this ticket or try and find some else who did, I,m sorry to say it but i would ditch her as it seems she has used you just for when she did not have a man on the scene.
2006-12-24 10:51:25 · answer #2 · answered by Adele 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think SHE's out of order here.
This is a lot of money were talking about, not £10 which you could just forget about it.
I think she has a duty to either pay you back or help you sell them at a reduced cost where she makes up the diffrence.
I would be furious with her, i've had experiences where close friends have borrowed money from me and never paid it back.
They are now no longer my friends.
I suppose you have to look at the relationship and decide if this amount is sufficient enough for you to call it a day, you also need to take into account her attitude, stubbornness, lack of commitment to you as a friend, etc, etc, it goes on.
I'm not sure how old she is but would it be worth speaking to her parents or someone else who is close to her?
At the end of the day, you might just have to write it off, the money and the friendship.
2006-12-24 10:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I must come from the wrong generation because if I was still saving to buy a house there is not way I would spend £150 or even £75 on a new year party.
2006-12-24 10:49:19 · answer #4 · answered by Maid Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did she definitely say she wanted a ticket and would pay you back? If she did then you are not out of order to ask her for the money, she is not being a good friend if she does not pay you back.
2006-12-24 10:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by clairelou_lane 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't think you are out of order, but I'd wait until the day after Christmas to call her up and tell her that you really need your money back.
As for "ditching" the friend for someone else, ask yourself if she has any redeeming qualities or if she's an all-around horrible person that deserves to indeed get ditched.
2006-12-24 10:49:40 · answer #6 · answered by cameron p 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Something about money is whenever you lend some to anybody, make sure you can do without it, because the chances are it can take you for ever to see any of it back if you ever do.
No, I don't think it's worth breaking your friendship over that.
Put it down to experience, and make sure you are very careful who you lend money to in the future.
I think that different people brings you different things.
With her it won't be money, and some other things you will already know about, but maybe she is great fun? someone that makes you laugh, specially when you're down?
If there's nothing you like about her, obviously, move on and leave her behind.
2006-12-24 11:02:50 · answer #7 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ur not out of order at all. ask her for the money a few times more and if she doesn`t pay up then forget about her. i`d never treat a friend like the way she`s been wiv u. i hope u get the money back
2006-12-24 11:24:43 · answer #8 · answered by groundhog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask for the money cuz you bought it for her as she had no money and now she doesnt want to go ... so she couldnt do that if she paid for it herself give her the ticket and demand the money or find someone else to go with and ditch her and shes being a Biyatch :D not you hunnie x
2006-12-24 13:57:15 · answer #9 · answered by lady kia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but unfortunately your friend might be 'out of order'.
She may have already dumped you. If so, you have no choice in the matter but to accept the termination of this friendship. She is worth another call, but if you get the same response, move on and find another friend. I am confident that you will.
2006-12-24 11:05:01 · answer #10 · answered by €sote®i© ™ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Did she ask you to buy her a ticket? If so, she owes you the money. If not, and you bought the ticket for her on your on will, that is a gray area. But out of decency, she should offer to pay. Why not put the extra ticket on ebay.com or craiglist.com, you will for sure sell it.
2006-12-24 10:47:09 · answer #11 · answered by Frank Rizzo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋