I have this group of friends who never listens to me and I've been hanging with them for two years. Even if I talk to them they will change.. only after the day i talk to them then they will go back to normal. I feel like i'm just being used. I'm more like the inferior of the group, shy type, quiet, observant but no one seems to notice that our group lacks communication. I accept what they are but i cant stand waiting for them always. i've been thinking about leaving the group even if i'd be a loner. i dont really care. anyway, for more details read some things on this site...
http://www.mygothicheart.com/user.php?uniqid=15998c792cff&view=blog
Thanx for your time...
2006-12-24 01:42:42 · 13 answers · asked by Owen Geiscelle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm turning 17 in 20 minutes does that make any difference?
2006-12-24 02:14:02 · update #1
Hey! Its Christmas here already! (Philippines) Happy Birthday to me! ! ! Merry Christmas everybody!
2006-12-24 02:52:10 · update #2
Chick-a-dee, if you think you are being used, then you are. Ideally friends are supposed to be nice and fun. But, in reality, they can be mean and hurtful. My guess is that you don't really have that much in common with these girls and that you just want to be accepted for who you are. That's not going to happen here. You can't have your strawberry chocolate cheesecake and eat it too... mmm. Either you or who you hang with will have to change. Talking about your insecurities only pushes you further down to the bottom of the group. You should find another group of girls. Join some clubs or sports at school. Meet people who you have a common interest with. Don't betray these new friends if you old group gives you the chance. They will only want you back to show that they control you. They don't!!
2006-12-24 02:10:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to sound condescending, although you'll look back at this moment in your life with fondness. Note that this is just part of growing up. I'm 10 years older than you are, I looked at your profile and I was very similar at your age with VERY VERY similar thoughts on my friends as well and I was into metal (still am) and gothic and whatever. When you go off to college, things will change, new friendships will arise and different expereinces will bloom.
Do your self a favor and don't take anything socially seriously. It's fine practice but all this won't apply in a few years.
2006-12-24 10:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by matthaumschild 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to find a new group that will listen to you and take what you have to say to heart for friends listen to one another and have good communications even the ones that are the shyer ones out of the group or the less out there type of people.You need to find a group that accepts everyone for who they are and takes everyones feelings into consideration instead of just there own. Hope you find yourself a good group to get into for I know I have. Merry X Mas
2006-12-24 09:56:20 · answer #3 · answered by outlawprincess5321 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you want to be a leader but are too shy to lead on your own. All groups have a dynamic and a leader. Its always easier to stay the course than change. For you to join a group and then try to influence their way of thinking to align with yours is an uphill battle and people dont change unless they really want to change because they dont like who they are. These people like themselves and wont change. Start your own group rather than trying to influence a group that already exists.
2006-12-25 11:22:42 · answer #4 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they're true friend because real friends won't do that. Talk to them and see what they have to say and if you really want to stay with them, then do. If not, find some other friends.
Good luck
2006-12-24 12:33:49 · answer #5 · answered by michelleee♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True friends and friendship are not mentioned in you question.
True friends and friendship are not able to found in 21th century. Really new generation people didn't understand about the friendship.
Friendship mean understanding.....now you can't find in our new generation group's.
2006-12-24 09:57:50 · answer #6 · answered by M.R.Palaniappa 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
leave the group. you never know, you might find a better one who respects you. or maybe you will even create a new group!
2006-12-24 09:47:47 · answer #7 · answered by arw 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Leave them, go out and be with people who value your opinions and ideas.
2006-12-24 09:50:51 · answer #8 · answered by Rocky 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well that poem is great , I would say you have alot of talent don't let other's run you'r life just to fit in !!!!!!! good luck
2006-12-24 09:56:52 · answer #9 · answered by hardroader67 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If these people dont really listin to you then they oviously arn´t really your friends.maybe you should try explaining it like this to them and if they stilll dont listin then you should consider trying to find some new friends...
2006-12-24 09:47:13 · answer #10 · answered by SpanishBoi 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋