When there are no serious problems in the marriage? He said he was unhappy and that his needs were not being met. But he put absolutely nothing into his relationship. He expected romance and intimacy but he did nothing to show his wife that he cared at all. Now he is living with the other woman - he claims he is happy but is it possible? He walked away from everything he loved for a piece of a$$. How long can he be happy with that?
2006-12-24 01:30:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think a man can physically leave his wife and kids but will always be with them emotionally. I am sure part of his ego is bruised and he feels guilty for leaving his family. But you are family so you will always be a part of his life.
It is common for me to take advantage of women. They expect intimacy and romance but they don't always reciprocate it. When they meet someone who gives and doesn't expect or want anything in return, then it's just less complicated. He may be happy because he doesn't have to try hard to please the other woman. And since she doesn't have kids, she can devote all of her spare time to him.
From what you wrote, he was unhappy being married. Whatever was missing in his relationship, he found with someone else. No one knows how long he will be happy. I am sure he feels guilt for destroying your family, shame for giving up on his wife, and he will miss things about you.
2006-12-24 09:20:46 · answer #1 · answered by blue eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally ,,and you can disagree with me here,,,i think sometimes what we think we want within a relationship isnt actually what will make us truly happy,,for instance,,you have someone who is a livewire,,funloving,frisky if you will,,they may think for them to be happy they also need someone with these same qualities but when they get that person,,it isnt the life they may have thought it was going to be,,no one takes the responsibility for the boring stuff,,the bills,,no one takes life seriously so the life they do have seems fraught with nothing stable,,yes,they have a great time having fun,,leaving all the bad at home but lets face it,,for a successful relationship to work ALL aspects of running a home,raising kids,paying the bills have to be met and if you dont have a partner who can give you the parts of yourself that are lacking it is doubtful the relationship will work,,everyone has qualities some good some bad but as long as together you have the whole in two parts chances are things will work out,,but both have to want the relationship to work and relationships are work but as 'they' say,,'nothing worthwhile comes easy'.at the minute he indeed may be happy but long term????running to someone who isnt like what you have just left doesnt always plan out the way you think.........grass is greener syndrome.
2006-12-24 01:49:45 · answer #2 · answered by lex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tha bottom line is when u fall in love and then bring children into tha picture, u need to set aside happiest 4 yourself and live 4 your children and god because if ur child is happy with his mom an dad being together then u should be able 2 be happy but only if both of u are trying because if only 1 is trying then it want work people its time to bring god into ur lifes and just love each other and quit making excuses about why u are not happy because ur only as happy as u allow ur self to be
2006-12-24 05:56:51 · answer #3 · answered by bd4arms 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure how long he'll be happy. Guilt and sorrow will find him eventually.
It's easy, however, to blame the other person. A Marriage is of two individuals, but since I wasn't there I can't judge anything. I can't help but look at one side of the story. But infidelity in all forms is wrong and hurtful especially since there's kids involved.
2006-12-24 01:37:43 · answer #4 · answered by matthaumschild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if the truth were known, he left you because he was not or no longer in love with you. In many cases, men leave to find fulfillment elsewhere. They also may leave for the sake of keeping peace and not desiring to have the kids live in an environment where there is conflict and/or strife.
2006-12-24 03:09:09 · answer #5 · answered by curiousJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how good the piece of *** is.
Seriously, from your comments he did you and the kids wrong. He will regret it one day. It won't be easy at first, but speaking from experience you will get over him, go on with your life and be better for it. His life will be cursed for what he has done (he will never find happiness) and you can have some gratification in knowing that.
2006-12-24 01:38:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely he can. It sounds like not only are his needs not being met, but he may not have been ready, or even just doesn't want the full time responsibility of children. They are great, but they are HARD WORK! lol It can be a number of things...but if your feeling not wanted, not loved, not appreciated....oh yes I know from experience, it isn't easy, but it can be done.
2006-12-24 01:37:53 · answer #7 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about the sex. It's sad when this happens and kids are involved. Time for you to move on. Just make sure he helps take care of the kids.
Don't marry someone that you don't want to have sex with at least once a week, forever.
2006-12-24 01:37:48 · answer #8 · answered by swingfromhips 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh- you know it sounds like he has some serious issues within himself. If he wasn't contributing to your marriage and got nothing out of--how can he with the nex--he will probably bounce around until he confronts whatever it is and eals with it--by then it will be too late for you and him and his kids.
2006-12-24 01:44:45 · answer #9 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll be back knocking on your door before long. These things almost NEVER last! If I were you, I would tell him to "keep on stepping," because most likely, he'll just cheat again. Once a person starts cheating, it's hard to get them to stop! Good Luck!!
2006-12-24 02:49:51 · answer #10 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋