He says I better not go out with so-n-so or bring so-n-so around our 10 year old daughter etc. I haven't dated in 15 years. I've been divorced from him for 8. He is evil and scary. He says its his territory....me and our daughter. He is a mentally sick man; a bum; a narcissist; an alcoholic. I am afraid of him. He dates trash and I have asked him not to bring our daughter around the trash. I don't date trash. I am scared and confused. He says he doesn't want any other man around his kid telling her what to do (like he did to my first child) and talking strange beliefs to her. I think what he is really saying is, "I don't want you dating because I am afraid that our daughter will figure out that there are other really good men out there and that I (her father) is a piece of s@*%!". He is so sick that he even said to our daughter, "You watch, your mom is going to start sleeping with this guy and having sex with him". He ran my first ex off and verbally bashed my first kid.
2006-12-24 01:53:27 · 11 answers · asked by Titanic112406 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a restaining order. Take his sorry *** to court. Take custody of the child with either no visitation for dad or make him go to supervised visitations. He is no role model for your daughter espeically if he is saying those things to her about you. She is at an impreshionable age right now. Take authority and do something about it. Prove to the judge that he is all those bad things you said.
2006-12-24 03:20:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The welfare of the child is most important.
Talk to a social service agency. Learn and know perfectly his rights and limitations as a parent/father.
Decide once and for all that you must give the child to him to raise or separate them as much as the law will allow. This is not something you can control alone.
Check with your police to see if they have an anti-stalking detective available. Repeated acts of a threatening nature may constitute a felony which might control him until the child is nearly an adult.
You currently live in danger and fear. Never stop asking for help until you know you and your children are safe.
2006-12-24 10:20:57 · answer #2 · answered by Happy Camper 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you can prove he threatened you than get a no contact order if he breaks the contact order his add will be locked up. My heart goes out to your daughter being stuck in the middle. On the other side if this I think you deserve to be happy too so if you are ready to date go out there and date.
2006-12-24 09:59:53 · answer #3 · answered by Marina 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are right in your thoughts,,he doesnt want his kids finding out he is rubbish so keeping anyone good from them works for him,,,,you may be scared but really for your own sanity you have to get a grip,,he will continue to tell you what to do as long as he knows he has that mental hold on you and after 8 years,,he really does have a hold,,,,,you may have to resort to calling the police if theings go wrong because you cannot go through life with someone out there thinking they can click their fingers and you will bark like a dog,,,the kids are growing up and will make up their own minds,,what then? what will you do when they tell him,"i dont want to see you this week/anymore" they can do then as they like but will this man leave YOU alone,,will he still want to play with your head,will he still dominate your life so as to stop another man warning him off? it will be hard but you have to show him this is your life and he doesnt have a say anymore,,take control and you tell him how it is going to be from now on,,if he doesnt like it....tough,your life your decisions.MAKE THE BREAK. your kids know you and they know their father and they will more than likely not believe a word he says anyway,,,kids may not say much but they see and hear everything and they would want you to get your life back to give them the strength to stand up for themselves as they get older,,you may feel downtrodden but really,,are you broken yet?doesnt sound that way.
2006-12-24 10:19:50 · answer #4 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time to get an attorney involved. What has he threatened to do if you do date? What are his intentions? If he threatens to kill you, beat you, then you have grounds for a restraining order. He has no right to tell you who you can date. He lost that priviledge long ago. Remind him that you 2 are divorced and he does not control you. You have allowed him to bully you for too long. Take your life back!
2006-12-24 10:02:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You have been divorce 8 years? I would seek legal council. I wouldn't put with his trash. You need to contact a woman's shelter. They can best advise on what to do with an abusive jerk like your ex.
2006-12-24 09:59:07 · answer #6 · answered by Constance Olivia 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your divorced 8yrs, and your still letting this thing run your life?? Where's your back bone girl. What is your daughter learning?? Step up, tell him to step off!!!!!!!! You've got to teach your daughter that men don't treat women like the thing does!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-24 10:06:16 · answer #7 · answered by mamaexfour 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Restraining Order? LOL Read the book Dial911 and Die. Only Restraining Order that works is "STOP OR I'LL BANG BANG BANG SHOOT"
2006-12-24 15:42:47 · answer #8 · answered by lost 1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
seel legal advice and have him put under a rstraining order. He is harrassing you and physically harming others around you. He can go to jail for that.
2006-12-24 10:17:02 · answer #9 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get out of there, this guy is no man he's just a wanna be, you have needs to 8 yrs. that's along time, just get help and get out of there, best of luck !!!!!!
2006-12-24 10:06:56 · answer #10 · answered by hardroader67 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋