Why do people get married?

Question

when they are not ready and then wonder why their life is ruined a few years later by divorce and bring kids in the mix. SELFISH jerks ...all of you that fit this description.

Answer 1

Because they want to make the strong commitments !!!

Answer 2

Hopeless,
Isn't it funny how other people pass judgment on others because they made a mistake? Do you know why people get married? If you did, you wouldn't make such remarks; A man and a woman are attracted to other by human nature and then they unite as one to share there lives together (because it doesn't work out is not why they get married). And yes people are selfish but that is self inflicted and society has given that great help over the years. The next time you see a man or a woman you know holding hands (they don't have to be married) ask them why it is they hold hands? Is it insecurity or is it love? I'll bet it's the latter of the two (an attraction psychically and emotionally). There are people who don't even get married who bring children into the world and don't take care of them. Please try and look at other people and other situations before you pass judgment on others who marry. You need to worry more about yourself and make your life as good as you can. Your not hopeless you just need improvement. Merry Christmas!

Answer 3

People get married, most often, because they believe themselves to be in love. After some time together, in a day to day relationship with the other person, they sometimes realize that they aren't in love with that person. People have always been known for "changing" and changing their minds about marriage is no different than anything else. It's better that they end the relationship, though, than to live in a house that is at odds with itself. If you're not HAPPILY married, I don't believe you should stay married... even though some religions and people believe differently. And, I really don't believe that people who decide they don't want to be married are selfish jerks, but merely normal humans who have changed themselves or, at least, changed their minds about how they want to live their lives.

Answer 4

You are prob. a result from this like me my parents say they will get a devorce all the time it makes me so upset and even the pressure from being in junior high school adds on I have to much stress from being in my house cause of my parents there fights and selfish threats they are jerks for it and I cant take being around them. You are probably a person just like me huh and I feel so so so so srry for it I wish that everyone in this world would only marry when they are ready even if it meant me not being here. It is ruining my life and prob. urs to i understand so much u will never knoe how much i understand my parents threaten divorce evry month and then when they dont do it it makes it worse cause then they just get in fights it sux i thought i was the only one im srry if u are one of the ones to :(

Answer 5

I don't think anyone goes into marriage thinking it will end in divorce and the kids will have to go back and forth. Who wants to be divorced? Who wants to break up their kids family? I think people make honest mistakes and then life happens. Sometimes people grow apart and change. I think when you get married you should be able to grow together, but some people can't. It's life.

F.Y.I I am not divorced. I have been married for almost 5 years and marriage is hard, but it is also worth it.

Answer 6

People marry to have a social status.

One does not necessarily fit under SELFISH jerk when it takes "two" to say "I do" and to enter into marriage.

This has nothing to do with the kind of life you live at home. In most cases people marry too young to know better. When they learn it is too late. Divorce it is the only way out of a mistake made by two (ignorant) people.

Answer 7

Well they don't know they're not ready because they're in love. Only those looking from the outside in have opinions of "it won't work". They get married so they can tag team life together. The power of 2 is stronger than one. It is sad that some do breakup, but there's nothing wrong with those initial feelings they felt, that influence them to tie the notch and work as a team. Some relationships just don't work out. Just ask Alan Iverson or Terrell Owens. :-)

Answer 8

Because they have a preconception that it will work. They may think that we can make it work, and not be as strong emotionally as they may. I personally hate when I see children coming from a divorced home. It puts a strain on innocent children. But people don't get married on purpose, so they can see what a divorce is like. So in a way it is just the people react too fast withou thinking if they can really handle it.

Answer 9

Oh yes, I fit into that description, me, the 18 year old, never married, single, young woman. I am such a selfish jerk that gets married when I'm not ready.

People get married because they feel as if they found their soulmate. People change and things change with time, sometimes feelings just don't stay the same forever.

Answer 10

I got married at 20 basically because I was pregnant. I had known my now husband for only a month when we conceived. We were married 4 months later. It's been 4 years, and we couldn't be more happy. We have a wonderful, healthy relationship and love our daughter dearly. How does that make us selfish???

Answer 11

shelfish people are people that never even try to commit themselves to something better than themselves. Marraige is a dying tradition. It doesn't mean that a unmarried couple after years of being together wouldn't still come across the exact same problems. Plus their is a lot of pressure from family and brides to be to get married in a lot of situations. Don't try to generalize why people get married. There are too many reasons. Why do people got to church? Too many reasons and many people have different opions about it