how to handle divorce?

Question

Im 11 and my dad is a raging ahcaholic and my parents are getting devorce any tips on how to handle this.

Answer 1

just think that it isnt all ur fault and they are doing it for the best, theyre doing it not because of you but so you can have a better life. your dad will probably get sent to a place where alchohaulics go so they wont be as addicted. im also 11 and my parents got a divorce, i was sooo sad and i thought it was my fault but it wasnt. they are doing this because they love you not because you are tearing them apart.

Answer 2

This must be hard for you love, Your dad has a problem that he can`t control, your mum has had enough and rightly so, There is only so much a person can take living with an alcoholic, they can be very abusive and violent and also spend all the money on alcohol when it should be spent on food and bills.
I don`t know how well you get on with your dad ... but don`t lose contact with him, even if it`s just a phone call. He won`t be there one of these days, his kidneys will pack in.
You sound like a very sensible person, the only tip i can give is to stay calm and help your mum through this time (hoping that you get on with you mum)
I`m sure your dad was just a normal man without a drink problem at one time, are his parents still alive ?? If so perhaps you can ask them when/why he started drinking, maybe your mum knows.
I hope things go well for you, this will be a stressful time for both you and your mum. take care and let me know how you go on if you have time.

Answer 3

The first thing you need to remember is: The Divorce is NOT YOUR FAULT. I would say your dad's drinking problem is probably one of the biggest reasons for the divorce. Drinking always causes problems. You may not want them to be divorced , but this might be the best thing for everyone. Maybe your mom has tried to help your dad alot and nothing is working. Unless your Dad wants to get help there is nothing anyone can do for him . I know this is not easy for you , but you will be fine. You know your dad has a drinking problem, and I am sure you have been around him to see this is not a good thing. You seem to be a pretty smart kid. Keep you chin up and help out your mom all yoou can and you will get thru this.

Answer 4

I'm a mom of 4, you don't have to handle the divorce, that's between your folks! The thing you have to KNOW, is that it really has nothing to do with you, people fall out of love!! It's difficult and sad, but not your problem. Just be a great kid, be respectful to both parents, and remember your dad has a disease!! Your mom is doing the right thing, so go give her a hug and thank her for keeping you safe, then hug dad and just say, sorry. I hope you have a great Christmas!!! Your a brave young man!!!

Answer 5

i'm really sorry. i went through that and i'm sure 7/10 people reading this have come across this situation one stage or another. what you learn is that it's not your fault and that there's completely nothing you can do. if your dad lays a finger on you or your mum, please call the police. talk it out with a trusted teacher or friend. feel free to contact me if you need an ear. in spite of everything, i hope you have a merry christmas. :)


p/s: we grow up and learn not to make our parent's mistakes.

Answer 6

Hi James , am really sorry about that. you answered my question about life story so i will answer this one.
try talking to them , don't just set down and agree , that is wrong you have to remained them that you are still a teen and you need help and you need parents .
best wishes and Good Luke

Answer 7

Just wait and see how things turn. Don't react. Express your love for both of them. Tell you father that you love him and wants him to live longer for your sake. You'll learn a lot by yourself by simply watching without reacting

Answer 8

Decide who you want to live with.