HE IS NO MORE WITH HER FROM LAST 1.5 YEARS BUT PSYCOLOGICALLY I M DISTURB WHAT TO DO....
2006-12-24 01:14:17 · 8 answers · asked by sara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't carry the baggage of the past. Now your hubby has a new girl friend and that's you. Several people in this big world would have had a girlfriend or two at one point or the other and all these in their quest for true love and they move on with their life when they find a new love, leaving behind the old one's. Perhaps he has found a true love in you and you should be happy. Take care of him, be considerate, don't remind him of his past girlfriends, lest it triggers him to go after it again. As years go by all will be forgotten. Forgive him & be happy. Good Luck
2006-12-24 01:21:22 · answer #1 · answered by Kushal-Know All 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. It took time to get an old boyfriend out of my life who was a womanizer who kept on phoning me and trying to be a control freak.
Trust me you will never ever feel at peace even if you seeked counselling, a cheating mate does not know how much negative impacts they make in your life.
To me, I was not happy and probably would still not be happy if I did not leave. You get over people by leaving and you give your power away by living in a relationship that is full of anger. You are cheating yourself from true happiness by staying in that relationship. That is why I refuse to even speak to my ex-husband, it is best that things remain this way. My ex was duped by many women after awhile, yet he cheated on a women that once truly loved him which I felt very destroyed after awhile.
Free your soul! Get some girl power buddy!
2006-12-24 09:27:52 · answer #2 · answered by Emily L 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should talk to him about it. I don't think i would be able to stay in the relationship, due to how jealous i would be. And i would also look at him like a pig everyday, and i don't think i could be in love with him anymore. I would leave him, but i would have left him 1.5 years ago. If you still want to save the relationship, then try to get him to go to couples counseling with you. I think it will take A LOT of work for you to be comfortable with this. Good Luck, i hope he decides to go with you to counceling.
2006-12-24 09:21:12 · answer #3 · answered by Stark 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Three options here....
One.. learn how to forgive him, with help and support from a professional, it is possible....
Two..live with this hole in your heart and never really get over his indiscretions, which will make for a long unhappy life together...
Or Three.. move on and start over, free your heart from this pain you feel day to day.....
Its really up to you.....its your decision!!
Take care....hope everything works out for you!!
2006-12-24 09:59:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you never stated if he had this GF while you were married.
If you weren't married at the time, who cares.
If you were married at the time, he's a louse and you should find someone else on the sly. Then dump him in a way that maximized his pain... like on his birthday or something.
2006-12-24 09:23:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
depends how much u love him, u will always remember this as it hurt u alot. but the past is the past, and if he is truly repentive, and his actions show it, forget the woman, and take back your power, he chose u, not her. all this has made u loose your self confidence, and hurt your self esteem, it's normal, but move past it, forget about her, she is gone now, and u got your prayers answered.
2006-12-24 11:05:26 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get even and have an affair. You'll feel much better.
2006-12-24 09:19:57 · answer #7 · answered by swingfromhips 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to look at yourself, not him!
2006-12-24 09:18:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋